Fs144
- Date posted
- 2y
Anyone ?
I been noticing flaws on my bf that don’t bother me at all I love him the way he is but I feel bad that I notice something is that normal ?
MossMateMossMate
- Date posted
- 2y
I used to wonder this as well! I think our OCD has made us super in tune with thinking about anything and everything and we judge ourselves for thinking about anything and everything too! Your boyfriend - Other people look at themselves or you and think hmmmmm why do her eyes look like that, or her smile, or she’s cute, or hot! But then they continue. They usually don’t stop and think oh why did I think that? What does that mean? Do I like them? Do I hate them? Your ocd is making you over analyze when it’s completely normal to observe someone’s face or body and wonder why it is the way it is or what it means, but just don’t judge yourself for thinking these thoughts because they’re just thoughts! He can’t hear them lol and you’ll also be glad you can’t hear his thoughts, we’re all human and it doesn’t mean you love him any less!
jwil218jwil218
- Date posted
- 2y
These thoughts, personally, always have me feeling like I am stuck in a relationship that doesn’t make me as happy as I want to be. I think ocd, in this sense, rocd, changes our idea of satisfaction when we meet our partners. We should enjoy our time with these people, but we constantly think and think until we no longer see this person as “perfect” so they aren’t good enough. I don’t even realize I’m looking for “just right” or “perfect” when I do this. It sucks
Honeyshark Honeyshark
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Yeah cuz I’m constantly overanalyzing so I pick my boyfriend apart mentally trying to “prove” he’s the right one
malsaipemalsaipe
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Sometimes I feel so evil and disgusting for picking my boyfriend apart. It scares me and I feel horrible. With time, I’ve been able to identify when OCD creeps in and starts to take over:)
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