Whenever my boyfriend says things like "I know you're in love with me" or "I know you miss me", my anxiety is triggered and I feel guilty because it's not a typical response for people in a wonderful relationship. Anyone else relate?
Omg, this happens to me too. It’s like i get an immediate thought of “you know you dont love him” “that’s a lie” and stuff like that😞 i get triggered a lot, when he jokes around and says things like “i know im the love of your life” and i freak out, i feel guilty too. I know i love him, but im scared ill be like this forever, and anxious all the time around him, like is there any hope i’ll get better, be present, be happy, and enjoy being with him.
It helps to know we are not alone in this. Thank you for the support!
I get this way sometimes when I tell my boyfriend I love him or I say words of affirmation. Sometimes I’ll think “do I really mean that?”. That’s OCD trying to trick us into thinking the things we care about might not be what we actually care about. Instead of thinking “oh no I can’t have these thoughts”, try shrugging it off and saying ok maybe I don’t feel that way, but I don’t need to have an answer 🤷🏼♀️ Remember that OCD latches on to things we love and put value into. It wants you to question these things, but you don’t need to fall for it!
Try and keep in mind that the central feature of OCD is doubt- but what if I don't love them? Etc. You got this.💛
omg this happens to me with my rocd also how my rocd gives me false memories like what if u cheated in the past and forgot? then whenever i say anything positive to my bf or he says anything to me i get anxious or feel guilty like in my chest and it makes me feel worse :( then my ocd is like well if u didn’t do anything wrong why do u feel like this?
I can relate 😭. Exposure therapy has helped me with this
What type of ERP exercise did you use?
@Sunshineflowers7 When I would have intrusive thoughts such as”Oh gosh…maybe I don’t love my partner” when they would say I love you. I would tell myself “ok. Maybe you don’t 🤷♀️ “ it’s very triggering at first, but it allows you to become less and less anxious with the thought and the chasing of certainty. Also try not to compare your relationship to others!! I know it’s very hard I’ve struggled with it too. But at the end of the day every relationship is different:]
Does anyone else’s intrusive thoughts at times make them ‘feel’ things? Like if you have an intrusive thought about your boyfriend you then begin to feel you don’t want to be with him. And afterward you feel extreme guilt and shame because you do love him so much. I used to call them “fake feelings”
I don’t want any reassurance just expressing myself… Knowing that you’ve caused damage in your relationship and feeling guilty for stressing your partner out has got to be one of the worst feelings. Knowing that they could easily be with someone else not going through these issues with but then choosing to be with you brings in nothing but shame and guilt.
anybody ever still feel a guilty feeling in ur chest kinda like anxiety even if u didn’t do anything wrong? i told the truth to my bf about smthng and my brain keeps making me feel like i lied even though i haven’t. im honest with him about everything, but my brain is telling me the only way to get relief is to admit to lying but i didn’t lie so it wouldn’t even make me feel better at all. i was uncertain about a message i had sent to someone and my brain is saying i lied to him bc im uncertain but i told him i was uncertain. my brain is always making me feel guilt and shame and ive felt like this before and it passed but this feels like it’s never going to go away and i see him in 2 hours and im scared im gonna ruin it
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