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- 6y
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It's good that you're giving her the space that she's asked for. If you appear needy to her, it'll make you less attractive in her eyes. Try to better yourself instead of thinking on her. Do something new, maybe like working out? But be proud of yourself. Someone asked me for space too. Sometimes it's hard to provide it but I've held out for over a week, and I feel good about myself because of it.
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- 6y
She wants space and you have to respect that. BUT you also get to decide what you want from a relationship, and if the space is making you miserable and the relationship no longer seems worth it, you have every right to walk away.
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- 6y
FYI, you don't have to be okay with that. I once had a BF decide he needed a break after a month. I told him either we ARE or ARE NOT in a relationship, because I wasn't going to put my life on pause for someone who wasn't infatuated with me. So, if this is someone who really matters to you...do your thing. But a break is a break. Feel free to date around and live life. There are a lot of amazing fish in the sea.
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- 6y
I really appreciate your guys responses. It helps a lot knowing people are experiencing the same thing. I’m working on 2 days and it’s tough right now but I know it’ll get better. She does contact me every once in a while and I usually keep it short and sweet
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- 23w
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
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- 18w
Me and my significant other have been dating for a while now we are both in the military and we both went to a remote location ever sense we have been here I’ve been so insecure we with each other 24/7 back home and it’s not the same here now I constantly nick pick at her about other guys. If I see her look at a guy too long or if I see her laugh with them anything involving someone else that is male I get super uncomfortable and almost even jealous that someone else has her attention she talked to me yesterday night and said she’s been having thought of being on her own and leaving me which honestly broke me we are still togather but I guess she wants her space so we are not spending much time together or talking much I guess pretty much a "break" I know she’s not the type to go around a mess with another person she truly wants to find herself again and see if she truly wants to be with me I guess and I have to admit i was in the wrong for sure I would be controlling in ways and was someone I didn’t wanna be and always on defense mode for any person talking to her that was a guy. And now it caused her to want a “break from me I talked to my mom because moms are always right ? And she told me I was definitely in the wrong no one wants to be with someone who is controlling and insecure etc my mom pretty much told me she was her own person before our relationship and it’s come to trust at the end of the day and that I can’t control the narrative I just need other opinions on what to do to help save us and my self
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- 17w
I broke up with my boyfriend today because of how bad my anxiety had gotten I couldn’t tell what was my heart and what was my head. I’m heartbroken because I feel like I lost my best friend and I truly do have love for him and want him in my future. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We broke up because I’m not on medication for my anxiety and have a doctor’s appointment coming up on Wednesday to see about getting some. I still feel anxious after our breaks but I feel guilty to admit that I do feel better. I’m still just anxious in general a little and I don’t know why. We had decided to stay in touch but not on a daily or even weekly basis, just because there is no hate in our relationship just pure love. I’m just so scared and sad that I really will lose him and be all alone.
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