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OCD is so creative I swear haha! You are not a predator. Older people who prey on teenagers are attracted to the power differential. You are attracted to your equals. You are almost certainly going to remail attracted to your equals.
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You won’t know for sure what you’ll be attracted to when you grow up until you grow up. If you can work to accept that uncertainty, you can definitely overcome this OCD theme. Like whatever you like right now! No use worrying about that bridge until you come to it.
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I'm a teen too, i understand. That thought always crossed my mind!
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Are you still interested in little children things? Do small children make good friends for you, do they have the same interests, problems, maturity? They do not, and this is a MAIN reason you are neither good friends with not attracted to children. The same will be true as you get older. Teenage problems, interests, maturity, most of it, will no longer interest you intimately. You may still cate about problems teenagers face, as you probably still cate about the problems children face, but you are not in it together. A major part of intimacy is being on the same level, having the same value and passions and interests, etc. You are not just attracted to the physical fearures of teens, though I know thats part of it, but you are attracted to the fact that you share something ELSE. This is why when I say only predators are attracted to minors (when they are not minors), because something besides all that you can share turns them on. They like how easy they can take advantage of younger people. Thats a MAIN selling point. I know I sound like im talking out my ass. Im 29 years old. I remember being attracted to other teenagers, and I remember no longer being attracted to the. Their problems and focus and values and interests and drives were no longer my own. We dont share anything important in common. I did have friends who were teenagers just a few years ago, but the power and maturity differential was easily felt, and I had no attraction to them. I know you all are facing OCD and these thoughts are because of OCD and are not rational and wont respond much to rational argument, but I remember SO WELL having a fear similar to this, I just wanted to share some knowledge and experience. Sorry I talk so much, and this is your space to talk, not ancient ass me hahahaaaa god I feel old
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That’s because reassurance never lasts. You’re going to have to sit with the uncertainty you feel right now. Be unsure and scared! It’s okay! It’s seeking certainty and safety over and over again from your fear that’s actually feeding it. If you let yourself just feel the fear when it hit and let it naturally subside every time, you’d notice in a few weeks that it would diminish dramatically, as would the thoughts.
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Sit with that feeling! It’s okay to feel that! Let it in. And don’t look for reassurance or certainty that your fears won’t come true. Realistically, they probably won’t, but you should stop looking to be sure and take the risk.
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I really hope so! But what if I like the way they look and their ‘baby faces’ and their lack of beards and all that? What if I never change or remain attracted to my equals?
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I know :// I’m just so scared! I don’t want to grow up now!
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I’m so glad I’m not alone with this! Do you fear growing up?
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It’s so nice to know that you got over this sort of fear! I appreciate you taking the time to write all that so thank you so much :) I just worry that I’ll grow old and miss being young and stupid and excited. So I’ll fall in love with someone who possesses those qualities? If that makes sense! Like, I’ll be 40 years old and see a cute teenager and find him exciting... ahhh I don’t know!
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I’m stressing out a lil again :(
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You’re right. Compulsions only add fuel to the fire and I need to stop. I just keep thinking my whole life is now ruined. I don’t want to age anymore!
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Also I read on tik tok or twitter that if u still feel connected to younger people that means you’re not progressing or maturing and that’s bad. I’m 25 and I’m at this odd stage in my life where I’m getting older but still feel like I’m 20-22. I feel like I’m behind people that are my age. I think it’s because I’m been bed rotting with severe depression for the past 4 years… but I’m scared this means I’m becoming a pedo in the future.
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Hello, I've struggled with possible OCD but it didn't involved POCD at first, at first it was basically me denying that I was ever a victim of grooming/pedophilia and how I was the real abuser towards my abusers despite the fact that I was the child, they were the adult, how is that possible??. Then eventually in 2023, I saw a video based on a FNF modder exposing him as a groomer/pedophile, and it was because when he was 17 he allegedly had an interaction with someone who was 15 that was nsfw. Now keep in mind, I was a victim of grooming/pedophilia especially since age 11 and even at 17, however I was also a bit of a promiscuous teen due to years of being groomed and I was having nsfw discussions/heavily sex positive convos with people who were 15/16/17 at 17 and I never considered how that could be inappropriate and my intent wasn't to be predatory but the fact that I was just simply exploring my sexuality, also a lot of the people I was doing this with, we were apart of a discord server that heavily encouraged NSFW convos between Teens and adults and it was made by an adult so bad environment overall made by an actual predator. However it didn't stop me in 2023 thinking that I was a pedophile as a teenager and I was genuinely worried and thought that I was a terrible person and I still do. I only did what I did because I was being hurt and thought it was okay, I never meant to hurt anyone and I at 19 literally convinced myself that I was a pedo in my under 18 teen years because of the age gap between me and my friends {1/2 years} and we had conversations that were sexual based even though I at 19 was dating my BF who was 22/23 at the time, I was 19 having sexual convos with adults, I at 19 had friends that were minors and our conversations were always appropriate and never nsfw or those same friends that I had previous convos with that were nsfw, {they were all either 17/18/19 and I was 19} our conversation topics have switched to more SFW ones unlike the ones we had when we were all minors so how could I be a pedo? and I freaked out about it, I couldn't concentrate in classes at all, it was a genuine nightmare. Eventually I did get better and realized that my behaviors were under duress and how I'm not actually a bad person and how I've changed as an adult and do not wish to harm anyone however I'm back on my cycle of worrying again and I've communicated to the people who I thought I affected and they all express no ill will or any anger and were never uncomfortable, do not think about it or just don't care/simply forgot. But Guilt eats me up like a stray dog. I also sometimes see people on twitter calling 17 year olds dating 15 or 16 year olds pedophiles or calling them "P diddy"
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Hi I just have a few questions! (Im 14 btw) Okay so basically I’m really worried I’ll become a pedo/I already am and I don’t know it yet. I’m also really scared if I SA someone, even tho I don’t want to and I’d never do something like that but I feel like this part of me is saying that I will and it’s really scaring me. I feel so alone and I’m so scared I’m a bad person on the inside and this isn’t ocd and I’m gonna unleash hell on this earth I’m so scared. I’ll get a thought like if I’m walking past someone random it will be like “What if you sa them?” And it scares me so bad I feel horrible for thinking that. Is this apart of it? I feel like I’m always fixated on the topic of sa to check if I would do something like that, I don’t know anymore I just feel like a bad person (btw I have not done anything like that to anyone!)
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