I’m just trying to find a bit of hope, I feel horrible, I always think my partner deserves someone that doesn’t have rocd Am I going to be happy again in my relationship? Is it better if I just die? I just need to hear if someone has overcome this, I just want hope, I don’t want to suffer anymore Thank you
I have had these thoughts so much, too. It is so painful sometimes for us and our partners. But I can tell you that although I’m not “cured” by any means… I have had periods of calm, where there are no fights or panic attacks, and where I get to just relax and enjoy my partner and be there for him instead of always the other way around. We don’t do this work because it’s easy; we do it because we want to live our lives on our own terms. And it’s brave work. And it is working. ! going!!! It hurts, but all that matter is you stay the course, and breathe!!!
@huma (home-ah) That’s supposed to say, “Keep going!!!” oops. You’re doing great!!
I definitely think it's possible to recover from ROCD. Looking back, a few years ago, I think I went through a period of ROCD without know wth it was. Eventually, my OCD switched themes to something more anxiety producing at the time, and I kind of forgot about it. That tells me that, at least for me, it is just another OCD theme that ERP can be applied to in order to get some relief from it. My therapist tells me all OCD is literally the same thing "fear of some uncertainty" dressed in different clothes (themes). If one can be overcome, I don't see why others can't as well. I think the key though is ERP, someone to guide you through it, and the willingness to do the work (ERP) outside of therapy sessions. The most significant progress I made was when I was doing ERP consistently everyday. I was entirely hopeless and pretty suicidal prior to starting therapy/ERP. I no longer feel that way anymore, even though I still have some rough days. I highly suggest getting a therapist and trying ERP if you can. I hope this helps in some small way!
I've had similar thoughts as well. "Wouldn't it be better if I just died? What if I just left him alone? I just don't deserve his love... the anxiety is going to kill me....i'm just a problem...." you name it. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of happiness, and well being. You are capable of love, maybe you just have to learn how to love in a different way! Let me explain: in my experience, i learned that some of my defense mechanisms would bring me further from him, but i'd blame it on him instead of speaking up. So a lot of resentment built up. I think in my experience this led to(along with other issues) the outburst of ROCD. Suddenly I wasn't in love no more, I wanted out, i felt caged, choked....i guess you know what i'm talking about. And it's just the worst nightmare possible. Think of it, what is the most important thing in your life? Rocd attacks what you cherish the most. Seek help, go to therapy, Pray, and look for support! You can do it! Ps i'm still married 🥰
I can answer one of your questions very truly, honestly, and bluntly. It will NOT be better if you die. You have a purpose and people who love you. I’m happy you’re still here and hope you stay for a very long, healthy life. I’m sending you strength and comfort. OCD is a beast, but there is hope 🤍
You can! It's REALLY HARD, but you can manage it. If you think you're not strong enough, think again😊 if you work on it, go to therapy, Pray, do whatever is possible to get out of this HELL, you can do it. It's gonna be so hard, cause it seems like you're fighting againist yourself. But eventually you'll be able to see clearly. Trust the process, as they say😉
I have rocd. It’s the worst feeling being with the love of your life and having these thoughts. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and few months and I just wish this disorder wasn’t even a thing. From the start of us being together I knew and felt he was perfect and EVERYTHING I’ve always wanted. I had thoughts about everything you can name of. If I love him or not, do I like other people instead, if he’s ugly, if I like him only because of his looks, comparing other relationships, if he did one thing off or different question if I really know him, thought he was a different person then what I really knew him for, believing and having the thoughts every single one feel real. It’s a nightmare. Because I would literally die on the instead from telling him these things when he never did anything. I have gotten much better with the love, and looks and all that but there’s always new “targets” as me and him say. It’s like I can never truly run away. I think of how easy it is for others in relationships since they don’t have this and I just want that with him. It’s been a year and a few months and yes we’ve went through hell and back and a lot of things have gotten better but not fully. Hopefully soon enough they will and EVRYTHING will be much better. I just want him. I can’t do anything without him like he’s really the first person I only ever imagined a future with. A future that I wanted to be married and have kids and just live a beautiful life with. I want his pain and suffering to end with all these thoughts he’s heard throughout the year. I never mean to hurt him. I never mean to break him. I just want him. I can’t lose him. If you have ROCD, it’s good your here. Get help, get support, talk to someone about this because it will get better. I’ve had my amazing days. 4 days straight! I never had that before but I lost it and trying to get it back. I know I will, just gotta keep trying hard. My boyfriend helps me so much by supporting and telling me “Your ocd is not you, these thoughts aren’t you, ocd attacks anything you care about.” I couldn’t be more lucky to have him. I’m the luckiest girl alive. He makes me feel that way and I just want this to be over already. I love him so much. Idk if this helps anyone with ROCD, but you’re not alone. Search up videos the help understand, pay attention and watch what you can do to fix it because it is. I’m not there yet but I will not give up, so everyone out there with any type of OCD. We can do this. Confidence is key. Don’t give up. We’re all here to help one another, and ofc regular support with friends family and definitely therapy.
Hey! I’m really in need of some encouragement right now, can anyone tell me their experience with ROCD and their recovery? I’ve felt very hopeless the last few days and it would be nice to hear some recovery stories and uplifting words.
Hi. I was recently diagnosed with ROCD by my therapist. Which is a relief, because I’ve been dealing with intrusive thoughts in all my relationships, but even though I was in therapy, I had never been diagnosed and I didn’t know if there was a name for what I was experiencing. So, we are barely starting to work on it. I’m recently married to a man that has only showed me I can trust him, he re assures me and respects me. But I still tend to have the need to make sure all the time he’s not cheating or lying, paying attention to every single detail. At the same time I have the fear that I’ll ruin my marriage with my obsessions. I don’t want him to know about the diagnosis, cause I feel he’s gonna get scared and run away. Has anyone here recovered from ROCD? How’s life on the other side?
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