help!

I obsess about bisexuality and the fear that my sexuality will suddenly change. Googling is a compulsion of mine, often times I get paralyzed by all the articles on the fluidity of sexuality.

I know it's hard guys. This is has been my main obsession for a long time but there is light at the end of the tunnel. My advice would be to see if you can lean into the uncertainty of not knowing and pushing through the anxiety until it starts to come down. If it becomes too much, that's okay too. Best wishes

Hey there, it sounds like this is causing you a lot of distress right now. Your OCD will latch on to anything you care and value about the most. OCD is a doubting disorder so will create doubt around anything and will crave 100000% certainty for. And even if we could give it 20000% certainty it still wouldn’t be happy and would still throw “what if” questions at you which would then trigger more compulsions/ rumination’s and within seconds the OCD cycle starts again……. Exhausting isn’t it, but it doesn’t have to be! Learn to sit with those thoughts, don’t engage with them and complete the compulsions it’s asking just sit with the thoughts. Allow that anxiety to come down because eventually it will. My therapist taught me to challenge the thoughts and one amazing quote I loved was “maybe you are, maybe your not”. This allows you to step in to that uncertainty and accept the uncertainty. This then takes away the power and control your OCD has over you. I would really advice ERP being done alongside an OCD specialist and I’ll attach a great link around what ERP is and a free 15 minute consultation. Remember your strong, you can do it and learn to live a happy life again ! 15 min consultation https://www.treatmyocd.com/calendar?src=homepage&_gl=1*dpgbx1*_gcl_aw*R0NMLjE2MzY2NTk5MTQuQ2p3S0NBaUFtN09NQmhBUUVpd0FydkdpM0QwaEhYczN1Q0ZabWhVRUF4RndaaDJoa3AxbTRnek9TRWQweUJ4U3pqeU1SRU9FNGVwZkFSb0NNY0VRQXZEX0J3RQ.. What is ERP https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-is-exposure-and-response-prevention-therapy These are also great to read, to show you there is light at the end of the tunnel. OCD journey stories to recovery- https://www.treatmyocd.com/my-ocd-journey

I have this same obssesion man, and I been looking all over to find someone like me, I've been having this obssesion even longer than the gay one I think, I have done the math yet

When I was in therapy, my therapist would ask me “what is so bad about ___? (Your fear) what makes it feel so bad?” And sitting with that question can be helpful. I would typically build off of that to do ERP in the form of a hierarchy and script while working with my therapist. It’s not something I did on my own. I hope this helps.