guilt for no reason

anybody ever still feel a guilty feeling in ur chest kinda like anxiety even if u didn’t do anything wrong? i told the truth to my bf about smthng and my brain keeps making me feel like i lied even though i haven’t. im honest with him about everything, but my brain is telling me the only way to get relief is to admit to lying but i didn’t lie so it wouldn’t even make me feel better at all. i was uncertain about a message i had sent to someone and my brain is saying i lied to him bc im uncertain but i told him i was uncertain. my brain is always making me feel guilt and shame and ive felt like this before and it passed but this feels like it’s never going to go away and i see him in 2 hours and im scared im gonna ruin it

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Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Your brain and ocd likes to think that the next problem or thought is different and that it needs to be solved and answered but truth is it’s all the same in the end, I’m sorry about how you are feeling I’ve had some very rough patches recently but you must stay stronger than what your mind and body is telling you. Your body will make you feel like your world is ending and nothing is the same, but step outside of your mind and you’ll see everything isn’t what it seems, I highly highly recommend guided meditation by the company calm, at first it was so difficult and I couldn’t continue but with patience and breathing it has helped me so much and given me such a better perspective on the mind and body

Username: ebarb46ebarb46

Date posted: 1y ago

This all sounds very familiar to me

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

I get guilt a lot as well, it’s just another way ocd will try to latch onto you and something you care about. Treat it as you would intrusive thoughts and practice mindfulness and grounding, your brain and ocd will make up an infinite amount of thoughts and worries to keep you wondering and worried. Also stop confessing to your boyfriend, it can be a compulsion, I used to confess all my thoughts to my gf when I didn’t know I had ocd and it would only cause more stress and harm rather than relief

Username: dee012dee012

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous i understand you completely and thank you for this but i have thought about all these things, but for some reason the physical feeling won’t go away and that just tells me “oh the feeling is still there because u actually lied”. my boyfriend told me “what ur uncertain about, whatever u said it doesn’t matter now i forgive you and you should forgive yourself” and u would think that would be enough for me to move on but for some reason i can’t. it’s just this strong feeling like i lied but when i talk to myself about it i can confidently say i didn’t lie. i guess the reason i feel like i lied is because there was a part im uncertain about, and my ocd is taking uncertainty=lying. hope this makes sense

Username: dee012dee012

Date posted: 1y ago

and another thing, even after i tell the truth about something, i feel the need to keep explaining the truth… and right now for this situation i have urges to “tell my partner the truth” because my ocd is saying i half assed it, but if i were to “tell him the truth” i would just say what i already told him, so it’s like there’s no winning with this… and when i look it up it says “telling the full truth will reduce guilt” which triggers me even more because now my ocd is like “u didn’t tell the whole truth” i just feel so frustrated.

Username: c444tmommy

Date posted: 4y ago

my mind is making me feel so guilty for all the shit i put my boyfriend through when it comes to my mental health

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Username: Maybe,MaybeNot

Date posted: 4y ago

Hi guys. I’m struggling because I obsess over things I feel I’ve done wrong and I fear my boyfriend will break up with me over them. I never cheated on him but it’s things like responding to a compliment wrong, feeling like I said something flirtatious when I wasn’t trying to seem flirtatious. I’ve told my boyfriend about some of my fears and he hasn’t broken up with me but my compulsion is to tell him my fears so he can reassure me that the thing I’m obsessing about isn’t a deal breaker. However it’s really not healthy for my relationship to tell him everything I feel I did wrong and I feel like I have to tell him every little detail of every conversation that bothers me. Does anyone else have thoughts like this?

Username: papa.appa

Date posted: 1y ago

i feel like such a bad boyfriend

i second guess my feeling for him basically 22 hours of the day and my intrusive thoughts are so aggressive too, like “you dont love him, you think hes ugly, you think he smells bad” stuff like that and they arent even “what if” thoughts anymore and i feel so guilty. I am basically at the point where I’ve convinced myself that im forcing myself to be in this relationship because i dont want to uproot my life and that i hate him, but every time i think about breaking up i start crying and i hate the idea and these thoughts give me SO much anxiety. To the point where i feel like i cant even eat sometimes, and i dont want to feel like this everyday because i want to be sure that i love my partner, and the small moments that im not spiraling, i feel so sure and so clear that i want to spend the rest of my life with him and i hate it because why is it that one moment i can be so sure that i love him and the one moment i feel like im lying to myself and i need to ruminate on that feeling. im so tired of myself.

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