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- 2y ago
Hocd
Why when I’m talking to someone my mind is telling me to say I’m gay when I’m not. Is it intrusive thoughts?
Why when I’m talking to someone my mind is telling me to say I’m gay when I’m not. Is it intrusive thoughts?
Yep those are intrusive thoughts. If thoughts cause you anxiety like they are then they are OCD. If you actually liked the thoughts you wouldn’t be posting here hahaha. When those thoughts come up just keep going with your conversation. Don’t need to pay attention to them or even agree with them. Say “OCD you are right I’m about to say I’m gay”. See what happens! Thoughts are just thoughts. Here’s a good article on HOCD: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/soocd-thoughts-and-symptoms
If it sounds like a duck and quacks like a duck....as the saying goes. Do the thoughts bother you and do you find that they produce anxiety and distress? If so, it may be worth looking into whether ERP treatment could benefit you. You can call us today for a free 15-minute call to get started. We provide full assessment and diagnosis to see if you meet criteria when you sign up for services.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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