Am I choosing my beliefs about God's love, or do others misunderstand me?

What should I do about this conversation I had?

TW - Value in God's eyes I've been very depressed with the thought that God loves the Jews more and gave them the promises and went to the Jews first, even as Jesus, and initially the Gentiles were left out. And one of the few people I talk to about this is my aunt. But still, nobody really seems to understand me, and everyone tries to prove that I'm wrong, and she is no exception. But, not talking about that, now I get to what I am asking: The other day I was talking to her and she told me, like she had several times before, that we all get to make our own decisions about what we believe, speaking of my interpretations of some verses in the Bible. I responded, "I didn't choose to believe this way -- I don't want to believe this way." But she responded, "We all do choose how to believe. That is why nobody can choose for us." Any input on this would be helpful. Do you think she's right, that I'm choosing to believe this way? Do you think she could possibly just not understand my situation? Do you think I should tell her something like I am not understanding her perspective, thinking that everyone always has a choice to choose what they believe? I don't know what to say, or if I should even say anything...

Religion & Spirituality OCD

Username: NicaNica

Date posted: 1y ago

This is a theological and philosophical discussion that your OCD is latching onto because you care about your religion. But I don’t know any religion that says it isn’t a choice since they all have to grab me with nonbelievers and converting as many people as possible, so yes it’s a choice.

Username: ThrasymedesThrasymedes

Date posted: 1y ago

For your OCD, it is better if you just sit with the uncertainty, whatever it is you are uncertain about. As for what a person believes (uncertainty included), they don't consciously choose it, their brain is simply convinced of it. If a person puts on pants then that person's brain will be convinced they are wearing pants. They can attempt to believe they aren't wearing pants all they want, but they will still know they are wearing pants. The most a person can consciously do to convince their brain of something is to choose what information their brain is exposed to. Whether their brain excepts that information as truth is out of their hands.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I agree that it is a person's choice to follow a religion. What I was referring to was something more like a deep down knowledge/belief that something is true. Something similar to how some atheists might mention that they wish they did believe in a God but don't (and we aren't talking about whether or not atheism is correct at the moment, this is just an example of the situation). This is despite the fact that they could decide to follow a theistic religion, but deep down, they wouldn't believe it. And, perhaps a better example, believing in the love of your parents. Maybe you want to believe that your parents love you, but deep down you don't feel that it is so, maybe for some reason or another. You can say, "I choose to believe that my parents love me," but by saying that can you really make yourself believe that statement? What I'm saying is this: to me, I see things in verses that give me a sense that maybe God loves Jews more. For example, in a passage Jesus referred to the Jews as the children and the Gentiles as dogs -- pet dogs that you would love, but still dogs (if you want to know the verse I can find it for you). Looking in the face of that fact, among others, I feel like God sees me just as He said -- a dog. All the verses that make me feel similarly down are overwhelming to me, like too much evidence to say that I really believe that God loves me the same. Yes, I could say, "God loves me just as much, and always has," but can I truly, reasonably believe it? This is a confusing topic for me, and it's hard to put what I mean into words, but I hope that made some sense

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I really tried to believe that God loved me the same. But I just kept coming to the same conclusion, every time I looked into it. In the face of some of these verses, it is seriously hard to believe that God loves me the same.

Username: Brooklyn33

Date posted: 5y ago

Ugh, I went to my therapist today and she said in the last minutes of the session: No, but who knows. Some people with forty years or something discover their sexuality is other. We are here to stop make you obsessing and worrying. The theme is not important, so who knows. And it's like "thaaaaank you", know Im afraid for all the week with this in my head. What a bad way of portraying it, seriously. I know it is true and that is okay, and I know who I feel about it but these thought only make my rumination go wild. In some way is important to choose your words. She is great and all but sometimes I CAN'T.

Username: Brooklyn33

Date posted: 5y ago

Is so tiring having HOCD/SOOCD and TOCD and explain to others... If you open to people they don't understand at all and just say some shit like: "Maybe you are this" "Maybe you are that" and maybe you can eat my ass, I guess. Listen, if the problem was I have to decide or not to be something, that would be beautiful. Then I just choose one and I will be happy with my life. But, wow, you know, I CAN'T CHOOSE.

Username: woahman

Date posted: 2y ago

Do u believe that you can control the mind or not?

So ist just about ocd, I think I have a really bad anxiety right now about this topic. So i used to believe that i cant control my mind and i have to accept every thought but deep down it made me feel like a victim that i always have to accept how i feel and what i think, theres no other way... one day i had enough of this, because i saw that others who are doing this for years are still having the same thoughts, and i still felt bad and had the same thoughts to and i decided that i will find something else. So i found a good youtuve channel where they teach you that youre the creator of your emotions and you can control your mind. I learned that i have anxiety and low moods cause i have negative beliefs about myself and the world which i need to change then these feelings will not be strong. It helped so much and i saw that its better then just observing it and moving on, bc you actually see the problem and not avoid it. It helped me alot. Then today i had a negative emotions and i started to see what im telling myself, what thoughts i have, and this time i actually got lost in my mind. Or as others said i got into the rabbit hole of negative thinking. And i couldnt get out and i was so desperate that this isnt helping me either... Trying to control your mind and change beliefs just makes me more stressed, but just accepting it and moving on still will not help,cause i will still will have the thoughts and emotions without knowing why i constantly have it. What do yall think, are you the creater of your emotions, can you control the mind or not?

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