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Yeah, happened to me too but it lasted a few days then back again on the same ish
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Lol I used to tell myself girl be asexual better than being gay and I tried to but it didn’t work so just tell ur self imma be asexual and you’ll see shit is not real
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It’ll fade away
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Yeah I felt the same, I figured it was more like a defense mechanism. When I felt that way, I was like "you know I'd rather be ace in this case" I was scared because I don't want to he asexual either but it was kind of relieving then I got "You can be asexual and still gay" and I freaked out again but that made understand that I 100% don't want to be romantically involved with someone of same sex. So-ocd wants you to be everything but your actual sexuality. That's how dumb it is. You can't wake up one day gay, another one asexual and then pansexual
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thank you so much. but i was reading (compulsions ik D:) online and a lot of people wrote about them used to liking this and becoming this. Like example: I used to like guys at 13/14 but at 15 I became lesbian. Or: I don’t want to be asexual but I became/am one. Things like this which throw off my logic :/
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I read those things as a compulsion all the time but technically it's not even possible. Because you can't become another sexuality because of ocd, those people didn't wake up one day and said "Damn well I'm gay now", sexuality is not like changing hair color. I may decide tomorrow I don't want blonde hair anymore, but you can't force on yourself a sexuality you are not. I used to be anxious over this even before I had hocd, while it's natural selection for those who are. It's a flight fight response, we attach emotion to them that's why we are freaked out.
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I had a asexual phase, it wasn’t that great ?. But there’s nothing
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but I feel like in my case it’s possible. I don’t want to be asexual but wow i don’t think I could ever like guys again it feels too unreal
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my anxiety is off the scale right now
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And same I used to think that would’ve been better than being lesbian but now actually fearing it I don’t want it because it makes the realization of not liking guys anymore become more of a fact D:
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thank you @notfortalk, very strong claims. I just get way too much in my head. I feel sometimes there’s a possibility I can be normally straight, maybe that’s me deep down trying to reach to the surface to let me know it’ll be okay, but soon enough it’s covered by the suffocation of ocd and it makes me doubt and depressed all over again. Assuming my libido is just hiding with so much weight on top that it doesn’t work
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@chou_tzuyu13 are you still asexual?
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Yeah I know how it feels, I'm in the same boat. But all of this is just bull, we're just victim of a stupid illness that wants to weigh us down. And the best we can do is let ourselves feel all the frustration instead of bottling it up
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not anymore
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@ocdsucksbutt, not anymore, I’ve had a lot of LGBT phases. It turns out I was straight but curious. Being asexual is lonely but it’s relieving. But I’m still straight
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- 22w
I keep wondering if I’m attracted to this kid I saw a week ago or not, it keeps happening, I can’t figure it out, what I hope is false attraction is feeling too real, I don’t wan to like the kid, I never wish to like kids, I genuinely feel like I’m just in doubt, I can’t figure it out, it feels weird, I don’t feel any guilt, shame, disgust, or panic, idk why but ik that I’m supposed to feel that, it makes me feel like I’m a real p. I barley get any negative emotion from those thoughts anymore, even when these thoughts started I didn’t feel shame or guilt, but I think I did feel worry and panic, I’m not sure anymore, I don’t remember.
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- 16w
My arousal levels are just nothing they use to be I love my girl so much but I’m worried I turned gay and gonna have to leave her I don’t know what to do but I feel like she’s gonna notice my lack of arousal and question. I feel like I’m just gonna have to leave her until I get this sorted
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- 13w
I am 23 weeks into 10 mg citalopram and I have random urges to accept myself as ace / aro whenever I view r/asexuality like warmth and pulls but when I think about men I have throat burns. Last night, I asked AI about this and it it said it was self acceptance and my feelings for men were self acceptance and my feelings for men were me forcing attraction or something and I cried then I repeated to myself I am ace / aro all night and I felt calm or my urges built up so it must be true. What would an OCD therapist say
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