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I experienced this too
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what you are going through is super normal! I have had sexual orientation OCD for the past year, and it is pure hell. it does get easier though. remember that
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I don’t know if this is helpful, but even if you were gay or bi, there would be no pressure on you to come out. You don’t need a label or to announce to the world you’re a certain thing. You don’t need to act on those feelings or thought because it’s entirely your own personal experience. It’s okay to not feel any attraction at the moment. Often I lose attraction to anybody when I’m obsessing over what I am and aren’t attracted to. It’s only natural with all the anxiety built around it.
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Hey, just know, if you wanted to kiss women, you already would have. I'm pan, but didn't realize it until later in life. I thought everyone made out with women at college parties. Apparently not. I also know that if my husband and I ever broke up, I would openly date a woman because I genuinely find them sexually attractive. Our actions and experiences shape who you are, and if you haven't taken any action and won't... it's just an OCD conspiracy theory against you. Let it go. ? We landed a man on the moon. The Egyptians built the pyramids. You're not gay.
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I’m trying to live with uncertainty but it doesn’t feel right. The “I may or may not be bi/gay” really sucks because I can’t stop ruminating, analyzing, or checking. This especially sucks because I feel like literally EVERYTHING in my life leads to the fact that I’m a fraud which feels horrible. I can’t even talk to my friends the way I used to without feeling like I’m lying about myself. The false attraction and loss of attraction to men is literally horrible because now I feel like the life i fantasized for myself isn’t something I want.
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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A while ago, maybe a month and a half, I started getting thoughts that I am gay and in denial. I have no desire to be with a man and NEVER have, but it feels like I am a liar and I am really gay. It is hard to get out of my head, and I just want to say to anyone struggling with this, you are not alone. I have a hard time feeling like my attraction to women is genuine nowadays and I say to myself “What if I end up dating a guy?” And I get non stop thoughts and a groinal response as well. I also have gender dysphoria on top of that so it’s hard to imagine myself with a woman even though in the past I wanted it, but now I feel like I don’t, and eventually I’m gonna just date a guy. I get these compulsions to try things out with a guy and see if I like it but I don’t think I will act on it. I have had no hope and feel like I am genuinely gay now. I hope that I can recover.
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