How are we supposed to manage our mental health and our kids/marriages/homes? I'm so sad I can't be in the moment because of this disorder. I hate it. My kids deserve to have a present mom.
I’m not married (yet), I hope I’m the future I will be and will have children. I worry often about this, I also want to be a present wife/mother but honestly we can only do our best. Try to accept uncertainty and observe rather than react as much as you can, life is short and you deserve to enjoy every moment with your children. I bet you’re a great mum anyway, sometimes we are very hard on ourselves, it’s something that comes along with this disease of the mind.
Thank you for your kind words. Its really difficult and I always worry my kids will have ocd too. It runs in my family too. My dad has it and his dad has it too. It's so hard.
@Mama_m02 My mom and I have ocd but my sisters don’t and my son doesn’t. If your kids did have it you would be able to help them once you’re done your erp.
Erp therapy even though it takes time and energy in the short term because it will help you lessen how much ocd occupies your time and mental energy. And self compassion and forgiveness for not being able to do more as a mom because of ocd.
Thanks. You're right. It's hard to not give myself grace.
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I just wanted to ask any mothers their experience with having children & the positive experiences they’ve had despite their diagnosis (even the small moments of joy)? I have always yearned to have children & grow a family however recently OCD has made me question this desire (though when I’m back to thinking rationally my heart knows I’m meant for motherhood). though I’m not oblivious to how difficult it must be, I thought it would be nice to see the good amongst the bad, not just for me but for anyone else feeling a similar way 🫶🏼
I have lived with OCD forever but I haven’t had a major flare up since I was like 8 years old… I feel like I will never be normal again. I’m a mom to two kids we just bought a house and I have my dream job and I just got a new car and I can’t SNAP out of it… I keep obsessing that I’m going to be stuck feeling like this forever. It originally started with “what if” I harm my kids because I snap and not it’s basically turned into I’ll never be or feel normal again and this is it. I will never be able to care for my kids alone again, and this is the new me. Can anyone relate? I want to take SSRI but I’m so scared I took it for 2 days and I had immense depression where I wanted to like run away from myself… Please help, I’m also spinning on the fact I need to go to an in patient facility to be normal and I feel so guilty since I have 2 kids, any insight would be greatly appreciated!
Feel like I’ve been stuck in a spiral for a while. My OCD has come in waves over the years but this time it has been so debilitating. I’m in therapy, but I really struggle with sitting with uncertainty. My therapist will tell me to say, “Maybe, maybe not”. But so many of my fears and so much of my uncertainty feels too risky to just, “not figure out”. And if it’s not just thoughts, it’s actions or events. Whether it’s an event from years ago or 5 minutes ago, I feel like I’m ruminating and trying to perform memory recall. I analyze every action, thought, decision. I’m full of guilt and dread all the time. And then I realize how much it’s affecting my family and ability to be a fun and present parent. Most days I’m hardly functional outside of meeting my kid’s basic needs. I feel like I’m wasting so much time, but I just can’t get myself out of this constant loop. Every day brings a new event or theme or thought. I know I need to sit with the uncertainty but it’s so hard.
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