Can someone just let me know?

A while ago I had seen this video of saying not to settle because you can have all the great things in a partner and be super attracted to them. Well I love everything about him truly he’s so patient kind etc. but now my mind is fixated on how sometimes I don’t actually think this person is attractive but sometimes I do. Is this normal in a relationship?? Because my brain won’t let it go to the point that every time I look at them I’m checking to see if I think they’re attractive. I’m worried I don’t think it enough???

Username: natalievrobel

Date posted: 71d ago

This is my exact experience with my partner! It’s gotten to the point where I’ll find her attractive and then my OCD chimes in insisting I’m lying to myself (when I know rationally I’m not!). That’s why I’d say it sounds like rocd. Of course, even after my OCD diagnoses I doubt if I have OCD… but that’s ocd for you. You’re not alone and you’re definitely attracted to him!

Username: Sunshineflowers7

Date posted: 70d ago

I am going through this right now too. You are not alone. Try to accept your partner's physical flaws- we all have them. Focus on the person beyond the face and body. Focus on shared values and how the person treats you. I'm trying to learn this myself. This is part of acceptance.