Dont know if this is ocd but i startto losemyfaith

I feel like in the past when i started to lose my faith cause christianity sometimes feels stupid. But its not like i dont believe i just start to not like it and say it its stupid and hate God. So my frustration started when christian people told me whatever i feel about God, tell him in a pray and he will help. I did it and lots of time i didnt got an answer and a solution, so everytime i prayed to get a solution i felt like im talking to myself and than the whole faith started to feel fake. When i pray i feel like im faking it, i dont really believe. So this frustration startes to build, until today my brother said something. He is really into religion and he said in a relationship even a kiss is a sin... i had problems with accepting premarriage sex as a sin. I accept that "one night stands" arent good, even having sex in relationship that started not that long ago cause you dont know the other person well. But waiting until marriage, i dont say it stupid,some people can do it, but... we dont live like people in that time. In the past they "dated" like 3-4 months and then decided to get married and the next day they did. But in this world i wouldnt get married after 3 months of dating..you need atleast a year together to know eachother. And getting married isnt like in the past. You get engaded and decide to get married but you have to wait months, sometimes a year till you can have a wedding. I think when yall engaded yall can do anything. In the past people werent romatic, they were like animals,i believe that some people who got married werent even in love they just got married. I dont want to live a life like that. Some people even say that hugging and holding hands is sin too...like cmon at this point this is stupid. I got really angry over this. I feel like you cant even have fun, the only "fun" you can have is that what is about God. Like everything has to be about God. I dont want to believe God is this "egoistic" if he is then i really dont want to believe in a God like that. The problem is that im so sensitive that even if i dont like these, if i would do them like kiss a girl or hug a girl, i would feel like im a sinner, a bad person then get angry over it that its stupid then losing interest in relatioships and hating religion... (Sorry it was really long)

Religion & Spirituality OCD

Anonymous

Date posted: 2y

Something that helped me with this dialogue is that we as humans are harder on ourselves and each other than God is. He expects us to sin. We’re the ones beating each other and ourselves up over it. No one’s perfect and He knows this which is why He sent His son. Obviously try your best to walk in the Word, but by the nature of humankind, we are meant to fall short. Also, God isn’t “Christian”. So, if you take issue with the philosophy of humans of that specific faith, that’s not you taking issue with God. Like the “kissing, hugging and holding hands is a sin” comments are straight up nowhere in the Bible. So you have to take what other people SAY is the case with a grain of salt.

PRIV8

Date posted: 2y

The problem is that when i do sin, i beat myself over it as you said, im afraid that i will not go to heaven, but if i dont take it that serious, then its like you can do anything cause then you will regret it and youre saved... alot of time i felt like if in this way you still go to heaven cause you still believed no mather how bad things you did(get drunk,have alot of sex,party alot,curse, dont do good in the world) then this is stupid. If i work on myself and push myself to avoid this sins and i suffer alot, but then the person who does these things still goes to heaven,then its stupid... So in a way i think you have to take it seriously but if its not and you still go to heaven cause you "believed" then its dissapoiting...

PRIV8

Date posted: 2y

@PRIV8 Just mentioning that there are alot of non believers who do good things in the world but they will not be in heaven cause they dont believe, but the people who dont do anything good but they believe, they do get to heaven...

Anonymous

Date posted: 2y

@PRIV8 If you’re really invested in fighting for your faith, I recommend re-reading the Bible from front to back. You need to come to conclusions about how things are from the primary source instead of from the mouths of others, including myself. I’ve found that there are a lot of misconceptions people have because of how they were raised in Christianity, but, again, God is not a “Christian”. Regardless of what conclusion you draw, at least it will be your own.

PRIV8

Date posted: 2y

@Anonymous I do read the bible, and some parts just makes me angry and struggle with faith more. Like do everything for God, think about nothing just God, love noone more than God, like not even your own childrens. And some bible stories doesnt have any meaning like why God did those fantastic things for no reason, like theres a story that someone had to kill an animal, pour the animaly blood to a stone and the stone got into fire... like whats the purpose of this? Its sounds like a fantasy story. The other one is the sacrifice animals... like God made animals to us to kill them and with this we glorify him... like this sounds really egoistic, some animals suffered because the glory of God... Why he wants to be glorified like this? These things really doesnt make sense

Anonymous

Date posted: 2y

@PRIV8 I said re-read it. No matter how many times you have already (that’s my advice, you aren’t obligated to do anything). No one can save your relationship with God but you and Him, if you want to. If you have qualms, you have qualms. Take it up with Him, or don’t. There are difficult conditions to loving any being. You have to take what you consider the “difficult” and the “fun” and weigh them. God is a divine parent. There are a lot of parallels between God and parents. (Most) Parents have children to love and take care of, and to pass on their genes. But parents obviously have conditions that they want their kids to abide by out of respect. Kids when they’re young might be like “Bruh, why do I have to do chores around a house I didn’t buy? They call me ungrateful but THEY CHOSE TO HAVE ME!”. But, from your parents perspective, they put a roof over your head, they feed you, they do the basics to keep you alive, but they also provide things that keep you happy, entertained, and above the “just enough to survive healthily” line. Those things are not required, but you benefit from those things whether you appreciate it or not. And usually (unless the child is spoiled), a child has to perform certain, seemingly menial tasks and follow, seemingly menial rules in order to show their parents that they’re responsible/respectful/growing up on the path that the parents set forth, and showing this leads to those aforementioned rewards that keep you happy, even if you don’t do everything perfectly, which most kids don’t. A parent who doesn’t want to raise lazy children will raise them a certain way. A God who wants to raise Set-Apart children will raise them a certain way. You might find it egotistical for God to want humans to “love” Him over all other humans, but He “loves” humans the most out of all of His creations. Similar to how a parent will put their child (their flesh and blood) over their dog (who they still love as family, but aren’t “in their image”). I can give you my personal take on the “love God more than anyone even your kids” because I’ve thought about that one specifically: Why would God logically want you to love any human, born in sin, more than Him? Just because my child will come out of me, doesn’t mean he or she isn’t an imperfect being. In fact, BECAUSE the child comes out of me, it is an imperfect being. You’re disgruntled by the wording, but in actuality, there is no sacrifice for you “loving God more than your child” because you don’t literally WORSHIP a child like you already do God. If you agree God is your creator, “loving him more” comes automatically just by exalting him in that way. You won’t be thanking your child for breathing life into you every morning. You won’t be thanking your child for all the blessings that brought you to where you are in a struggle. You won’t be thanking your child for protecting you. You won’t be thanking your child FOR YOUR CHILD. God made the child. He also would be very angry if you wronged the child. You’re angry about the words, but what do the words mean in actuality? Does God wanting you to love Him more than other humans actually take away from the love He wants you give to other humans? God cares deeply about our children. Our children are HIS children too. Anyways, if it makes you feel any better, this debate your having with yourself doesn’t make God any less faithful to you, even if you feel like you’re losing faith in Him. 2 Timothy 2:13 “if we are faithless, he remains faithful, for he cannot disown himself.”

PRIV8

Date posted: 2y

@Anonymous Thank you i understand what youre saying. This problem from me comes from me making scenarios in my mind where its like i have to chose between my love ones and God. In reallity that would never happen, but who knows, but i feel like i could never leave my love ones.This comes from the feeling that God wants me to be alone. I never had a girlfriend and i really struggle with that and i think that God wants me to be alone. But is that true or not? I dont get it cause thats my own will, i want a family,wife,kids, but thats not what God wants? Thats why i struggle? Or i just overthink it? And this is why i dont like think more about this cause you just get further from the answer... Anyway thank you for your reply

Anonymous

Date posted: 2y

@PRIV8 Why would God want you to be alone when He says “be fruitful and multiply” as well as “A man who has found a wife has found a good thing”? He didn’t tell you to be alone. You have free will. You WILL make choices He doesn’t quite like. He loves you EITHER WAY. This is why I say you should re-read the Bible. You’re connecting dots to points that aren’t there and overlooking ones that are. You gain something new with each reading.

J.E

Date posted: 22w

Idk what to do at this point any tips help.

Hi I’m 17. My life since I was born has been full of exploring and tons and tons of hobbies. I have adhd. But about 1 year ago is when it kinda started or at least when I started to notice these thoughts and compulsions. I got in a relationship with my girlfriend. And about 2 weeks into that relationship my I started thinking “what if I don’t love her” and I didn’t even know that that’s what ocd was at the time and it ruined with gut wrenching anxiety for months. Then I started titling it as ocd. After we broke up I started to notice that my ocd was starting to flare up a lot. Like when I was snowboarding and normally when I was having the most fun is when I would ask myself things like “what if I hate this” “what if I’m not having fun” then I would try to feel if I was having fun. I would use chat gpt a lot to try and help it but it didn’t really help. I have lots of other ocd thoughts aswell but at the time this one really caused be anxiety and I just felt numb and I became not social. To this day I’m still not as social and I don’t feel like myself anymore. This is the opposite of who I was a year ago. Then I started questioning everything I do and people I love. So it feels like from the moment I wake up my mind just starts spiraling. I can’t seem to find peace or joy in anything anymore and I just feel like my life is going to continue like this and I’ll never be happy. I’ve accepted it at this point. I would love some help. I haven’t really told anyone I know so any tips would be appreciated. I’d be surprised if you even read this far haha. I’m also Christian and love to approach things from a Christian standpoint. I don’t want to sound like a baby who isn’t experiencing real ocd and it’s hard to put into words how much it affects me I just really hope yall understand and can help.

cmax20

Date posted: 22w

Religious OCD and romantic relationships

I have grown up in a Christian community and kind of always been around people who believe Christianity or even catholic. In the past few years I’ve really dove deep into my faith and honestly felt good about myself sometimes but overall terrified and like I’m a horrible person if I do one thing wrong or make a wrong sin. I’m also not sure if I completely believe in all the traditional Christian practices anymore. But I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 5 months and everything is going great. We communicate and he’s so loving and respectful and I honestly don’t have any major issues In the relationship. I used to have a big fear of men starting when I was like 7 aboit my grandpa or my dad trying to rape me (even though they are good men and showed no real signs of it). But it ruined my relationship with them both for awhile til it eventually went away. I always told myself it was because the “spirit” of ocd was rebuked by Jesus but I honestly don’t know. Now I’m dealing with a more extosential or religious ocd where I’m terrified I’m a horrible person for being in a relationship and almost feel worse about myself if I get closer to God. I also feel like if I get too close to God then I have to choose between Him and my bf and I can’t have both. It’s driving me in San and I feel like if I tell anyone any of this they’ll tell me to just break up with my bf even though there isn’t anything wrong in our relationship. Idk what to do and it’s so draining

Asherose

Date posted: 10w

Obsessing over my relationship and my beliefs

Recently, I have been obsessing big time over being the best girlfriend I can be and being the best Christian I can be at the same time. Its rough since I always have these lingering thoughts that I’m leading me and my boyfriend down a path of sin by being more passionate to the point of having lustful intrusive thoughts when with him sometimes despite the fact that we’re both not wanting to go past pretty passionate kissing. For some extra context here, I’ve grown up in a Christian household my whole life and over the past few years, have been getting progressively more interested in my faith after temporarily abandoning it. It’s been tricky knowing what’s okay and what’s not okay to do, especially since I don’t view it as a religion necessarily but more like me wanting to get to know my creator better, show how thankful I am to be here/have everyone who is in my life and show said thankfulness by being as devoted as possible while still being who I am to my core. As for my relationship, I have been with my bf for almost 6 months now and he’s made me the happiest girl in the world, constant hugs, kisses, sweet little gestures that make my heart melt, caring comfort, the purest of love in my opinion and I’m so blessed to have him as my partner. Unfortunately though, I’m always worrying about him and our future together and how this will work since he himself isn’t a Christian. A lot of people who aren’t Christian’s won’t understand this logic but my brain always goes to 2 places. 1 is possible disagreements we may have about how we want our lives to go since I don’t want to hold him back from what he truly desires. That though, may not always align with what I have in place for my life. 2, quite frankly the worst one, is worrying about my bf not going to a good place after he dies. Now, this is not because of him as a person (he’s the best, very kind, sweet, supportive and loyal) but rather, because of rejecting God from coming into his life, and that scares me more than anything. Basically, I was taught that going to heaven is accepting God into your life and having your sins forgiven, and if you don’t, your rejecting the one thing that can take away all your imperfections and make you whole once more, which leads you to not fully making the mark despite me practically begging on my knees that it wasn’t this way for the sake of others who may not view things the same as me (no disrespect towards others btw, I love and respect people no matter what the believe or do). Does that make me sound judgmental? Yea, it probably does, but I swear, I wish it wasn’t this way. Based on what I’ve come to understand as a believer in God and Jesus, it’s not that simple. Knowing that, there’s 2 things that I mainly worry about due to the context and concerns I have. I worry about being a bad influence and Christian as a whole because of how much I struggle with my mental health and how much I fall to my own imperfections. I try and I try but I never feel like I’m good enough, that I’m probably a lukewarm Christian (iykyk) and that even I won’t go to heaven because of my own doubts and mistakes. I pray constantly for reassurance and for peace so I can be with my bf and even by myself and not feel this overwhelming weight crushing my shoulders constantly. It’s scary, not knowing what to do, how to feel, if what I’m feeling is okay or not, etc. Idk if anyone else is in my shoes, whether they are worried about being a not good enough person, not strong enough in your beliefs, or even loving someone and worrying for them and their future to such an extreme extent. If there’s anyone out there who might have some advice to make the fear fade away, even if it’s a little bit, I would be forever grateful. Before I end this, I just want to say your are loved and appreciated for who you are and nothing will change that fact, even if you may not feel that way, I’ve been coming to accept that the more the years go by and I wish for everyone to know this. Anyways, God bless and hope everyone has an amazing day/night. ❤️

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