I'm just so tired of feeling sick to my stomach and having a lack of appetite. My ROCD is just ridiculous. It is partner focused ROCD and I find it to be stupid because no one is perfect and everyone has flaws. I know I have flaws and yet I'm obsessing over my bfs. I'm just tired!!!
I am so sorry that you're going through this. OCD can be so mean. There is hope for those with OCD and their partners. Today there is much more known about this debilitating disorder. There is specific evidence-based treatment available that can also help support loved ones who care for people with OCD. You can get to a place where OCD doesn’t consume your relationship. You can regain the joy in your relationship and learn to manage this illness as a team. Sometimes just opening up and sharing what you are experiencing and providing education about ROCD to your partner can make a HUGE difference.💛
You’re only obsessing because you’re trying to supress the thoughts or analyze it when it’s not necessary. I know it’s hard but you have to let thoughts go and flow. Keep going :)
I’m sorry to hear you are struggling. OCD is very exhausting; I can definitely relate. Remember OCD is the doubting disease. It loves to cause as much trouble as possible and to attach to things that are important to us. Therefore, it is not surprising that it is coming up in your relationship. Often the harder those of us with OCD try to analyze the thoughts that have become intrusive or push them out of our mind the stronger they get. Accepting them while not engaging is often more effective. Try to allow yourself to have the thought and respond with a neutral statement like “thanks OCD” or “maybe it’s true maybe it’s not” without engaging any more or less than that. I know easier said than done, but with time and practice it does get better.
I would take a picture of a flaw that you see in your partner and save it as a Lock Screen as an exposure
I have rocd. It’s the worst feeling being with the love of your life and having these thoughts. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and few months and I just wish this disorder wasn’t even a thing. From the start of us being together I knew and felt he was perfect and EVERYTHING I’ve always wanted. I had thoughts about everything you can name of. If I love him or not, do I like other people instead, if he’s ugly, if I like him only because of his looks, comparing other relationships, if he did one thing off or different question if I really know him, thought he was a different person then what I really knew him for, believing and having the thoughts every single one feel real. It’s a nightmare. Because I would literally die on the instead from telling him these things when he never did anything. I have gotten much better with the love, and looks and all that but there’s always new “targets” as me and him say. It’s like I can never truly run away. I think of how easy it is for others in relationships since they don’t have this and I just want that with him. It’s been a year and a few months and yes we’ve went through hell and back and a lot of things have gotten better but not fully. Hopefully soon enough they will and EVRYTHING will be much better. I just want him. I can’t do anything without him like he’s really the first person I only ever imagined a future with. A future that I wanted to be married and have kids and just live a beautiful life with. I want his pain and suffering to end with all these thoughts he’s heard throughout the year. I never mean to hurt him. I never mean to break him. I just want him. I can’t lose him. If you have ROCD, it’s good your here. Get help, get support, talk to someone about this because it will get better. I’ve had my amazing days. 4 days straight! I never had that before but I lost it and trying to get it back. I know I will, just gotta keep trying hard. My boyfriend helps me so much by supporting and telling me “Your ocd is not you, these thoughts aren’t you, ocd attacks anything you care about.” I couldn’t be more lucky to have him. I’m the luckiest girl alive. He makes me feel that way and I just want this to be over already. I love him so much. Idk if this helps anyone with ROCD, but you’re not alone. Search up videos the help understand, pay attention and watch what you can do to fix it because it is. I’m not there yet but I will not give up, so everyone out there with any type of OCD. We can do this. Confidence is key. Don’t give up. We’re all here to help one another, and ofc regular support with friends family and definitely therapy.
I’m really struggling with my ocd right now. I feel like I’m unhappy in my relationship and all I do is get frustrated. I’m questioning everything about my relationship and I’m worried I’m going to ruin everything.
Struggling with ROCD lately and it’s really getting to me. I know I love my partner deeply, but these intrusive thoughts just won’t let up. It’s like this constant battle between my heart and my mind, and it’s exhausting. Does anyone else experience this? Feeling like you need to do something to ease the uneasiness, even though you know deep down you’re with the right person? It’s like walking on a tightrope of happiness and doubt.
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