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Heightened sense of purity and going too far as a Christian.
Hi guys, I’ll keep this as brief as possible. I have a new boyfriend and it’s by far the most serious relationship I’ve ever had, so I have been spiraling and grappling with Relationship OCD to the point it has made me physically ill. I’m fighting as hard as possible to not engage in compulsions but it’s a journey to say the least. I know OCD is OCD is OCD, but I have a very specific targeted question. How do you deal with purity, scrupulosity, and feeling like maybe you’ve gone too far with your s/o? This is coming from being a Christian who wants to save sex for marriage, so those who don’t share this belief likely won’t relate. We have agreed not to have sex, but have done some other things that feel almost as heavy to me. I’m dealing with a heightened sense that I’ve gone too far with him too quickly. I’m struggling to find the way to honor myself, my boyfriend, and God from a biblical perspective, but also recognize that my interpretation of intimacy is likely very skewed. Either way I’m experiencing a large amount of stress. I want to handle this in a way that doesn’t feed my OCD, but that also doesn’t go against my beliefs as a Christian. I know that I can bring this up with him and talk to him about it, but I’m afraid of feeding my obsession by excessive talking it over. Looking for practical tips on how to move forward.