Dating and SOOCD

I just don’t know how to date with this theme. I see many people in relationships who have this theme but I can’t imagine myself in a relationship right now! I envy those who have relationships while having SOOCD. I’ve just put dating on the back burner for the three years I’ve had this. I just have the fear that I will like someone, they’ll like me back, and then I’ll lose feelings. I fear I’ll never like anyone again. I’ve tried dating these past few years with 2 different guys, I just don’t feel as infatuated as I used to… I don’t know if it’s the loss of libido or just not the right guy or what…

Sexual Orientation OCD

girlwithocd..

Date posted: 1y ago

Thank you for writing this, I needed someone to relate to right know and you literally described my exact situation. This topic is the main trigger for my soocd. I haven’t dated anyone for the past three to four years because of soocd, and haven’t had the same butterflies and feelings towards guys that I had before soocd. I don’t dare to put myself in such a scary situation, what if I stop liking them and realize that I never have liked boys? I have experienced that I thought I liked a guy and then suddenly stopped and I don’t want to have to go through that again.

Acrasia

Date posted: 1y ago

the last guy I dated lasted 4 months and ended 3 months ago, I haven’t been the same since. Although my so ocd hasn’t been that much during my time with him, but I guess I also developed rocd during that time or I just realized I had rocd all this time from previous relationships. I joined dating apps, just wanting to talk to someone yet at the thought of being in a relationship with someone terrifies me now. Unlike before where I was comfortable being in a relationship with a guy, now seems like I can’t handle it anymore or I can’t believe them they’d want to be with me. I’m currently having a spike rn, I keep getting a lot of feelings and images of being in a relationship with a woman instead and it feels like I like it. Driving me mad.

blazed

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

You put my thoughts into words 🥲 dating is one of my biggest triggers too, but I know I have to face it eventually. I haven’t dated in 3 years bc I was trying to get over my ex, I was dealing with other life problems, then SOOCD hit later down the line. I dated my ex during my teens and I’m glad I did, but I wish I could have that experience as an adult without constantly worrying about who I’m attracted to. It really takes the fun out of everything.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I've been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and this came out of nowhere in March I had it when I was younger for a short period but it went away , it makes me feel like if I was single I would just try it to make the anxiety go 🥺

shopgirl

Date posted: 19w ago

Imagining the future

Does anyone else with SO-OCD struggle with imagining a future partner and checking feelings? That’s been my biggest compulsion, and now I feel like I don’t want to end up with a man someday, or that if I do I’ll feel sad or lonely. I’m also sitting here imagining being with women and I can’t tell if I like the sexual thoughts or not anymore, or if my negative reactions mean anything. My face scrunches and I feel anxious and my temperature rises. I’ve been off this app for a couple weeks but still feeling anxiety pretty steadily. I keep imagining the future and getting this feeling and voice that I’m gay and I need to come out to everyone. It’s distressing and I don’t feel like myself anymore

Sexual Orientation OCD

cows12465

Date posted: 14w ago

please help me

can someone with this theme help me i’m so scared and i can’t stop having panic attacks is this OCD??? So i always have struggled most with sucicidal ocd and harm ocd. i never really had any other themes. but recently ive struggled with SOOCD. My whole life i have never EVER been into girls ever and i could never even think of ever being with a girl in my entire life. i’m having extreme amounts of anxiety and i have compulsions to make sure i look at a girl and don’t feel anything towards them or anything. My mind is literally going “what if your just in denial” or “what if you’ve just been hiding it all these years” When i know i haven’t. i have all of the symptoms of SOOCD and i still know that im not gay,but these thoughts are extremely distressing and have been the worse to deal with. I’m constantly panicking and doing compulsions to get these thoughts to leave and they won’t. i’m scared and these thoughts are making my mind scared. What if i’m going against my morals and i’m lying to myself like and i just went through a tough breakup too so that is shooting these thoughts and anxiety. Please help omg!!!

Parisx

Date posted: 10w ago

SOCD is back with vengeance

I’ll cut a long story short… SOCD/ HOCD was one of the first themes I got when I was a teenager. The first one was health but I didn’t know that was OCD at the time. Anyway, I have had SOCD for 11 years. Sometimes it leaves me alone and it feels like I’m my own self again! Don’t get me wrong it lingers but I manage. But… IT IS BACK!!! My head is telling me that I am a lesbian and that I need to just admit it. I hate it. I have a boyfriend who I love unconditionally and this has just sprung out of a dream I had -.- I don’t want to be a lesbian! The groinal responses have always been the worst. It started when I was around 16, I woke up one morning and my brain just said ‘you’re a lesbian’, as you can imagine I freaked out, panic attack and cried. Then, my brain starts looking into my childhood… well it’s had a field day. When I was around 9 my friend showed me girls kissing on YouTube and then I suppose I got addicted to it. I then used to play on Habbo and walk up to girls and say ‘kisses’ etc. my brain is now saying that this is evidence that I’m gay. I DONT WANT TO BE A LESBIAN!!! I have no issues with gay people, I just don’t want to be gay myself. Sometimes, when the thoughts come in I don’t seem to get anxious but I get groinals and that freaks me out! I just want peace. I hate this. I get so many different themes. Now it’s this one and I just want to crawl under my duvet, sleep until they’re gone but then I end up dreaming about it!!!

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