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Strict gender norms tend to be great feeding grounds for OCD. You can find a million little rules for how straight or gay people are “supposed” to act. Meanwhile, no person follows these with 100% adherence. OCD loves to dig into these complex areas of the human psyche because we all exist on various spectrums that are often contradictory and layered and unable to fit into one neat box every second of every day. Your brain will never be able to make sense of it, so it can continually cast doubt in your mind. Accept the uncertainty and confusion of it all and don’t let your OCD try to steal your identity simply because it doesn’t fit this or that tiny rule some of the time.
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Dont be sad or angry at your self you are human . Be yourself and be strong I'm 5 years now hocd times it's perfect and no anxiety my sex life gets back on par. In the last 5 years myself and my fiance have had two kids so what I'm getting at is life goes on it's normal to have thoughts it's just sometimes like what we are going threw was always looked down on and told it's wrong for man years. If it was always accepted it wouldnt cause us much stress as it really wouldnt matter if you think it . If there was no consequence for breaking the law you wouldnt panic if you were speeding and see a police officer . Or would worry about getting caught stealing somthing. But because there is and you do so you fell anxiety of getting caught
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Cause the brain knows it bothers us . We react by having anxiety . If there was no anxiety it wouldnt bother us . When the brain sences that we dont like it and that we took its bait it keeps casting back at us . Grab the bait and take the bull by the horns so I dont care. It's nothing to me gay or strait it's all good. I'm still me and have a life ahead of me . If you take the power from it, it dont put us down
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Yes strict rules can end up fuelling ocd and restricting who we feel we can be and how we can express ourselves. If I wear pink as a man, does that make me guy? If I drive a certain car or don't like sports does that make me gay? No. I neee to give myself plenty of space to be me, rather than live in fear of people thinking I'm gay.
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same with me but i’m a guy?
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It’s the worst. Like why th is this happening. I was okay before, but suddenly I’m questioning everything.
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Say I dont care * not so ...
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Thank you. At this point I’m starting to just feel so sad and angry that this is happening to me. Idk what I did to suffer this way. I hate this so much I started to cry already. I want this to end.
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I am a 18 year old masc lesbian with a loving girlfriend for 1 year, and I have been lesbian for almost my whole life and I have never been attracted to men in any way. flash to my past, My ex girlfriend who used to identify as a lesbian had cheated on me with a man. Recently I saw this tiktok of this masc lesbian turn straight and my friends and girlfriend made jokes I am going to turn straight for my male best friend. My male best friend came over and he’s a great guy but I do not want him in any way. when him and i were hanging out my mind threw in a thought it was “What if i like him”, i came back home and i had the worst panic attack and i felt so sick, i cried and i cried. ever since that day I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts, i don’t want a man in any way, and i feel comfortable as a lesbian but these thoughts won’t stop and they become worse when i see people say being lesbian is a phase or that i haven’t met the right guy or i’ll change in the future. i just want these thoughts to stop, i don’t want to stop being a lesbian ever, i love women so much and i just want all of this to be over with. i do not want a man in any way and im tired of my thoughts doubting myself and i hate the “what ifs”, I just want to be my old self, I want to be happy with my girlfriend.
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So I haven’t been on this app in a while. But I just want advice on how to overcome this. I’m now 18 and I’ve been trying out dating apps. I’m not gonna lie I’m kinda picky when it comes to dating only because I plan on dating to marry…so I take it a bit more seriously. But for some reason it’s so hard to click with people on these dating apps. So my friend was helping me through this dating apps process. I told her that I wasn’t interested in this guy I was texting anymore because of the way he was responding to my messages. And she says maybe you’re gay…this is honestly the sixth time (I’m definitely over exaggeration but this isn’t the first time someone had said this to me) someone has ask/said this. Every time someone says this it literally sends me down this spiral of are they seeing something I’m not seeing. Despite never having a crush on a girl my mind goes down this loop of overthinking. And when I say I don’t want that lifestyle or I don’t really find pleasure in being apart of the lgbtq community my mind is like in denial. I just wanted to have a fun teenage dating experience and now every time I open the app I always think what if I really am gay and I’m just in denial…or what if the reason why I’m not connecting with anyone is because I’m really into girls. Since i’m also religious, my mom wants to go what you’re denying who we are because of your religion. And I tried to reassure myself by saying I would know if that was the case like I would feel deep down who I’m truly attracted to and know that I’m trying to cover it up by dating men. This whole thing is so mentally taxing because I was going through this all throughout my senior year of high school and I’m not going into my freshman year of college so. Like I literally felt so much anxiety next to one of my classmates who was gay and a masculine presenting. I feel like if I would’ve told this to anyone, they’d say of course you’re in denial. But ig reply if you can relate
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I feel like the thoughts and feelings are getting stronger, to the point where they feel like they are my own and that I want them and want them to happen. Recently I’ve even had feelings of ‘wanting to be gay’ and that I ‘don’t want to be straight’, or that being with a woman would be nice even though that’s literally the one thing I don’t want otherwise I wouldn’t be constantly thinking about it day after day surely and if I wanted it I would just know? I feel numb and sick and terrified that I’ll just be what I’ve feared all this time. Why does my brain do this. I feel like I’ve lost so much already, I couldn’t concentrate on university work and I’ve had to delay my degree for a year, I’ve lost my purpose, and I feel so ashamed that I can’t tell anyone the real reason for it (I just told everyone the course was too much stress and was causing me anxiety) and it just feels like it’s getting worse to the point that it’s actually coming true, and I’m going to have to leave my boyfriend because I can’t be with him anymore. Why do the thoughts sometimes feel good? Why does it feel like real attraction? Why why why does it feel like DISAPPOINTMENT with the idea of never being with a woman wtf this is literally what I don’t want and never have? Even just writing that out my brain is telling me ‘it is’ and ‘I’m lying’ and I just can’t even believe myself anymore. I’ve tried telling myself the whole maybe maybe not but it just doesn’t work. It feels like if I accept I like woman I’ll want to be with one and leave him. Why does the idea of being with a man not fill me with excitement like it used to why do labels terrify me I genuinely just want to give up I still haven’t even told anyone about this cause I just feel like they won’t understand and that they will just think I’m struggling with my sexuality and the worst thing is I don’t even know what I want anymore cause of the thoughts and feelings I don’t know what to believe what if I am actually just struggling with my sexuality cause nothing feels right anymore
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