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Sorry I don’t want to be rude or invasive but why did you come out as Bi? Like do you want to be with a female? I’m sorry I’m just confused and scared, like how do I know if I’m not. I hate the thought of it and don’t want to be with a female but urggg idek

I totally relate to this feeling however we get this feeling because we are focussing on this so much and constantly asking ourselves whether we like these things while other people without OCD would just know that it isn’t true and move on. I honestly don’t know how we can recover from this horrible thing but I do know that I don’t want these thoughts and I definitely don’t want to be with a female.

For me it was a personal choice to just get the idea out of my head. I came out as bi or questioning. Should have added the last part. Since I share this with family and friends it didn’t feel like it was a secret that I have to hide even though I’ve never done anything. If it makes sense it helped me keep my sanity and it allowed me to not be scared of it anymore because it’s been like that in my head since I was a child. It literally just assisted me not feel like I was losing my mind. Everyone was supportive and didn’t question it. Which helped me realize that even if I wasn’t there would be no problem if I was. It made me feel secure.

I’m sure you feel as fed up as I do

I have chosen to just come out as Bi for the time being but honestly I say yeah sure I’ll hook up with another female but like deep down I am like ...actually no I do not want to but it somehow feels like it releases pressure out of my thoughts. I’ve never dated or been with a girl. I think I’ve had crushes on girls but like I cannot find myself actually going through with even kissing even when opportunity arises

Yes i totally relate

Yes I have heard of people doing this. I've told people before that my attraction depends on the person rather than their gender. Telling myself this gives me more room to be myself, and I realise nothing about who I am, what I do, or how I experience life has changed at all. I realise my fears are not based on anything real or of substance. I need to work towards removing the stigma I attach towards being gay. I cant control other peoples opinions

Our sexuality is present whether or not we choose act on. A straight person who has been intimate with 10 people of the opposite sex is no more straight than a virgin. @Carm28! Obviously this doesn't apply to you as you are straight and just came out as bi to give yourself some breathing space as far as I'm aware. From some of us with hocd this is a worthy path. I have considered coming out as bi, gay, pan myself. I'm not there now but it shows how powerful and convincing hocd can be unchecked.

I relate. When I just tell myself who I am attracted to depends on the person, rather limiting it to a gender, I find it takes the pressure away and feeling calmer and less fixated, I naturally find myself attracted to girls

Ok thank you, that makes sense

OCD to calm down. I’ve never been with a woman, not even a kiss