Loss of attraction

@Carlos A Well, I have unfortunately been suffering with HOCD for over three years so this feeling isn’t too new to me😕

@Mia Mia I've been there for 7 years, but it has ups and downs, I recently had a sexual failure with a girl and everything went down, absurdly it went down to almost 0

@Carlos A My drive is basically at 0…

@Mia Mia I sincerely hope that the sensation returns, but I am desperate for that to happen, not even mesturbition is the same anymore

@Michael F Spot on

@Mia Mia Ever need a friend I’m around. Been struggling for 6 years at least 😂

@Michael F You too !!

@Mike_d This is the hardest part for me. It’s like oh yay it’s coming back and then I focus on it and then poof gone. Like it’s such an impossible game and even if I stop playing it’s still playing for me.

I hate this

@gp Feeling that somehow you have lost attraction, you start to worry and try to check by looking at everyone, realizing that you don't really see them the same way, you reinforce the cycle, fear, verification, confirmation, more fear and so on, and they go away months in that circle, I simply have not been able to stay calm, every day I want him to come back and I make an effort, I do not get out of the state of anxiety and obviously fear, but I have had stages of lucidity where I am not afraid and the attraction is there , only lately situations have been mixed 🤧

@Carlos A Yeah I dunno. The way I see it is that the anxiety and fear becomes so strong you essentially numb everything, including libido. Add to the fact we end up checking absolutely everything in the hope we feel a certain way, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. And as you say, the cycle gets reinforced. It’s horrible.

@gp The numbness explains how I feel perfectly like I haven't had a crush in years

@abib1001 Yeh. Mine happened literally overnight. One day I was infatuated with my then gf and then one morning bam … it’s like my brain broke.

@gp I feel that if I could fall in love, but my anxiety is very high when it comes to intimacy, I have always wanted to be the super lover, the one they want to call back, but that pressure combined with a failure that I had now works against me and I'm afraid of being intimate again, and that has lowered my spirits and it seems that my attraction and it doesn't make sense because I want to get it back, but if I fail again it will be worse, but if I don't fail, maybe that is a great impulse of trust

@Carlos A Finally, d*mn fear

@0876 Groinal responses/excitement?

@0876 It bothers me a lot but yes, but I really feel that it doesn't align at all with what I want, it feels like my body acts based on fear, this feeling has gotten much stronger in recent months and it's been 7 years since the boom started , that's why I say it's new to me, now I can't even see the reflection of a shirtless man because my attention goes directly to the groin and my mind gets heavy. And when I test myself by seeing men in "thongs" on Instagram, my mental discomfort is strong and I really don't feel like I want to do anything with them, but after a while the uncomfortable sensations start and I sink, it's automatic, and I'm telling you, not long ago Some time ago I tested myself by seeing sexual clips or photos of naked men and although it bothered me, I didn't have strong reactions in my groin, but I did feel discomfort, that's why I say that it has strengthened, but the feeling is the same, I would never be with a man, it's not what i want