I don’t have anxiety but the thought of leaving my gf, me cheating on her , me getting attracted to other girls gets me angry. When I get all these thoughts, I hit myself, scratch, punch, pull my skin , hit my hand on the wall. Can this still be rocd or am I in the wrong relationship cuz this doesn’t feel like ocd. I have had hocd in the past and this is not that stressing as compared to hocd. I wanna love my gf a lot
Think about the things you love about her, there's no wrong relationship. If what you feel about her makes sense to be in a relationship with her then why question if it's right or wrong? You can talk to her about your feelings and the value of your relationship. For me, it's seems like OCD because I had similar symptoms, and this physical struggle seems like it's result of anxiety. So I guess it's OCD.
@anonymous43 I don’t really feel the anxiety. I don’t feel anxious actually idk if I do
@raj123 if you feel like you are not good enough and that you can be bad or you can hurt someone, when you just want to be right then it seems you have pure OCD. You overthink that you are attracted to other people when the only thing you want is to be with that person. Then be with that person except you don't want it. I mean, it's shouldn't be hard to try if you don't feel anxious for what's going to happen. And you can certainly talk to your partner if you your logic says that you should fix something at your relationship. I just give some ideas, you know better though.
@anonymous43 Bro idk I deep down know that I wanna be with her but then something genuinely feels off. Hocd thoughts are back too but it doesn’t affect me much. Same with rocd but I feel like i don’t like her. It’s just been a month. I haven’t felt infatuation with her and this is a trigger too. I compare it to my past relationship too where I had felt infatuation and I had a certainty that I loved my gf.
@raj123 You’re not supposed to feel infatuated with your partner 100% of the time, feelings and emotions flow, they rise so high and then they drop lower n rise again, sometimes we feel disconnected from our partners for a while doesn’t mean we dont love them anymore, and doesnt mean the relationship should end that’s just not realistic at all, when you don’t feel infatuated that’s when you should make an effort towards your gf, love isn’t just a feeling, love is a choice, we choose to love our partners everyday through the actions we take towards them, try to look into erp and understand your symptoms, and try to not debate with the thoughts you’re having, as long as your gf isn’t toxic to you and isn’t abusive or totally not good to you and not loyat, then no need to dig so deep into something (emotions) that flow and change all the time
@soumya I get what you say but for example, me and my partner do have our own ideas and sometimes we conflict a lot because we are both too much sometimes, so a relationship can be successful if we both do work for ourselves, and that's hard because timing is an enemy. But the most important thing is to try for yourself and let everything flow as you said, so I shouldn't worry about it. It's difficult because everyone has his her own worries and it's matter of work if we will solve our problems or not
@soumya I know all this. But what if we he feelings don’t come back cuz maybe they weren’t there from the start? Cuz at first I just wanted to flirt with her but not date her. But as I talked more with her, I thought she was worth a try and I now really want us to work out. Whenever I feel love , my mind tells me I’m just infatuated and this isn’t true love and when I don’t feel love , my mind says that you never felt anything for her and you don’t love her
Maybe you have a cognitive distortion about what love should feel like to you, by comparing it to your previous relationships or the media ect, try watching this youtube channel it helped me through a very rough patch of my rocd i hope it helps you as well : https://youtube.com/@Awakenintolove
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I keep having this overwhelming thought of "I need to break up with her," however I really don't want to. It causes me so much anxiety when I try to fight the urge to the point that I'm bed ridden and unable to work. Is this normal for ROCD or am I just fighting my actual feelings?
Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.
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