i feel like what if me and my partner don’t make it and what if he’s falling out of love with me? i keep having intrusive thoughts of him wanting someone else instead of me and choosing to marry and spend a lifetime with someone else. idk if this is anxiety or a gut feeling :/. but nonetheless its scary. he tells me he loves me and he only wants to be with me and he never wants to leave me. but idk..
Be in the present moment and don’t overthink it if it isn’t happening to you in the exact moment then don’t worry about a break up that hasn’t happened yet easier said then done but being present helps a lot when you are worried about the future
OCD loves to attack the things we love and value most. It is called the doubt disorder for a reason. Maybe you and your partner will be together the rest of your lives, or maybe you won’t be. It’s very difficult to sit with the uncertainty of it, but that’s what we have to do to conquer OCD. Try to enjoy spending your time with your person as much as you can. Bring yourself back to the present moment with them and let the thoughts be there. It takes a lot of practice. Are you currently in therapy for OCD?
I often refer to OCD as playing the 'what if game'. Not a very fun game to be sure. OCD always inserts doubt- but what if, and what if this and what if that....that is what it does the best. The good news: we don't have to play. We can hop off the ride. It's initially hard but the more you practice not engaging these thoughts the less they tend to come up. You can do this.
I have thoughts like this too, but what helps me calm these intrusive thoughts of mine is the fact that my partner hasn’t ever lied about loving me, showed me he doesn’t love me, or lied so I have no reason to doubt what they are saying is true, here for you
You’re not alone ! I get both sides with rocd .. what if she doesn’t love me ? Will she love me forever? Do I love her ? Do I wanna be with her ? I hate it .. I don’t wanna leave I love spending time with her she gives me peace at the same time as I’m overthinking .. and when I’m not in my head I feel 100 percent certain she loves me and I love her and want this life with her .. but ocd is one pos .. that is a definite certain! I hope you get past what your feeling and hang in there
How do you manage the thoughts of not seeing a future with your boyfriend? It get’s so frustrating, I’m sad and scared. I can’t even get intimate because I feel like everything is lost, or i get anxious, and start overthinking. I push my partner away, he makes me anxious too and i don’t even know why because he’s been great!!!! I made bad decisions in our relationship and since I confessed to him, I was completely convinced that we were going to break up, and that I would feel better if he made the decision to break up. I start imagining my future without him, and i don’t like it. I feel disconnected, he really doesn’t like it when i call it that way, but it’s like idk myself and don’t recognize him either sometimes. Or if he makes plans for the future is almost as if i dont want them.
i second guess my feeling for him basically 22 hours of the day and my intrusive thoughts are so aggressive too, like “you dont love him, you think hes ugly, you think he smells bad” stuff like that and they arent even “what if” thoughts anymore and i feel so guilty. I am basically at the point where I’ve convinced myself that im forcing myself to be in this relationship because i dont want to uproot my life and that i hate him, but every time i think about breaking up i start crying and i hate the idea and these thoughts give me SO much anxiety. To the point where i feel like i cant even eat sometimes, and i dont want to feel like this everyday because i want to be sure that i love my partner, and the small moments that im not spiraling, i feel so sure and so clear that i want to spend the rest of my life with him and i hate it because why is it that one moment i can be so sure that i love him and the one moment i feel like im lying to myself and i need to ruminate on that feeling. im so tired of myself.
These have been the recent intrusive thoughts I’ve had. They scare me so much because it’s like why am I thinking about this so much if I was truly so so in love with him I wouldn’t doubt it at all right? My OCD was relatively calm/non existent for a period of time but then I entered my relationship with my beloved and I feel like I’m worrying way too much every week about random things.
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