I see a lot of people with obsessions over being gay, but not so much about being bisexual. My obsessions have switched to the fear of being bisexual and it feels so real at times š I donāt want to be anything but straight
I obsess about bisexuality and the fear that my sexuality will suddenly change. Googling is a compulsion of mine, often times I get paralyzed by all the articles on the fluidity of sexuality.
@C181913530 Ohhh my gosh me too! When people say sexuality is a spectrum š¦
@C181913530 Yeah, that scares me too. Or fluidity of gender
I know it's hard guys. This is has been my main obsession for a long time but there is light at the end of the tunnel. My advice would be to see if you can lean into the uncertainty of not knowing and pushing through the anxiety until it starts to come down. If it becomes too much, that's okay too. Best wishes
Hey there, it sounds like this is causing you a lot of distress right now. Your OCD will latch on to anything you care and value about the most. OCD is a doubting disorder so will create doubt around anything and will crave 100000% certainty for. And even if we could give it 20000% certainty it still wouldnāt be happy and would still throw āwhat ifā questions at you which would then trigger more compulsions/ ruminationās and within seconds the OCD cycle starts againā¦ā¦. Exhausting isnāt it, but it doesnāt have to be! Learn to sit with those thoughts, donāt engage with them and complete the compulsions itās asking just sit with the thoughts. Allow that anxiety to come down because eventually it will. My therapist taught me to challenge the thoughts and one amazing quote I loved was āmaybe you are, maybe your notā. This allows you to step in to that uncertainty and accept the uncertainty. This then takes away the power and control your OCD has over you. I would really advice ERP being done alongside an OCD specialist and Iāll attach a great link around what ERP is and a free 15 minute consultation. Remember your strong, you can do it and learn to live a happy life again ! 15 min consultation https://www.treatmyocd.com/calendar?src=homepage&_gl=1*dpgbx1*_gcl_aw*R0NMLjE2MzY2NTk5MTQuQ2p3S0NBaUFtN09NQmhBUUVpd0FydkdpM0QwaEhYczN1Q0ZabWhVRUF4RndaaDJoa3AxbTRnek9TRWQweUJ4U3pqeU1SRU9FNGVwZkFSb0NNY0VRQXZEX0J3RQ.. What is ERP https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-is-exposure-and-response-prevention-therapy These are also great to read, to show you there is light at the end of the tunnel. OCD journey stories to recovery- https://www.treatmyocd.com/my-ocd-journey
I have this same obssesion man, and I been looking all over to find someone like me, I've been having this obssesion even longer than the gay one I think, I have done the math yet
When I was in therapy, my therapist would ask me āwhat is so bad about ___? (Your fear) what makes it feel so bad?ā And sitting with that question can be helpful. I would typically build off of that to do ERP in the form of a hierarchy and script while working with my therapist. Itās not something I did on my own. I hope this helps.
I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I donāt want, and then tries to convince me that I do. Itās painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I donāt want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but Iām terrified that one day Iāll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. Iāve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that Iām "bisexual." Iāve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge meātelling me, āYou donāt even know what love feels like.ā It wonāt shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that Iām a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
hi iām a lesbian! and i have known im a lesbian for a really long time and i have a sweet girlfriend of 1 year. it all started when i saw this masc lesbian come out as straight, after that i had my guy friend over and heās a sweet guy and he was flirting with me (he didnāt know i was gay) im not sure but i panicked and my brain froze and i was like ādo i like himā, ever since my brain has been over worked 24/7 for 2 months now and itās spiralling constantly. im trying to control it but all these thoughts are so disgusting and my brain tries to put him and i in scenarios that make me uncomfortable and i feel panic and i hate it. i have always been comfortable being a lesbian and i still am comfortable as a lesbian, but i dislike these thoughts i have about him and men and i want it to be over. i do not want to experiment with men even tho my brain is telling me i do, i find it disgusting and i dread it, i have a sweet girlfriend and i want to be with her forever, i do not imagine anything with any men and i hate these thoughts. im scared of becoming bisexual/straight one day and i hate hearing sexuality is fluid. its a whole mix of comphet and so-ocd
2 nights ago I saw something on my phone and it has now spiraled into me scared of being trans or being gay because i donāt want to beā¦ now i have a huge fear of what if i am gay and am attracted to woman or what if im not comfortable in my body and want to turn into a man. Itās freaking me out - my ocd always makes me question my character! Has anyone experienced this š©
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