ROCD

Another attempt at dating, another painful rejection. The rage I feel is compounding, with the furious agony of each rejection stacking up on top of the last.

Sexual Orientation OCD

jdd

Date posted: 2y

I would say I can relate a little bit since I've never been in a relationship and have not even gone on a real date in a long time now and experienced mostly rejection or unrequited feelings in my life but you should definitely be careful with letting the rage boil about this. I would consider speaking to your therapist about it on top of the OCD. I do think it's related to OCD though because it can make you more irritable, at least it does for me anyway.

DaletheWhale

Date posted: 2y

@jdd Yea I’ve gone to therapy for the past 6-7 years but therapists can’t actually stop you from getting rejected nor can they take away the feeling that it causes, especially when it happens over and over again. the best they can do is give you very basic advice and encouragement and hope that eventually your rejection comes to an end, and if it doesn’t, there is no limit to the amount of times someone can essentially tell you “try changing your approach or asking a friend for advice on how to date”

DaletheWhale

Date posted: 2y

Yes, this entire post is about me being angry and upset about being rejected. And I don’t think I get rejected more because I’m a man, I think I face rejection as a man, because when you’re a man you have to make the first move 90% of the time or the woman won’t even know you’re interested. But as men, we have to gamble on the fact that she may be interested based on whatever signals she is putting out. Then we have to be confident, charming, funny, not seem too nervous, enjoying ourselves, picking up on all of her signals and understanding when it’s time to escalate, all while trying not to remember all of the times that we “failed” and got rejected. You have no idea what it’s like, and you never will.

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