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- 5y ago
OCD is so creative I swear haha! You are not a predator. Older people who prey on teenagers are attracted to the power differential. You are attracted to your equals. You are almost certainly going to remail attracted to your equals.
You won’t know for sure what you’ll be attracted to when you grow up until you grow up. If you can work to accept that uncertainty, you can definitely overcome this OCD theme. Like whatever you like right now! No use worrying about that bridge until you come to it.
I'm a teen too, i understand. That thought always crossed my mind!
Are you still interested in little children things? Do small children make good friends for you, do they have the same interests, problems, maturity? They do not, and this is a MAIN reason you are neither good friends with not attracted to children. The same will be true as you get older. Teenage problems, interests, maturity, most of it, will no longer interest you intimately. You may still cate about problems teenagers face, as you probably still cate about the problems children face, but you are not in it together. A major part of intimacy is being on the same level, having the same value and passions and interests, etc. You are not just attracted to the physical fearures of teens, though I know thats part of it, but you are attracted to the fact that you share something ELSE. This is why when I say only predators are attracted to minors (when they are not minors), because something besides all that you can share turns them on. They like how easy they can take advantage of younger people. Thats a MAIN selling point. I know I sound like im talking out my ass. Im 29 years old. I remember being attracted to other teenagers, and I remember no longer being attracted to the. Their problems and focus and values and interests and drives were no longer my own. We dont share anything important in common. I did have friends who were teenagers just a few years ago, but the power and maturity differential was easily felt, and I had no attraction to them. I know you all are facing OCD and these thoughts are because of OCD and are not rational and wont respond much to rational argument, but I remember SO WELL having a fear similar to this, I just wanted to share some knowledge and experience. Sorry I talk so much, and this is your space to talk, not ancient ass me hahahaaaa god I feel old
That’s because reassurance never lasts. You’re going to have to sit with the uncertainty you feel right now. Be unsure and scared! It’s okay! It’s seeking certainty and safety over and over again from your fear that’s actually feeding it. If you let yourself just feel the fear when it hit and let it naturally subside every time, you’d notice in a few weeks that it would diminish dramatically, as would the thoughts.
Sit with that feeling! It’s okay to feel that! Let it in. And don’t look for reassurance or certainty that your fears won’t come true. Realistically, they probably won’t, but you should stop looking to be sure and take the risk.
I really hope so! But what if I like the way they look and their ‘baby faces’ and their lack of beards and all that? What if I never change or remain attracted to my equals?
I know :// I’m just so scared! I don’t want to grow up now!
I’m so glad I’m not alone with this! Do you fear growing up?
It’s so nice to know that you got over this sort of fear! I appreciate you taking the time to write all that so thank you so much :) I just worry that I’ll grow old and miss being young and stupid and excited. So I’ll fall in love with someone who possesses those qualities? If that makes sense! Like, I’ll be 40 years old and see a cute teenager and find him exciting... ahhh I don’t know!
I’m stressing out a lil again :(
You’re right. Compulsions only add fuel to the fire and I need to stop. I just keep thinking my whole life is now ruined. I don’t want to age anymore!
I’m 26 and a female. I have this big thing about guys talking to younger girls like I think it’s super creepy when a 26 year old goes after like 18-20 year old girls. Like going out of their way, usually if I know the age of a guy is under 22 even I’m like NOOO. But my friends brother is 20 turning 21 soon and he’s very cute and I am attracted to him and we kissed and I am in my head so much about it because of the age difference. I didn’t really think I’d be attracted to him because I did think he was cute but his age was like a no no for me but now I’m like it isn’t even a big deal & im not going after young guys as I hate men do it like legit go after those ages specifically. I’m in my head a lot about it thinking am I a creep for that? Does this mean I like younger people? I have had sexual trauma from childhood of being weird with other kids with games and stuff even though I was only 7. So I get scared I’m just this creepy creep who likes younger kids even though he’s 20 and not a kid but I’m scared in my head ugh.
I am a 25 year old woman who is currently interning at a high school. I keep finding myself saying in my head, “Oh that guy is cute,” when he is literally a high schooler. I would never date someone younger than 23. It’s more of a thought like oh he’s a cute kid. I just keep obsessing over it. Some of my friends have told me its normal to think someone is attractive as long as your not going to date them, but it just feels yucky since they are literally minors. I feel like a normal person wouldn’t think like this, and im just super struggling.
I posted about this yesterday but I’ve felt sick about it literally all day. I was talking to my friend about a tiktoker I said was hot. They said the person looked too young. I started freaking out because I never thought of that and ended up finding the person’s age. Turns out they are 17. I’m 24. I feel like a monster. My heart has been stuck in my throat for over 24 hours. I keep going back to look at the person’s profile to see if I still think they’re attractive after knowing their age and it’s confusing/scaring me even more because when they wear makeup I feel like they only look a few years younger than me. I had nightmares all night last night. I feel like I’m not a normal person, I’m like one of those people that hit on teens online. I feel so depressed. My gf thinks I’m being ridiculous for worrying so much about this. But I’m 24 YEARS OLD and this person is 17. What is wrong with me? How could I think something like this? I’m scared that what if I didn’t stop thinking they’re attractive. I just want to sleep and cry all day. I hate myself and I feel disgusting. I just don’t know what to do.
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