Anonymous
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Anyone else?
Does SO-OCD make you scared to date? I identified straight all my life and now I’m scared I’m bisexual and I’m scared I’m being a fraud? Anyone else
13vera13vera
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You’re not being a fraud <3 not everyone knows everything about themselves
AnonymousAnonymous
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@ann13 that’s what I’m scared… I don’t want to be bisexual. I get false attractions Towards girls and it literally doesn’t even give me anxiety half the time anymore. Why ??
13vera13vera
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@Anonymous i’m a bisexual woman and i see so many straight women have false attractions it’s insane it’s totally normal. we’re raised to view women sexually and whether or not someone is actually gay they’ll likely see a lot of women that way anyways
AnonymousAnonymous
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@13vera I’m scared and confused a little … if u identify as bisexual and if you get false attraction toward girls how would that bother you since you like both men and women? Don’t mean to be rude! I’m just confused and don’t want to be triggered. I identified straight all my life and have gotten lesbian ocd and bisexual ocd when I saw a girl and got intense false attraction which caused me a lot of distress. This time it’s not causing me a lot of distress IDK why
13vera13vera
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@Anonymous sorry if i said that confusingly😭! i mean that i don’t experience false attraction but i know lots of straight women that do and it’s totally normal
JazzCrabJazzCrab
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Yes, but date who you wanna date 🤷♀️ Even if you were bi, then you could still date men anyway.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@LittleBird I don’t want to be bi. I don’t want to be attracted to a woman… it doesn’t even give me distress or anxiety anymore…. I want to be fully straight
AnonymousAnonymous
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@LittleBird Also against my culture and religion. I never even considered myself as part of LGBTQ. I feel Uncomfortable at the thought of coming out. These false attractions making it hard… to even date cus I feel Fraud and weird
JazzCrabJazzCrab
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@Anonymous I can understand that culture and religion can make that very complicated. Are you seeing an ERP therapist to help deal with this?
AnonymousAnonymous
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@LittleBird yea here at NOCD. I literally am hesitant doing erp cus I feel like its gonna make me accept I’m bisexual. I legit had this theme twice before and it went away but the false attractions I hate. My compulsion is to keep checking and it legit feels real. Everytime I recite “ I am straight” legit doesn’t feel real, but I keep telling myself “ I am bisexual” it feels hella right? I’m just super confused and I hate it. Why won’t my mind suddenly not want me to be straight after legit my entire life I’ve had crushes on men. I had this theme before and it was distressing but now it’s not? I’m sorry I’m ranting but everywhere I walk around my mind goes like ur bisexual and I feel gross. Sorry for ranting :(
JazzCrabJazzCrab
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@Anonymous Hey no worries. It’s hard. The checking to see how you feel with certain statements is a mental compulsion. I used to do the same thing, but with ROCD themes. It is scary. I’m also in ERP for the first time and it’s terrifying me. But I think we just have to stick with it.
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