I cough myself acting or saying certain things to get my boyfriend break up with me, since I don't wanna do it myself when I get break up urges... Does anyone do the same... what did u do in your experience?
I do the same. Self sabotage is one of my bad habits. Sometimes I still do want to be with that person but it's just my brain messing with it and I've ruined many relationships lol...I feel you
@♡jasper☆ This is exactly what I jus did and i regretted it but it was already too late
I don't know what to do to stop this... he understands my situation but still I can't help but feel like he deserves better.
@mobina I’m so sorry to hear:( I felt a bit guilty in a way like I was putting burden on him so I tried self sabotaging it but also in a sense trying to gain reassurance from my compulsiveness . For example If I had an uncertainty about a slight detail in our relationship , I would go straight to an impulsive state that made me look toxic but it was my way of coping with uncertainty thus blocking him over and over to reassure he still validates my worth and wanted to see if he has any moral standards for us , but it resulting in us breaking up. He refuses to wanna talk to me . I opened up to him bout my ocd couple days ago :( I don’t blame him for not wanting to speak to me after the gaslighting I put him thru jus to be an excuse to end it myself :( I would degrade him on his way of being a bf , making it seem like he was the bad guy when this entire time it was me and my ocd being the bad guys .
@Brian :) I thought about doing all the things you did, but still holding back on doing anything extreme whenever I get the urge... he complains to me whenever we argue that I try to paint him as a bad guy in every conversation... The last part of your comment hits too close to the home for me :(...
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Does anyone else unintentionally self sabotage their relationships? I tend to seek so much reassurance that they get sick of me. I only seek reassurance because I get scared that they're going to leave me (have abandonment issues) and then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because I worried so much that it ends up happening. I get trust issues about my partner cheating because I imagine worst case scenarios all the time and it really strains all of my relationships. Anyone else do this? What have you done to help?
Do yall ever reread old texts from a toxic ex and try and “solve” stuff constantly? We ended things 4 months ago and every day I go through old texts trying to prove I wasn’t the bad one, make SURE she was toxic, “solve” a random toxic moment I remember and make sure I have ALL the details remembered accurately and that I’m not misremembering it. It’s like im still living in the relationship. It’s draining and will not stop. Is this an OCD thing? How is it fixed?
Everyday I wake up and start searching for reason to breakup with my partner. I feel utterly confused by relationships and dating. Not to mention, I’m autistic and this has always been a huge struggle for me. In fact, it led me to both diagnoses of ASD and OCD. I can see there are some things I am not happy with in my current relationship and I understand that, but when does it become too much? I started having limerence over a random person because my brain just wants an out so fast. I told myself that I wouldn’t until I get proper help (medication, constant erp therapy etc). Every time I think about breaking up I start sobbing and my body vehemently rejects it. Its really confusing and disorienting for me and cant trust a damn thought in me. I’m scared that I’m just taking him along for the ride and potentially will severely fuck him up emotionally because of this. I guess thats where I can feel the OCD. My fear of being a bad person and the people around me being bad people. I dont know if I need advice because I think this may be me searching for a compulsion to do. But I just want to get this out of my system. I have severe Disney-like unrealistic expectations sometimes. I had to maladaptive daydream all the time growing up to get out of my traumatic upbringing and brain (tbh). I still do. I am aware of that and try to put myself into check. I just cant stop comparing my friends own beautiful relationships to my own. Most of them are in the “engagement” stage of their relationships. Even though it’s ridiculous, all of them have worked on it for many years at this point.
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