For anyone struggling with real event/False OCD

I want you to read this, ad I too struggle with real event (and a little bit of false memory) I know a lot of you who are going to be reading this have probably done something during your yougner years (chuldhood/Teen) that you absolutely hate yourself for doing. Maybe it was something like saying something online and worrying about getting canceled, doing something sexual with your peers for siblings, worrying about harming someone, and s lot of other things. When we remember these things we feel immense guilt, shame, sadness, grief, and embarrassment. We will try to seek out answers to see where we are on the morality scale, to reassure ourselves that we aren't bad people. I want to let you know right now that the fact that you are feeling all these negative things relating to your rea event/false memory ocd proves that you really aren't a bad person who would do these things intentionally. I know it's hard to move past these thoughts; I'm still not completely over mines, but what helps is this: How would you respond if this was a friend that you had, who had these similar obsessions? Would you try and show them compassion, and tell them that they were young and didn't know the weight of their actions, let alone what they meant, or would you shame them and make them feel like crap? I know which one you all would pick🙃 Although real event isn't as easy to deal with as false memory, because these things actually happened, you also need to remember that OCD doesn't xare about the context of the event; It doesn't care about your circumstances, age,mindset, or struggles during this time period. So it's just as irrational as another theme nit because it's fake, but because how it views these event. My advice to people struggling with this, is to really look at it from a different perspective with the help of CBT. CBT is the nest thing that Helps PureO and all of its subtypes, mostly because these are covert compulsions rather than physical ones, so re-wireing your congenital bias towards these thoughts helps. An example of CBT looks like this: Write own your intrusive thougt(s): "You are attracted to kids" Challenge the intrusive thougt(s): "Well, that's what you think, but I'm not engaging" Then, replace it with a neutral statement(s): "I know who I am and I'm not going to let you ruin that" Now a lot of you think this is a form of reassurance, but I have reasons as to why it's not: 1: if this was reassurance then I would have said "no I'm not, I am not attracted to kids" I said "well, that's what you think, but I'm not engaging" Saying that you won't engage isn't reassurance, plus the second statement tells ICD that I'm not going to defend myself because I know who I am, therefore OCD is a waste of time. This means that you are acknowledging OCD, but not trying to figure out anything. Another thing that helps os journaling. When you journal, it can really help pit things into perspective and see your thoughts and feelings, AND your memories for what they are: fitments of the mind. Your memories might have emotional weight to them, and cause a lot of pain, but they didn't have this much weight 3 hours ago, right? Why is that? Is it because you were living in the NOW instead of the PAST? YES!! That's is correct!! When you live in the past, the feelings from.t eh past also come along with it. It's not wonder you are feeling like you can't move on! Ever since I started showing symptoms of OCD, my real event memories have been showing up a lot, mostly to try and and support thr other Pure O subsets. My last piece of advice is to really look for a community of perole with the same issues, not for reassurance, but for support! I hope this post helps someone, because these things helped me🥰 💖💫✨️