Do you ever obsess over having the perfect day, get overstimulated by the organization/ completion of it to where you procrastinate? Then try to distract yourself and build yourself up emotionally to do the task and then whenever you are ready to do it it’s too late and you’re mad at yourself? That’s been me on repeat for weeks with this painting. And I have adhd.
Hello amayakay. Yes - I (and likely many others here that struggle with perfectionism) can empathize with what you're going through. Tasks become so magnified because they have to be done "perfectly" in our minds, which can be anxiety-producing. Fortunately, I would bet that the experts at NOCD have helped many folks with perfectionism and challenges getting going on an assignment. For me (not an expert, but figure this could be helpful info) - one tactic that helps me push through procrastination is just starting the activity I don't want to do for a few minutes, and checking in after those minutes elapse. Often, once I get past the mental barrier of starting an activity, it's much easier to keep going! Secondly, I try and limit distractions like music / podcasts / etc. because while I've found they help with the emotional challenges underlying procrastination, they can also inhibit my actual productivity and work quality. Third, learning to get more comfortable with the thought of making mistakes has helped quite a bit! And lastly, I have found medication for OCD has greatly helped in conjunction with therapy - would check with your doctor, therapist, psychiatrist, etc. if you want more info. There is definitely hope for you, and you're not alone! Godspeed on your journey managing OCD. The folks here in the NOCD community are pulling for you :)
Thank you!! Maybe I can try a triggering activity with a timer and try mindfulness for just a few minutes a day to build that muscle. I’ll have bits of inspiration and then it goes away bc of my adhd. It’s so hard to be consistent and forgiving with adhd and ocd
For years I’ve been struggling with trying to put together a routine for myself. I always end up filling my time with things that pertain to others. I see my friends all day, I like to see my boyfriend a lot (even though it’s only a weekend to weekend thing), and I’ll scroll social media. When I go on social media I tend to look at people who is no longer in my life. With this, I’ve come to a realization recently that I’ve put others over my own needs. I barely take my meds regularly because I feel like I’m constantly busy at peoples events, hanging out, or work. I don’t want kids but I’ve grown up in a family the idolizes the nuclear lifestyle despite not having it, and my boyfriend wants kids, so I feel like I’ve put myself in a position to lose my idea of what I want. Sometimes I don’t even know if I want to be with a man. I feel sometimes that people will leave me if I just do what will work for me. I could put down my drink and I think of how it will affect others, not myself. I’ve always wanted to travel and get out but I know my boyfriend wants to stay with his family so I put it on the back burner. I’ve started to get anxious about me losing out on my life and what I want to do. It makes me think I’ve always lost out on so many opportunities. I want to try to start small. Making sure I have a good routine for myself that I won’t break and then try to apply that discipline to the rest of my life. I’m just not sure how.
Guys I need help. I feel so alone . Basically I have this compulsion where I feel the need to write everything but this stems from me being anxious about EVERYTHING. Like my mom came in my room and I was irritated and snapped, immediately regretted now I keep writing “don’t be mean to mom next time” but I keep thinking about it. Then I think about how I finally left my house today and all the surfaces I touched that could’ve been contaminated and now I’m writing “next time don’t touch this and this”. Then I think about all the things I need to be doing for this week and I’m writing “don’t forget to do this and this” even though I’ve written it 5 times already. This is what happens everyday btw. My brain always thinks about something I need to be doing and making me anxious that I’ll forget it which is why I write it down on my notes app. I’m sooo mentally exhausted I need help pls!! Anyone have any advice ? I used to think I need to stop the writing but really I need to stop the anxious thoughts coming into my head . People say I need to accept the thoughts and let it go but that’s too hard for me
Anyone struggle with this with having ocd?
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