OCDwontownme
- Date posted
- 2y
Rocd question
Can rocd make you feel disgust with your partner for no reason? Or like an uneasy feeling?
SaraaSaraa
- Date posted
- 2y
Wow; you reassumed my message perfectly haha Yep i know it's hard; but if you care about something ocd will be there too. So my suggestion is to learn to deal with it; like get all the informations possible, and doing some healing to stop this circle! After a while you will be able to have good and loving moments again i guarantee ⭐😌
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
- Date posted
- 2y
I'm scared because sometimes the things that bother me seem so real
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
- Date posted
- 2y
I hope so! She's amazing and it's so hard because I want to love her without significant doubt or fear
EnmonLiEnmonLi
- Date posted
- 2y
@OCDwontownme I feel the same way, and you said it yourself, these thoughts only seem real; they are not you. Don’t fight it, accept this anxiety and eventually it will lessen overtime, you will see it is a result of your love for her. understand that to love fully with your whole heart is to feel fully as well, so this anxiety you feel when you have these bad thoughts just shows how much you care for her and how those thoughts aren’t part of you.
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
- Date posted
- 2y
@EnmonLi Thank you. My friend told me that it's scarier to know the full truth, so I should focus on enjoying the uncertainty. It helps me think that I can still love her and be uncertain
EnmonLiEnmonLi
- Date posted
- 2y
@OCDwontownme Exactly :)) just go with the flow, live life and experience your relationship in all of its beauty
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
- Date posted
- 2y
@EnmonLi Yes
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@OCDwontownme Thats how it gets you. Like a virus, each time it is beaten, it grows stronger and gains more information in order to get you better the next time. The trick is to stop beating it and let it take it's course, so it never gets stronger.
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous I see
SaraaSaraa
- Date posted
- 2y
Mmmm yes and no. Technically is not directly ocd; but your reaction to ocd toughts. So it works like that. *You care about x, and you are scared of the possibility that maybe it can go wrong* So here arrives ocd; as a (really bad) mechanism to protect your brain from suffering. And ocd will make you think and rethink about all the bad possibilities. Yk all the what if questions... *I care about my bf* WHAT IF HE DOESN'T CARE? WHAT IF I DON'T CARE ENOUGH And so on. Than your brain will try to find CERTAINTY AND 100% TRUE answers; that in reality doesn't exist and here is the problem: you end up doing A LOT OF MENTAL compulsions, and each one of thoose feed the ocd complex. Like I overthink each moment w my bf -> i stop enjoying them because i always rationalize it. I always check my feelings ->i stop having good feelings because i'm always scared of having bed ones-> feelings go away and i'm only able to feel anxiety and guilt Etc etc. And our brain will then take each one consequence of all the compulsions as a confirmation of the worst. So will tell us to "escape the situation" at all costs sending urges, like I HAVE TO BREAK UP W HIM EVEN IF I LIKE HIM
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
- Date posted
- 2y
But so like, for example, I just get a thought that tells me I feel nothing for her, or I'm leading her on. I feel like crap and then sometimes I start to wonder if I actually feel nothing for her. And I don't like that. And then I feel numb to that, and then I feel numb to that, and so on. It's scary because it can either be I just don't like her, or I feel nothing. And honestly the possibility of feeling nothing is more scary to me.
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
- Date posted
- 2y
What's confusing is we aren't even dating yet, but we like each other. I REALLY LIKE HER, but sometimes I wonder
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- Date posted
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- Date posted
- 20w
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