so a lot of the time i worry i don’t love him. but recently, i’ve been obsessing (losing sleep too) over if he doesn’t love me. i’m constantly worrying he’s not doing enough and he’s not right for me and it makes me so anxious i can barely breathe. is this normal???
I am sorry you are having a difficult time. OCD will strike us where we are vulnerable. It seems to me from your post you are aware these are intrusive thoughts and it sounds like you are ruminating, which is a compulsion which will only make ocd stronger. Instead of compulsing, when you get the intrusive thought try to sit in the middle and not try to figure it out. A non-engagement response something like maybe / maybe not, but I am not going ti try and figure it out. And then go about what you were doing before - I.e. sleeping. It is hard I know but sitting in the middle teaches our brain that this is not the five alarm fire the brain thinks it is. When we compulse the answer will never be enough for ocd - there will always be one more what if, one more compulsion ti perform. This is hard work so be compassionate with yourself. Do the best you can and over time you will find it does get easier to do. I hope this helps.
@Jeffrey thank you so much!
Relationship OCD often switches like you described, one day ruminating about not being “enough” for your partner and the next day ruminating about them not being “enough”. Relationships take trust and sitting with the unknown and hoping for the best and taking steps toward the best together!Relationships are difficult for people without OCD, but those with it find the uncertainty unbearable. Be patient with yourself! Try to sit through the discomfort without all the checking and ruminating OCD is yelling that you have to do, you don’t have to do it and you can get through it :)
@hellopeople thank you!!!
This happens to me all the time. You are not alone.
Anyone else fear falling out of love with your partner and falling in love with someone else you know of? My ocd convinces me this other guy I go to university with is ‘the one’ and creates false memories! It’s the worst feeling ever i feel so much guilt and don’t feel happy and loving when I’m around my boyfriend anymore :( I don’t want to be with anyone else but my boyfriend I just wish I was happy with him and never had these thoughts in the first place.
I’ve been in a long relationship with this guy and I love him so much like I really want to marry him everything about him is perfect l. I suffer from hocd and when I’m not worrying abt it I love my life but hocd is ruining everything I’m constantly living with anxiety and I get panick attacks over the stupidest stuff like seeing a pretty girl. I don’t want this to ruin my life or my relationship because I’m so happy with him and I love him so much but these compulsive thoughts are making me go crazy. I also have never told anyone about my hocd. Can anyone relate
I felt love yesterday but today I don’t.... what is wrong with me.... how can you tell if u really don’t love someone?... 😞 I don’t wanna tell him that bc I know I do love him a lot but I just feel like I am faking it.... I hate ocd
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