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My therapist said that after 3 years at this point I should just try to have sex with a woman. I'm scared.
My therapist said that after 3 years at this point I should just try to have sex with a woman. I'm scared.
Is this an OCD therapist… this doesn’t sound ok. A therapist should never tell you what to do.
In Italy it's not easy to find people who treat ocd. They diagnosed me with OCD only 2 years ago after 8 years of a wrong diagnosis. I changed so many therapists and 90% have no idea about OCD symptoms, like they don't believe in the existence of "pure OCD" but only the one with phisical compulsions. My therapist did diagnose me with OCD, and my psychiatrist too, but for example there is no ERP exposure or anything like that.
@0876 Just to make you understand how behind we are in Italy, many psychiatrists still believe that dreams have a deep meaning and it's your unconscious talking.
@0876 No unfortunately:( it's been 3 years and I'm Always getting worse
It's like if they say to someone with Harm OCD, hey after all this time, should just beat somebody up at this point
Yep. I'm Italian too; and i can say being fully sure that i have rocd. I went to 2 psicologists; the first one was really not understanding the point or me at all. The second one really think that "ocd" is not really my case because i don't have phisical reapeating compulsions. And i'm okay with that; but that doesn't change my continue doubting, urges; ruminating etc. Beside this this second one is really helping me, and i feel listened with her. BUT sometimes, a self research is still the key yk?
La mia ex psicologa non capiva che avessi l'rocd quindi ti capisco! È stato il primo tema di OCD forte che ho avuto. Prima di questo ne avevo avuti altri ma mai troppo pesanti quindi non ne parlavo con nessuno, poi quando ebbi l'rocd mi diceva che era ansia perché era la mia prima relazione. Poi cambiai psicologa e psichiatra quando iniziai ad avere l'hocd ed entrambe mi diagnosticarono il disturbo ossessivo compulsivo, addirittura probabilmente iniziato quando avevo 7-8 anni. Ma non sanno curarlo qui in Italia.
@dafne56 Si concordo! In qualche modo rientra sempre nell'ansia e nella somatizzazione; é incredibilmente triste... Non solo non sanno curarlo; ma nemmeno riconoscerlo. La prima psicologa da cui sono andata mi fa " in circa 10 sedute con me hai finito" In 10 sedute non avevo praticamente (e purtroppo) nemmeno iniziato; eppure alla 11 credo, mi ha lo stesso chiesto "ma il problema per cui sei qui si é risolto no? Quindi a posto per me non serve vederci ancora" Si okay non piangevo piú tutto il giorno tutti i giorni cone quando ho iniziato; ma comunque tutti i dubbi i sensi di colpa etc li avevo ancora...🤡
@dafne56 Il meglio del meglio; é stato durante una delle sue ultime sedute; durante la quale le stavo parlando di un mio problema personale. La mia frase era circa "eh io sento x; mi fa stare male; non so gestirlo, mi fa sentire tremendamente in colpa e mi considero di conseguenza inferiore alle altre ragazze" E la risposta per 82 euro l'ora é stata "eh ma questo devi impararlo a gestirlo tu da sola, non lo posso fare io" MH GRAZIE EH menomale che la seconda ascolta haha, anche se non credo inquadri bene l'rocd; mi sento meglio da quando ci vado; quindi daje é qualcosa :)
Ok that's fuck up, not a good terapist
So I’ve been going to an ocd therapist for abt 2-3 months now and she’s starting to make me feel very nervous and anxious I even started crying, she wanted me to do exposures that were to much for me and I got rlly upset and Burt out into tears and she just didn’t say anything and just sat there for a good 10 seconds doing nothing this is starting to repeat nearly every session and I’m very frustrated should I get a new therapist or do I just be nice and tough it out?
it feels like therapy isn't working at all, like I've been super reluctant to participate or try and get better. I was doing really well at first but I've been in a slump with it lately, and the idea of doing exposures again makes me really scared. Like, I know if have to do them to get better but I'm so afraid that I'll pick something, watch it, and think the child character is attractive and start fantasizing about them. Like what if the only thing keeping me from doing that is because I've been avoiding them? Also is it normal for pocd to convince you that you prefer one gender more strongly than the other? Bc for some reason it feels more real with boys than it does girls (I'm mostly straight) and like.. idk I'm just not feeling good.
At this point I feel like I need to get on something ASAP. I know that therapy is a long road and hard work and I am totally down to do it but in the short term (I just started this journey) I think I need pharmaceutical help. Some of the people closest to me agree. I have never been on meds before and it's scary AF but the road I am going down is scarier. Advice?
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