Is it a gut feeling or OCD

I just have this overwhelming feeling at the moment that ‘this isn’t right’ and ‘you don’t really love him’ etc. It’s not even a million intrusive thoughts, just a feeling. I have broken up with majority of my ex’s in the past, so I fear that this feeling is the same one I have had before ending things with someone. I stupidly went back over messages to a friend when I knew I was going to end a previous relationship and in those messages I was saying ‘it just doesn’t feel right I need to end it’. And I did and I felt relieved after. But I don’t want to end it, I love my partner deeply. He is my best friend and we have a great relationship. Any help out there would be great right now if anyone can relate.

Relationship OCD

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a choice. I love my partner deeply as well, but there are plenty of times where I don’t feel anything because really…what is there to feel? The feeling of butterflies etc actually means your nervous and that happens in the early days of dating, any longer than that it could actually be a red flag because your not comfortable. What if your sad one day? Do you still expect yourself to be happy and excited to see your partner? - no. We have this expectation we should always “feel something” and be excited and “feel love” but that’s not the case, we should actually normalise the calm moments where we can simply chill and just enjoy each other company. This expectation is the worst for ROCD because it uses this expectation to convince us somethings not right and they’re not the one. I can’t tell how you feel with your partner, this is just how I’ve interpreted your post. But I hope this helps!

Username: Honeyshark Honeyshark

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

People with OCD don’t have gut feelings just OCD. It helped me a lot to hear that cuz I was going to listen to my OCD pretending it was gut feelings.

Username: Sigrid Sigrid

Date posted: 1y ago

I relate to your story. I have had ROCD since 20 years (without knowing what it was) and have been torn between divorcing and staying. I have always fought against my thoughts, from a belief that if I really need to divorce I will know and not be so anxious about it. As long as the anxiousness is there, then it is the OCD talking. It is only recently I found out I actually have OCD and have started ERP to heal. But somewhere deep down I apparently knew that life choices shouldn’t be based on fear. I wish you all the best.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

This was extremely helpful!!! I really like that you said "as long as the anxiousness is there, then it is the OCD talking".

Username: you.are.enoughyou.are.enough

Date posted: 1y ago

That question is one of the hardest things about having ROCD. My biggest fear is that I'm ignoring a gut feeling. I hate it so much.

Username: A. V.A. V.

Date posted: 1y ago

i'm feeling exactly the same way right now. i have this feeling that we should break up but i don't want to. it's like i feel there are still a lot of things we can do together and we can improve our relationship. i have an appointment with my therapist today and i will be talking to them about this issue. also, if your relationship is good, maybe you shouldn't break up. i don't know you or your partner so i can't say much more

Username: BubbaBoo12

Date posted: 3y ago

I know this is going to seem like reassurance seeking which it 100% is but I’ve been struggling on the same thought for a long time now. The thought of breaking up with my significant other has been going through my head for months now and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to break up with him but my OCD is making me feel like I have no choice to and it’s starting to make me feel like that’s my only option to happiness, it’s all starting to feel so real. Any thoughts or advice? Or anyone else go through this or something similar?

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

Feeling something is “not right”

I hope this doesn’t come across as a reassurance I’m wondering if a trait of OCD can make you feel like something is “off” in your relationship, almost like something is not right and that’s why you have to leave. I feel like deep down (in my heart) that I love my partner but I can’t get over this ”off feeling”, I’m absolutely terrified that it means that I’m just suppressing the truth (lying to myself) and I don’t actually want to be with him. I’m so lost with what to do or how to think, or even feel.

Username: cam1724

Date posted: 1y ago

Please help me, my relationship ocd is so bad 😞

It has completely switched to me being scared I don’t want to be with him. I’ve been struggling for days. I’ve been googling stuff all day too. And then my friend asked me “do you actually like him?” And it’s been stuck in my head. And then I answered yes but my head was like do you really though? Can it really convince you that you don’t and that you’re lying to yourself? And can you feel like you’re lying to them about it all? It makes me feel sick. And then my friend said “I think you’re just second guessing things because you’ve never been in a healthy relationship” my mind keeps going to “what if you really are not mean to be together? You know deep down. What if you’re having all these thoughts because you just aren’t mean to be?” And I don’t have like insane butterflies or infatuation with him like I did my previous partners, but they were so abusive and toxic. Im so terrified my mind will convince me to break up with him and I don’t want to 😞

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