- Username
- spottedturtle77
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’m so sorry your dad doesn’t believe you! That’s very sad and I hope he can come around someday. Right now, don’t focus so much on self diagnosing yourself to him. Instead, focus on the fact that you’re suffering and you need help to fix it. I would sit him down and calmly explain to him: “Dad, I’ve been having a really hard time lately, and I need you to hear me: I need professional help. I’m not totally sure what’s going on, but it’s beyond what I’m capable of handling on my own. My life, my relationships, my schoolwork, my happiness is all suffering right now. I’m not asking you to understand or fix what’s happening, I’m just asking you to believe me when I say I need real help. I’ve done everything I can to fix it on my own; it’s not working. I can’t do this alone.”
To add on, if he still doesn’t help you, I’d go to your school therapist and tell them.
If he yells, tell him: “i understand that you’re frustrated, but there’s no reason to yell at me for needing help. Why don’t you take some time to cool down and we can talk again later.” It sounds like therapy would also be great for managing your relationship with your dad, which seems pretty strained to say the least. You’re going to need to get good at setting and enforcing personal boundaries with him.
I second the advice to go to the school therapist or counselor if you have one. That’s a great point.
I would try to explain it to him and also I would look online for a good therapist!
Thanks that really helps I think I’ll try to talk to him again, the only thing is the last time I tried talking to him, he just yelled at me for it so I don’t really know how to handle that
Anyone got advice on how to explain to my parents/friends that I have OCD and need help, I can’t cope alone anymore. I need support from someone.
I have the worst contamination ocd and I really need help. I told my mom about it and she told me I was crazy and need to get over it. I told my dad and he understands (he also has ocd) but doesn’t think I need to see a doctor. I literally live my life everyday worrying about being clean and I know it’s totally not normal, so I just want to go back living a normal life. And my parents don’t think I need help. What do I do? :(
So I'm kind of fighting this baddle alone in my head, I feel like I'm going crazy now that I actually think about it, let me explain. So I think I have ocd but I'm confused, during the day it barely ever bothers me to the point where I barely notice it , but at night before I go to bed I feel like everything has to be in it's place. Nothing out of place, nothing out of place , nothing out of place. Everything has to be perfectly straight EVERY THING. Certain things I have to do a certain amount of times. Some things I MUST do everyday. I've tried to talk to my parents about it, but they just blow it off saying it's no big deal, they don't understand what I'm going through ,just to go to bed is at times like a warzone. I sometimes walk from my bathroom after brushing my teeth with my eyes closed so I can't see anything out of place because if I do it's like Domino's I see one thing after another that's out of place, some things idk why they look out of place and I spend a lot of time just moving them back and forth and back and forth till my brain finally sais it's fixed. I asked my dad if I could stay in his and mom's room for the night, because I am less urged to stay up all night cleaning when I'm distracted by other people or when I know "Hay if u stay up cleaning their going to be Mad at you". And it sounds wierd coming from your 14 year old daughter to ask such a thing, at this age you should be old enough to manage your own nightmares you know what I mean?? He told me to ask mom , mostly because he was half asleep and ready to go to bed. That eavning when me and Mom were sitting across from each other , I couldn't come up with the courage to ask , it was too wierd , too stupid, too crazy of a consept to even try to explain. So I went outside on the back porch and cried , she came out and asked me what was wrong and I said nothing, after trying to explain to dad I just wanted to be alone. Of course she wouldn't leave she asked again till I finally told her, " I, I think I have OCD and I , don't know how to handle it, I mean" I continued," I stayed up till 3:00 last night fixing things I thought were crooked or out of place" I couldn't talk any more without choking ip so I stopped. She said to me " well OCD isn't bad , it has it's benifits you know" I shrug , wondering how such an annoyance could be helpful in any way. "Well I was just making sure you were ok" she said going back into the house. I wanted desperately for her to stay out there with me talk about it and possibly go over some stuff that could help, bit we didn't. Now don't get me wrong my parents are amazing they love their kids very much and are always there for us, they just don't understand. So after a late night of reaserch , joining an ameno, joining this app ,and of course YouTube , I am already feeling better. It's only been 2 days or less but I realized that giving in isn't helping and am taking it day by day, I feel crazy yes , sometimes I question if I'm just going crazy but. I know I can do it. Please share your tips on this desease?? I don't know what the technical turn for it is. But tips would be greatly appreciated. Also thank you for listening to my rant.
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