Ok so this might be long might not but I’m going to try and explain this very well ok so I have always dreamed about having a boyfriend and I’ll read novels and want that for me and I can imagine myself with a guy when I’m older and happy but right now I can’t whenever I try to think about it I get anxious and just want to cry cause more than anything in the world I want happiness but ever since I got hocd whenever a guy tells me they like me all I want to do I stop them from liking me and want to tell them to stop liking me I get an anxious type feeling and lately I have had the theme of asexuality like “am I an asexual? What if I turn asexual? What if because I get these weird feeling about boys liking me does that make me asexual?” I need some opinions of what people think and I also don’t know these could be new feelings to me I just have never dated or had a boyfriend I want one but at the same time “myself” doesn’t want me having one! What do you think?

I think it’s more sexual orientation OCD. Many people go from worrying they’re gay to worrying they’re bi to worrying they’re asexual, etc. It’s all the same. It’s the constant doubt that leads you to exploring and freaking out about every possibility. Treat it all the same: feed it uncertainty (“maybe I am that, maybe I’m not. Can’t know for sure either way.”) and sit with any anxiety that arises until it naturally dissipates without performing compulsions (including mental compulsions like body checking, ruminating, trying to “figure it out”, internet research, etc.) Be uncertain! It’s okay.

Get these thoughts all of the time! You’re going to be fine. I actually haven’t dated a guy before and I’m heading towards that direction with one of my guy friends right now, but I didn’t feel like that before. My anxiety screamed at me and told me all of these crazy things and it made my attraction just turn off because I was so full of anxiety. Then, I stopped ruminating and started to live in the moment and accept the uncertainty and get back to where I was before the thoughts hit. I started to realize it was ocd all along and got better. I still have intrusive thoughts, but they don’t rule my life in the slightest. You can get there too!?

Lol r u a teenager to I have the same problems

I have hocd too and right now I'm dealing with the same thing

Yes I’m a teenager and it’s so annoying

Do u have an insta I need someone to talk to

Yeah what’s your insta?

jvad323

Whats yours

we should make a group chat my insta is nfz.liam

I will

Mines morganpiersonn

Thank you