I’m super anxious and scared my bf is gonna dump me Bc he said “love you” instead of I love you and he barely txted me yesterday and left me on read for a few and he’s broken up with me b4 and the day b4 he did he said we were fine and he said we were fine yesterday and I’m scared

That’s OCD for you. I can so relate to being scared. And the hurt you feel. My ROCD loves to tangle itself into the normal uncertainty and anxiety of relationships. You got to breathe and do something else productive even while it hurts. This sucks. It’s freaking insane difficult. I have to do the same thing. Find some CBT activities you can do on accepting uncertainty. It sucks. It is hard. But it will help. There is no magic solution if you want to really get better. Hang in there.

Hang in there. The one thing about my OCD is that it lies and tricks me into believing my anxiety is going to ramp up until I lose my mind. But here I am. 40 something years down the road. ( And I didn’t have a clue what OCD was or that there was help for me until 5 months ago. I suffered with this shit blind most my life). But it does suck and it hurts my heart and emotions so bad when I just sit and do compulsions over and over. I do them in my mind. Every freakin what if in the dating universe. Every worst case scenario that my mind can imagine. Try to stop your doing your compulsions and focus on something else very positive. If you can’t, I’ve been there too. Your not alone. Be kind to yourself if you can’t do it this time. Or the next time. You will get better as long as you are looking for help and willing to do the hard work like you are now.

And remember too that relationships are one of the most uncertain things that all human beings, all 6 billion of us, have to go through. It is stressful and difficult for everyone. If it wasn’t, then the music industry and entertainment industry would basically be gone. Think about it. So give yourself some room there. And then our OCD makes it a lot worse. Look into therapy that is based on learning to tolerate uncertainty. That has helped me. And remember there is no magic solution. But you can get a whole lot better with hard work and the therapy. I have had some real good breakthroughs in the past few weeks and that was after some weeks of hell and hard work. So it can be done. Hang in there.

Turns out it was just ocd and me and him are perfectly fine but now my ocd is like “do u like him”

Relationship OCD is actual hell... I’m struggling to right now. So you’re not alone.

He could have just been busy or needed time to himself. Don’t assume the worst just yet. ?

It hurts so much. I’m so scared. It feels unbearable

That is very true.... stupid OCD can create problems that are literally not even there. One day I’m crying because I’m so afraid my boyfriend is going to leave me and then the next day I’m crying because I’m like does this mean I should leave him?? It’s so exhausting. The brain is difficult.

Yes it is.

Yep. Same thing happens to me sometimes. IF OCD can’t produce fears that they will leave, then it will switch to do you really like them. The OCD is just searching for your uncertainty and then blowing it up and distorting it.