I feel like every pretty girl I see I’m gonna have a crush on her. Please I really want to be straight but even when I’m doing okay I still the strong attraction. What do I do to get rid of it? Really feel my identity is bisexual not straight
Try erp, I have the same theme and in erp therapy
@68273 Yes I am!! But people keep telling me their sexual orientation changed ?? So I’m scared … because bisexual is BOTH GENDERS I hate this
So, from my understanding erp doesn’t change your sexual orientation. Erp is about accepting uncertainty. For me, I’ve done exposures for this theme and I have to accept that I may never really know. It could be a possibility that I am bisexual , I don’t know. I only know that right now, I don’t want to engage is that type of relationship.
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@jocd Someone on this post posted that people who have HOCD how most of them turn out to be gay/bisexual :(
@Anonymous I told this to my therapist and she said , “that’s like saying someone with pocd turns out to be a pedo or someone with HarmOCD ends up harming someone”
@68273 Yeah I get that … I meant like later in life and in the future. There was TikTok a girl posted ( I’m not going to post it unless you are curious but it is very curious) she had HOCD and was super scared she was lesbian… and couple years later she came out as lesbian. So scared that’s me but with bisexuality
@Anonymous That sucks , I hope it’s not true. I hope that doesn’t happen to me
@Anonymous *very triggering
@Anonymous Very, now I’m scared again
@jocd You have this theme
@jocd You are doing erp
My brain keeps giving me sensations that I'm attracted to men
@mrein280 Same! Like I’m still very attracted to men but suddenly I feel like I’m attracted to women also. My mind keeps telling me heterosexual/straight is not the correct label for me. Even when days I’m able to have a decent day … the second I see a pretty girl I feel weird af
@Anonymous I don't feel anything towards women
Yes, I have.
@Nica Amazing! Proud of you and love your inspirational posts! Thing is I’ve dealt w this theme twice and this will be my third time. Did you sexual orientation change after ERP? And how did you deal with false attraction? There’s someone in the app who keeps telling me you sexuality can change. Not asking for reassurance btw! Trying to get familiar with ERP
@Anonymous ERP and mindfulness. Also a sense of humor since OCD’s so silly when you detach from the situation and let it be.
@Nica So ur sexual orientation didn’t change after erp right? That’s my biggest concern
@Anonymous ERP isn’t about changing anything except how you react to OCD.
In addition, I have read exposures on sexuality being fluid which I hate because I don’t want to change , for now I can just focus on my husband and our relationship and I don’t know if it could happen in the future.
@68273 See that’s the thing. People said your sexual orientation can change and it’s driving me insane. Every pretty girl I see my mind latches onto it. I do not want to be bisexual. Ugh I hate this… idk if it’s OCD even… and are you doing erp? That seems like a tough exposure reading about that…
@Anonymous I know trust me! I’m married and I love my husband I just finished iop three weeks ago
It’s been tough this is also the third time but I’ve had HarmOCD . Pocd and others. This has been the most difficult
One of my erp assignments was writing how I didn’t do my compulsions and then I turned out to be bi 😭 this was very difficult
@68273 You’re bi? Or straight? What is ur fear if you mind sharing … I’m confused you wrote ur compulsion and you turned bi?
@Anonymous I’m heterosexual and fear being bi. The homework was to write a narrative that my fear came true because I didn’t avoid or reassured myself.
@68273 Omggg that’s so hard!! Do you deal with false attraction? Like seeing a pretty girl falling in love!! I’m scared to date men now :( I want my attraction to ONLY men to come back. We got this. I had to write out “ I am bisexual” multiple times
@Anonymous It’s super scary. I have pretty severe symptoms from groinals to false attraction. Groinals are gone false attraction gone but thoughts remain
@68273 That’s amazing!! I really need to get rid of the false attractions … any tips you did to get rid of it ? 💗
@Anonymous Erp that’s what I do with my therapist
@68273 I’m doing erp with my therapist and although i don’t have that much anxiety abs distress anymore… it feels more real :( that’s I’m actually bisexual and I should just accept it
@Anonymous Ok I get the same thing and keep getting stuck. On the one hand, I don’t want to feel distress anymore but when I become habituated, I get more convinced and then the cycle goes on and on
@Anonymous I told my therapist ok I accepted that it’s true, she said, that’s not the point of erp. 🤷🏽♀️
@68273 Yes this is exactly it!! I just my attraction to be solely on men!! But ocd literally causes me to be confused and question my identity and who my attraction in general.
@Anonymous It’s no annoying!!!! Do you do daily erp?
@68273 Also don’t accept a sexuality just cus ur intrusive thoughts say so. Your value is saying ur heterosexual so that’s exactly what it is. I know it’s easier said than done but ocd is tricking you. So no you’re not bisexual because you’re not happy or comfortable with it. Not trying to give you reassurance but trying to help!!
So I’ve SOOCD since I was in 8 th grade and it got really bad when I had an intrusive thought as to what if I was bi. And ever since then I’ve had self destructive behavior to where I would think the thoughts on purpose or about women and checking them out and flirting with them. ( I identify as straight) and over time these thoughts and self destructive behavior hasn’t bothered me and now they feel apart of me I know apart of it is ocd but also it’s me like me willingly looking at women and me wanting to have sexual thoughts or feel aroused and in reality if I never had ocd I would never think this way I could live without women and never sleeping with them I do have a bf and I love him and am attracted to him rn thought bc of what happened last night with a women it’s hard to feel that can anyone relate?
So I identify as a lesbian and I am in a committed relationship with a wonderful girl. But i’m stressing that I have crushes on boys I go to school with. I get anxious around them, which I think I mistake for excitement. I obsess over it in my head which confuses me a lot. Idk I also never think about them sexually or romantically but I think about them often which is scaring me. Any advice?
hey guys, i’m almost fully healed in my socd journey but what’s stopping me is the false atractions. i get them almost 24/7 at this point and to every thing. they feel real and i hate them they make me feel disgusted. they also make me feel like hot and gross but then i see people saying thats what attractions feel like, but i have felt so much attraction to the opposite gender pre all of this and it felt nice and enjoyable not digustinf. i’m also getting false memory trying to show me ‘signal’ from my childhood to prove i’m gay amd i truly don’t know if they’re real. it’s so degrading and at this point i feel like govining up. pelesse if you have any advice or even if your going through the same thing just let me know. ocd is so terrible
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