am I the only person who identifies liking the opposite sex but all their attraction follows the same sex now and now when I see couples (heterosexual), I imagine myself as the guy or when I newly weds kiss, I see myself kissing the woman or the urge to kiss her :/ Anybody else ?
I can tell you as a bisexual woman that you are straight. Clearly you don’t like these thoughts at all so they aren’t genuine attraction. If you were attracted to women or wanted to be a guy then you would experience a lot of pleasure even if you were ashamed. You see even when I was ashamed of my thoughts I just couldn’t stop enjoying them. That’s because I’m truly bisexual. You’re ocd.
@Gabrielle100% Do you think I have HOCD based on my post…?
@polishgirl Your brain reacts to anything sexual. Even things you don’t want to try. I know of lesbians who watch gay male porn. It doesn’t mean they like men. It’s just the brain automatically get triggered by sexual content.
@Gabrielle100% I needed to hear this bc it’s tearing me a part and it just hurts the soul
@kat.kq Yeah it’s just your brain over analyzing and trying to understand what’s going on. It’s firing all kinds of weird things that don’t reflect true desire.
@polishgirl #1. Straight porn is the more “normal” thing. (Porn isn’t really normal since it’s staged but heterosexuality is the norm) Especially for you since your brain is wired to like men. I heard about a study once. People (even straights) actually preferred lesbian porn because it was different. It activated the reward system more because it was different. #2. Another reason might be is that straight porn is usually more degrading to women than lesbian porn, so if you hate that then maybe you prefer lesbian porn despite being straight. Also straight porn is more about pleasing the guy where as lesbian porn is about the woman so you might prefer that as a woman. #3. Your OCD is more reactive to lesbian porn because you’re worried. If you’re watching lesbian porn to check to see if you’re aroused, then it’s possible your ocd is making feel more aroused than you actually are.
@polishgirl I would quit watching all porn altogether, especially lesbian porn since it triggers the ocd more. OCD or not porn actually has air of really bad effects on the mind and spirit. That even more reason to quit. I quit watching porn and it has helped my ocd so much I’m the last couple months!
@Gabrielle100% Hi 👋🏻 can we talk ? I genuinely think I was bi for a moment of my life but now I feel it was just OCD but idk I need to talk with bi people so I can maybe find more answers…
@LolaG a moment??? That sounds like ocd. Also sometimes our brains fire random and weird thoughts. We take those thoughts and observe them and sort through them. Having a moment of curiosity around the same sex is not gay. It’s simply the brain sorting through thoughts
@Gabrielle100% Well I used to identified as bi before SO-OCD but when I tried with a woman I hated it and idk why I still identified as bi after that ? Like ???? And the more I think about it the more it feel like I wasn’t… But yk what if i enjoyed it and was in denial ? And most of it my ocd won’t let me since "you identified as bi so you must be it cause a straight woman could never and wouldn’t try with a woman"
@LolaG It sounds like you had a bi-curious stage (which is not the same as bisexual) now that you clearly know you don’t want women your ocd is attacking that particular situation. It’s as simple as this. You were curious. Figured you you weee straight after all, and now you’re having trouble trusting yourself
@polishgirl I don’t have a link. I do know if you expose yourself to porn to often it gets harder to enjoy and you have to seek more taboo things to get that high
@polishgirl You can heal. What do you mean “can we chat somewhere?”
@polishgirl Is that a thing on the is app? I’m new here
@polishgirl I don’t have Instagram
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@polishgirl And bc of this I feel so different about my boyfriend :( We’re suppose to get married next year😞
Me… i hope someone can help me with my post too…
That make sense… thank you for this ❤️🩹
Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
I watched the trailer for the movie “Am I Ok?” and got completely triggered. Basically a 32 yo woman discovers she’s a lesbian seemingly out of nowhere. I was triggers and did some research (bad idea) and apparently some people who are gay have never had romantic or sexual interest in people of the same sex until one spontaneous moment of discovery. Now I’m worried that this could be me!! I’ve never had a long term relationship, have had crushes and fantasies but back out when things get too close for me. I do prefer my little fantasy world guy but now I’m wondering if maybe I missed something and am in denial, even if I didn’t know it.
I never read someone talk about this so I wanted to know if it applies to anyone as well. For context: I deal with ROCD and SOCD but I do identify as straight and am in a (happy) relationship with a man. What often triggers me is memories about childhood and adolescences about having the groinal toward nudity in porn or music videos. Because I can’t deny having watched other things than straight porn and experimenting with porn I simply can’t stop trying to figure out what that might have meant and if i deep down have actually a other sexual orientation than the one that I feel comfortable identifying with. I only hear people talking about random triggers but never the REAL memory of arousal to pornography and so on.
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