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- 6y
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 6y
OCD is so creative I swear haha! You are not a predator. Older people who prey on teenagers are attracted to the power differential. You are attracted to your equals. You are almost certainly going to remail attracted to your equals.
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- 6y
You won’t know for sure what you’ll be attracted to when you grow up until you grow up. If you can work to accept that uncertainty, you can definitely overcome this OCD theme. Like whatever you like right now! No use worrying about that bridge until you come to it.
- Date posted
- 6y
I'm a teen too, i understand. That thought always crossed my mind!
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 6y
Are you still interested in little children things? Do small children make good friends for you, do they have the same interests, problems, maturity? They do not, and this is a MAIN reason you are neither good friends with not attracted to children. The same will be true as you get older. Teenage problems, interests, maturity, most of it, will no longer interest you intimately. You may still cate about problems teenagers face, as you probably still cate about the problems children face, but you are not in it together. A major part of intimacy is being on the same level, having the same value and passions and interests, etc. You are not just attracted to the physical fearures of teens, though I know thats part of it, but you are attracted to the fact that you share something ELSE. This is why when I say only predators are attracted to minors (when they are not minors), because something besides all that you can share turns them on. They like how easy they can take advantage of younger people. Thats a MAIN selling point. I know I sound like im talking out my ass. Im 29 years old. I remember being attracted to other teenagers, and I remember no longer being attracted to the. Their problems and focus and values and interests and drives were no longer my own. We dont share anything important in common. I did have friends who were teenagers just a few years ago, but the power and maturity differential was easily felt, and I had no attraction to them. I know you all are facing OCD and these thoughts are because of OCD and are not rational and wont respond much to rational argument, but I remember SO WELL having a fear similar to this, I just wanted to share some knowledge and experience. Sorry I talk so much, and this is your space to talk, not ancient ass me hahahaaaa god I feel old
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- 6y
That’s because reassurance never lasts. You’re going to have to sit with the uncertainty you feel right now. Be unsure and scared! It’s okay! It’s seeking certainty and safety over and over again from your fear that’s actually feeding it. If you let yourself just feel the fear when it hit and let it naturally subside every time, you’d notice in a few weeks that it would diminish dramatically, as would the thoughts.
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- 6y
Sit with that feeling! It’s okay to feel that! Let it in. And don’t look for reassurance or certainty that your fears won’t come true. Realistically, they probably won’t, but you should stop looking to be sure and take the risk.
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- 6y
I really hope so! But what if I like the way they look and their ‘baby faces’ and their lack of beards and all that? What if I never change or remain attracted to my equals?
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- 6y
I know :// I’m just so scared! I don’t want to grow up now!
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- 6y
I’m so glad I’m not alone with this! Do you fear growing up?
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- 6y
It’s so nice to know that you got over this sort of fear! I appreciate you taking the time to write all that so thank you so much :) I just worry that I’ll grow old and miss being young and stupid and excited. So I’ll fall in love with someone who possesses those qualities? If that makes sense! Like, I’ll be 40 years old and see a cute teenager and find him exciting... ahhh I don’t know!
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- 6y
I’m stressing out a lil again :(
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- 6y
You’re right. Compulsions only add fuel to the fire and I need to stop. I just keep thinking my whole life is now ruined. I don’t want to age anymore!
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- Date posted
- 22w
Ever since POCD hit, I've come to a point where I've gotten desensitized on what's right and wrong. I think fiction and porn hasn't helped either. The only thing I worry about now is if I'm attracted to someone below 18 or view sexual content of someone below 18. And I think perhaps this has made me numb to situations that are wrong, even in cases for myself. In the past week, I've seen two posts about people just turning 18 and relationships/sexualization of them. The first post was someone on Twitter talking about this person being a predator. It was a screenshot of a Tiktok where a woman who is 23 said the kid she used to babysit at 13 just turned 18 and if she should ask her out. And to be honest, I felt nothing. I didn't regard it as wrong. My thought was "well, they're both adults now so whatever." The next post I saw today, and I feel like this was life trying to tell me something. I'm 18 and just turned 18 a few months ago. At 17 I realized I was become desensitized and justifying morally wrong things as a teen from porn and stuff, and POCD hit so I decided I wasn't going to be attracted to minors or sexualize them even if we're the same age. But I was thinking about the morality of stuff, like people turning 18 and being an adult and everything. And I was just kind of like, well as long as someone is 18 it doesn't matter and it's okay right? Well, today a KPOP Idol, Han Yujin, literally just turned 18. I was checking the Enhypen group out and the members ages now. Specifically Sunoo and Sunghoon because I had crushes on them but I did the rest of the members too. I did know Han Yujin was 17 before, but I checked his age and it said he was 18. And my first thought was, "oh, it's okay to like him now!" And then I saw he literally just turned 18 today. It made me feel weird, but I was thinking, well he's 18. He's an adult. So it's fine, right? Well, I opened Twitter and a Twitter post called for someone to report an account. I saw that the account in question had posted on Han Yujin's birthday. The post was "Han Yujin is 18 now. It's okay to sexualize him!" Or something along those lines. Something I myself had JUST thought about. The post had 24k likes and a few comments, with people saying it was gross, disgusting, predatory, etc. Apparently the person who made the post about Yujin was 18 though, maybe even only a few months older than Han Yujin. But no one cared and said it was disgusting and predatory/pedo either way. And now I'm sitting here, thinking about myself and my own morality. My morals seem to stop at someone being 18 and that's that. But that doesn't seem very moral, does it? Especially with the posts I saw and what just happened. I have this mindset and I'll still have it when I'm older and basically be a groomer and a pedophile. Everyone else seems to see and understand that dating someone or sexualizing them the moment they turn 18 is grooming, pedophilic, weird, gross, etc. but I don't have the same view and see it as okay. There are many more situations similar to this too. Where I've justified real relationships and fictional ones where someone knew someone as a minor, kid, and even in cases where they raised them. My argument every time is "nothing happened before 18, and they're an adult now." For fiction, I justify it so I can enjoy the fictional content, relationship, and sexual content of them. It just seems like I have a predatory and pedophilic mindset, and I don't think it will change with age.
- Date posted
- 21w
So, my main thing is that I've been worried about being attracted to and enjoying NSFW stuff of fictional characters. Specifically characters with unknown ages, possibilities of being a minor, an adult in high school, a character who ages up/becomes 18, and then young adult characters who are 18-25. I just wonder if it's pedophilic, creepy, morally wrong to like these characters? And if it'd be weird as I age to continue liking them in those ways or new characters? Like, some examples. I'm attracted to Mark from the show Invincible. But he's 17-19 in each season. I didn't like him in season 1, but when season 2 came out I realized I started feeling attracted to him. But I'm also afraid I will feel that attraction when seeing s1 of him at 17 and stuff. But anyways, I just worry that if I'm like 23+ if it'd be wrong to continue being sexually/romantically attracted to him and fantasizing about him since he's 18/19? Then, I like Genshin Impact and Honkai Star Rail characters. And most of them don't have canon ages. All you got is looks and maybe some in game context. Some characters have age ranges of like 15-20, 16-18, etc. Or are adults but people say they look like kids. And I am attracted to/like NSFW stuff of some characters like that. I worry that it's wrong to do so, since they could be underaged and might very likely be so? And there's also an anime I watch where a character is 18 but still in high school, and I am definitely attracted to him. I have also been attracted to, fantasized, liked nsfw content of characters who are at first minors but then become 18 or age up to much older. That worries me a lot too because I'm afraid I'll see the underage version (especially if they look more or less the same) and feel attracted or find something sexualizing them and like it/not know. I'm asking this about fictional characters from any media too. So like, video games, anime, manga, etc. I do worry a lot about video games, like more realistic ones. Because they're based off real face models. And voice actors and stuff. Like, I worry if I were older and still attracted to or liking nsfw stuff of a video game character who is like 18 or just turned 18, or has a young voice actor idk that it'd be creepy? I just don't know if it's pedophilic and weird, especially if I was like 21/22+ or way older than these characters and supposed age ranges and still liking them in these ways or being introduced to new characters in these scenarios and feeling sexual/romantic attraction and having fantasies or liking nsfw. Because I think about it in real life, and like, it would be weird to be attracted to/sexually fantasize about someone whose age you don't know, who could very likely be a minor, who is 18/19 but in high school, or you knew them as a teen/kid and watched them grow up, or once they turn 18 you sexualize them (because I have done that with fictional characters), or are just much younger than you in general, right?
- Date posted
- 14w
I have no idea anymore. I guess this all started with me worrying about whether I was gay, then whether I was a P, then worried about being just attracted to teenagers. After that I started freaking out about not feeling “grown up” enough. Like “I’m an adult wtf is wrong with me for seeing someone who is probably younger and thinking they’re physically attractive. Then I started overthinking not finding older adults (like 30 or 40) very attractive. Like ofc I’m probably not gonna find them attractive, they’re not anywhere close my age. Maybe the desires are half real. Maybe as a 21 yr old young adult I do find older teenagers (16+) somewhat physically attractive. I still think it’d be weird to date one. Maybe that’s the normal reaction I’m supposed to have. If not, please let me know. I just don’t wanna do anything illegal one day and I’m super scared I will. I can’t tell if the fear is my just being afraid of the law though, in which case I might actually just be a bad person. I hate that my brain is just rationalizing thoughts now. I feel like I can’t do the ERP thing of “just accept that the thoughts are there but don’t engage.” Like what? How can I just think a thought that might be so integral to my identity and just ignore it? If it’s all true and I don’t like people my age anymore then I have to know and plan around that, that could change my entire life. I’m rambling, my b.
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