- Username
- ocdsucksbutt
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yeah, happened to me too but it lasted a few days then back again on the same ish
Lol I used to tell myself girl be asexual better than being gay and I tried to but it didn’t work so just tell ur self imma be asexual and you’ll see shit is not real
It’ll fade away
Yeah I felt the same, I figured it was more like a defense mechanism. When I felt that way, I was like "you know I'd rather be ace in this case" I was scared because I don't want to he asexual either but it was kind of relieving then I got "You can be asexual and still gay" and I freaked out again but that made understand that I 100% don't want to be romantically involved with someone of same sex. So-ocd wants you to be everything but your actual sexuality. That's how dumb it is. You can't wake up one day gay, another one asexual and then pansexual
thank you so much. but i was reading (compulsions ik D:) online and a lot of people wrote about them used to liking this and becoming this. Like example: I used to like guys at 13/14 but at 15 I became lesbian. Or: I don’t want to be asexual but I became/am one. Things like this which throw off my logic :/
I read those things as a compulsion all the time but technically it's not even possible. Because you can't become another sexuality because of ocd, those people didn't wake up one day and said "Damn well I'm gay now", sexuality is not like changing hair color. I may decide tomorrow I don't want blonde hair anymore, but you can't force on yourself a sexuality you are not. I used to be anxious over this even before I had hocd, while it's natural selection for those who are. It's a flight fight response, we attach emotion to them that's why we are freaked out.
I had a asexual phase, it wasn’t that great ?. But there’s nothing
but I feel like in my case it’s possible. I don’t want to be asexual but wow i don’t think I could ever like guys again it feels too unreal
my anxiety is off the scale right now
And same I used to think that would’ve been better than being lesbian but now actually fearing it I don’t want it because it makes the realization of not liking guys anymore become more of a fact D:
thank you @notfortalk, very strong claims. I just get way too much in my head. I feel sometimes there’s a possibility I can be normally straight, maybe that’s me deep down trying to reach to the surface to let me know it’ll be okay, but soon enough it’s covered by the suffocation of ocd and it makes me doubt and depressed all over again. Assuming my libido is just hiding with so much weight on top that it doesn’t work
@chou_tzuyu13 are you still asexual?
Yeah I know how it feels, I'm in the same boat. But all of this is just bull, we're just victim of a stupid illness that wants to weigh us down. And the best we can do is let ourselves feel all the frustration instead of bottling it up
not anymore
@ocdsucksbutt, not anymore, I’ve had a lot of LGBT phases. It turns out I was straight but curious. Being asexual is lonely but it’s relieving. But I’m still straight
It’s like I get anxiety towards any girl now. This feeling of First, thinking they are pretty Then, getting these series of emotions I can’t describe but there’s a hole in my stomach Last, Anxiety. A lot of anxiety. Feels like I want to *date* them These “attractions” feel so real. Like in actually gay. It’s like nothing can convince I am not anymore. It feels too real. And when I see hot guys, i Can just acknowledge they are hot now. Nothing else. I really just want to cry. It feels as if I was always like this. But for some reason it feels like I lost a part of myself. Like I lost my interest in guys. . I’ll never be with a woman, but I don’t think I’ll ever even be with a guy. The only thing I feel is anxiety. They feel too real for ocd to be behind this all, for this to just not be... real.
How do I know if I’m asexual or if it’s really just hocd? Ive been obsessing over this for days. I don’t want to be asexual at all. I consider myself straight and not to long ago I got over the themes of gay and bisexuality of hocd. I don’t think about sex all that much maybe one every two weeks and I do want sex one day right now I just have that eh like it ok or whatever feeling about it and I don’t know does this stuff mean I’m asexual I have had slit of crushes before but I don’t know if I’m asexual. I need help!??
Lately i've been having low sex drive and i dont know why. I thought maybe i dont feel attracted to my bf anymore, we have been together for 3 years now and I do love him but this year I felt less "sexually". Quarantine hit me hard the first months with ocd but now i feel better. I started to think that maybe I'm asexual and it makes me sad cause my bf has very high sex drive so I would have to break up with him and I don't want to :( I do masturbate sometimes but I don't feel that sexual attraction towards my boyfriend (or anyone) like the first year. So idk if it is rocd or I'm asexual or just stressed and depressed. It's exhausting
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