I see a lot of people with obsessions over being gay, but not so much about being bisexual. My obsessions have switched to the fear of being bisexual and it feels so real at times š I donāt want to be anything but straight
I obsess about bisexuality and the fear that my sexuality will suddenly change. Googling is a compulsion of mine, often times I get paralyzed by all the articles on the fluidity of sexuality.
@C181913530 Ohhh my gosh me too! When people say sexuality is a spectrum š¦
@C181913530 Yeah, that scares me too. Or fluidity of gender
I know it's hard guys. This is has been my main obsession for a long time but there is light at the end of the tunnel. My advice would be to see if you can lean into the uncertainty of not knowing and pushing through the anxiety until it starts to come down. If it becomes too much, that's okay too. Best wishes
Hey there, it sounds like this is causing you a lot of distress right now. Your OCD will latch on to anything you care and value about the most. OCD is a doubting disorder so will create doubt around anything and will crave 100000% certainty for. And even if we could give it 20000% certainty it still wouldnāt be happy and would still throw āwhat ifā questions at you which would then trigger more compulsions/ ruminationās and within seconds the OCD cycle starts againā¦ā¦. Exhausting isnāt it, but it doesnāt have to be! Learn to sit with those thoughts, donāt engage with them and complete the compulsions itās asking just sit with the thoughts. Allow that anxiety to come down because eventually it will. My therapist taught me to challenge the thoughts and one amazing quote I loved was āmaybe you are, maybe your notā. This allows you to step in to that uncertainty and accept the uncertainty. This then takes away the power and control your OCD has over you. I would really advice ERP being done alongside an OCD specialist and Iāll attach a great link around what ERP is and a free 15 minute consultation. Remember your strong, you can do it and learn to live a happy life again ! 15 min consultation https://www.treatmyocd.com/calendar?src=homepage&_gl=1*dpgbx1*_gcl_aw*R0NMLjE2MzY2NTk5MTQuQ2p3S0NBaUFtN09NQmhBUUVpd0FydkdpM0QwaEhYczN1Q0ZabWhVRUF4RndaaDJoa3AxbTRnek9TRWQweUJ4U3pqeU1SRU9FNGVwZkFSb0NNY0VRQXZEX0J3RQ.. What is ERP https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-is-exposure-and-response-prevention-therapy These are also great to read, to show you there is light at the end of the tunnel. OCD journey stories to recovery- https://www.treatmyocd.com/my-ocd-journey
I have this same obssesion man, and I been looking all over to find someone like me, I've been having this obssesion even longer than the gay one I think, I have done the math yet
When I was in therapy, my therapist would ask me āwhat is so bad about ___? (Your fear) what makes it feel so bad?ā And sitting with that question can be helpful. I would typically build off of that to do ERP in the form of a hierarchy and script while working with my therapist. Itās not something I did on my own. I hope this helps.
2 nights ago I saw something on my phone and it has now spiraled into me scared of being trans or being gay because i donāt want to beā¦ now i have a huge fear of what if i am gay and am attracted to woman or what if im not comfortable in my body and want to turn into a man. Itās freaking me out - my ocd always makes me question my character! Has anyone experienced this š©
iām scared iām bi and in denial and trying to convince myself im straight.
Hi everyone, Iāve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe Iām bisexual ā that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, Iāve been spiraling. The thing is: I donāt want this to be true. It scares me. I donāt feel romantic attraction to women, Iāve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women ā and that makes me feel broken or like Iāve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I donāt want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now Iām stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: āWhat if Iām just in denial?ā āWhat if Iām not really straight?ā āWhat if this is why my libido is low?ā Itās exhausting, and I donāt know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split ā romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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