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I’m so sorry your dad doesn’t believe you! That’s very sad and I hope he can come around someday. Right now, don’t focus so much on self diagnosing yourself to him. Instead, focus on the fact that you’re suffering and you need help to fix it. I would sit him down and calmly explain to him: “Dad, I’ve been having a really hard time lately, and I need you to hear me: I need professional help. I’m not totally sure what’s going on, but it’s beyond what I’m capable of handling on my own. My life, my relationships, my schoolwork, my happiness is all suffering right now. I’m not asking you to understand or fix what’s happening, I’m just asking you to believe me when I say I need real help. I’ve done everything I can to fix it on my own; it’s not working. I can’t do this alone.”
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To add on, if he still doesn’t help you, I’d go to your school therapist and tell them.
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If he yells, tell him: “i understand that you’re frustrated, but there’s no reason to yell at me for needing help. Why don’t you take some time to cool down and we can talk again later.” It sounds like therapy would also be great for managing your relationship with your dad, which seems pretty strained to say the least. You’re going to need to get good at setting and enforcing personal boundaries with him.
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I second the advice to go to the school therapist or counselor if you have one. That’s a great point.
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I would try to explain it to him and also I would look online for a good therapist!
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Thanks that really helps I think I’ll try to talk to him again, the only thing is the last time I tried talking to him, he just yelled at me for it so I don’t really know how to handle that
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