Intrusive thought

My mind is really obsessing over someone else that isn’t my partner. So I will think of my partner first then this other boy will replace my boyfriend face and name and I’ll just be like why no stop like I don’t wanna think of that other boy just my boyfriend. It’s so annoying and stressful. I just wanna cry because I don’t wanna think of that other boy and it’s like my mind will replace what I imagine with my bf with this over boy. I don’t want this boy to pop up in my mind anymore. My minds telling me I like him and it feels like I have to say it with my tongue and I don’t wanna. I don’t like him I jus love my boyfriend and I don’t want anyone else but my mind makes me feel as if I like this other boy and I don’t like that and I just really want tips on how to handle these thoughts. Also earlier I admitted that this boy was attractive then later I’m like no he’s not that attractive now I feel guilty for finding him attractive but it’s like I can’t make up if he is I don’t think he’s that attractive but then I will feel like he kinda is idk. I don’t wanna find him attractive nor think of him. My mind makes me feel as if I have a crush on this boy that isn’t my boyfriend and it’s like I know I don’t but it feels like I actually do and I don’t wanna think that I want it to go away I just don’t know how.

Relationship OCD

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

Ocd will definitely make you doubt yourself with tons of crazy thoughts. Have you talked to a therapist yet? If not do so soon! You’re basically telling your brain that if and when a thought of somebody else pops up it’s a threat, and if you tell yourself not to think of somebody else, guess what’s going to happen. Your brain doesn’t know a real threat from a false one with ocd, so the main idea is to accept the thoughts as just thoughts and let them pass to eventually break that cycle of compulsions with intrusive thoughts

Mayte

Date posted: 2y ago

@Anonymous I have talked to a therapist but she always seemed to change the topic whenever I mentioned my intrusive thoughts. She once did tell me that when I felt the thoughts coming to imagine a big stop sign and to distract myself and I knew in me that it’s not actually a good idea to do that. I know I’m gonna get a diagnosis soon but if she says that I don’t have ocd then ima end up feeling like my thoughts are actually real and I’m just denying them but I try to just sit with them but then I feel calm and get so anxious and the thought ends up making me so anxious again cause I don’t want it to be true I’m afraid it’s actually true I don’t wanna think of that at all I hope the thought goes away but thank you I will keep following your advice <3. I’m not sure if telling my boyfriend my intrusive thoughts is a compulsion…I tell him cause I feel like I have to but I hate it cause I don’t wanna hurt him with my thoughts but he really understands.

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

@Mayte 99% chance you have ocd and I suggest talking to a therapist from this app because she’s really doing the opposite of what you should do. If she’s a talk therapist that explains it but if not find another ocd therapist. My original talk therapist would say similar things which would only lead to more thoughts and anxiety

Princesss

Date posted: 2y ago

I'm going through the same. The first few days I was miserable. But then I watched a video that helped. It was like do not value that thought. Do not try to push it away or reason with it. If it pops up just remind yourself it's intrusive and let it pass. Once you get calm around it, it will pass away. I suggest you read about rocd. I've been following a channel that has helped me a lot along with nocd

Mayte

Date posted: 2y ago

@Princesss I’ve read so much about ROCD but sometimes it’s so hard to find tips with the thoughts I get…I end up feeling like I’m the only one with these thoughts and that they’re actually true but is there any specific website or channel on rocd tips? Because I do try to be calm with my intrusive thoughts but I get too calm that I end up feeling extremely anxious again and they end up feeling really real.

Anonymous

Date posted: 23w ago

Obsessing over coworker for months OCD

You know when you have weird thoughts about a coworker and because you have OCD these thoughts really stick and you panic and feel sick? Yeah that’s me and I’ve struggled with having intrusive thoughts about my coworker and now he just got in a relationship with my coworker and my intrusive thoughts are WORSE I thought they would be better? And initially they were because I was relieved that he couldn’t be weird with me now because he has a girlfriend. But this is the thought that i cannot get over- my OCD is like you’re jealous that he doesn’t like you and he’s not with you instead and i envy this girl he is with. Why the fuck am I having these thoughts while I’m in a healthy relationship and love my boyfriend to DEATH- like I know he is my forever. I couldn’t look at him today because I’ve been obsessing over this thought I’ve had in work and now I have to find a new job I hope no one will judge me for these thoughts or maybe someone has had this weird thought before? :(

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issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 13w ago

I feel like a cheater, please help :(

I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?

misereri

Date posted: 12w ago

Someone to talk to?please?

Hi, I'm 17,about to be 18. I've been struggling with these thoughts for the past 8 months. I was wondering if someone experienced ever the same because I feel im "different". BACKGROUND: (I'm not diagnosed with Ocd but seeing a local counselor) About 9 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy S (who blackmailed, manipulated and molested me). Since then when I realized that what i did was very WRONG and so I started ruminating picking apart every single interaction and telling my boyfriend, i tried to remember every single detail because otherwise I felt like i was being a fraud and hiding things to save myself, i had many crisis about it because I had also what i think was false memory ocd. My boyfriend forgave me idk how tbh I still wonder. CURRENT STRUGGLE: Months ago I was sure I didn't wanna S in any way and i was sure even when everything happened. For the past 2 months tho I've been having thoughts like " Do I love S?" "I love S" "S is hot" "Would S find me hot?" "What if I want S?" " What if I don't love my boyfriend enough?" "What if I secretly want S?" "What if I see my boyfriend as a friend only?Do I?" And I tried testing my reaction to intimate scenarios with S, I'm scared I like it i dont really wanna love S or have any secret attraction, I wish I didn't have any of this and I want to be sure of my feelings for my boyfriend because I know I wanna be with him and I see a future with him like he brings me comfort. But a part of me keeps trying to convince me otherwise. Sometimes I think I'd rather die than have these thoughts. Im so scared of not being able to control my feelings, im scared I can't resist S and its giving me anxiety and making me cry. Sometimes when i think of those sexual scenarios with S or I get those thoughts my mind tells me to smile because i like it because I find it funny. It makes me doubt myself all over again. Like I'm always like I need to test if I'd feel aroused to intimate scenarios with S, lately im trying to fight this urge to test and test but my mind is like "just do it this once so you can be sure. I can never watch anything romantic or sexual or whatever because my mind would be like "you and S" or sometimes I'm just enjoying time with my bf and im like " yes we can just have a sneaky cheating thing thats ok" and it makes me want to figure it out to find an answer a solution because idk it just does like I need to find the meaning of it if it means the truth and all. Im worried im just an awful person and these thoughts just ruin my quality of life . Today i had a crisis where i ended up doinf swlf harm, I'm so scared of finding someone that's not my boyfriend desirable or sexual appealing or whatever it is, I also have bodily reactions when I try to imagine and test my reaction to scenarios. Now i keep groing everytime and I dont know why but i have this sensation and I dont want to havebit especially when its something S related. Does someone experience the same thoughts? Am I alone in this? Is this ROCD? What should i do?

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