Lauv (@ lauvsongs on ig) posted a reel that was really long winded - in part of it he mentioned he said he's been struggling with OCD and anxiety for a long time and obsessive thoughts about his sexuality and how he felt like they weren't real but now he does (?) and wants to be open he's gonna explore that side of himself. As someone who struggled with soocd it was a bit triggering to hear
I don’t understand why he would post that. I feel like as someone with SOOCD, you should be wary of other sufferers triggers. He shouldnt have mentioned having OCD about it imo. I’m sorry if I sound insensitive, that video just made me spiral .
@Mia Mia No I agree with you completely. It’s pretty much saying that our obsessions could become true and it is TERRIFYING to say the least. I think his OCD won, he gave in. Don’t listen to that.
@Kalalalala Yes exactly. It makes me think that if his fear became true then mine definitely will…
My opinion on this is that he must be tired of all these obsessions so maybe he thinks this is the way to make them go away?? Idk, I would never do that (I struggle with hocd myself) because it is terrifying. But obviously it’s triggering because you think “what if I change my mind and wanna try it later?” So I just say to myself that it isn’t true and that I won’t do it EVER even if they feel real. I hope you feel better!
@Kalalalala Honestly just being uncertain and saying "maybe I will maybe I won't" helps me a lot! In this situation in particular it's moreso the fact that it makes me question if I even have ocd or if I was just suppressing thoughts
I just saw the video, it was really triggering and honestly he descrive the simtopms so it does match with OCD, allthough two things I notice is, he really didn't said what he's gonna do exactly so we don't know, maybe when he tries it he would still experience doubt, cause with OCD experimenting to see the truth it's not really a way to get rid off OCD. but yeah other than that, it was really triggering, I don't know what to say I just did the kinsey scale test (I use to do a sexual orientation test but then with fluidity and stuff I just wanted to make sure withthe kinsey) also I know that was a compulsion but Idk, I couldn't helpep, I can't stop having this feeling of me being bi, then again, bi is not a feeling, it's category but then again logic doesn't really helps, so Idk, sorry for the long test
@Perzibal I didn’t watch it completely cuz it was too long lol. But I agree, I don’t think he said what he’s gonna do about it. So we’ll have to wait and see I suppose. And don’t take the Kinsey scale, cuz your OCD can make you feel like you are attracted to the same sex. And I don’t think it’s accurate cuz again, it doesn’t take into account the fact that you suffer from an extreme anxiety disorder.
@Kalalalala - Most of the time I get a 0 so it's reassuring but I did got a 1 a couple of times and I was like ok, that's not that bad, that's basically straight with the unconfortable false atractions, but now after seing that guy's vid I'm like, maybe that one does mean something
That's not reassuring at all lol
@jdd Lol right
I will say, I am a believer of sexuality being fluid and have always thought that there are publicly tons of women who are bi but lean more towards male relationships (or however they prefer) and you rarely hear of men feeling the same way where they might date women but are attracted to men as well.
I've always thought that if sexuality is in fact fluid like many believe today, and I tend to agree that it is as well, then why haven't they figured out how it works still lol. Seems kinda biased because they don't want to for sake of potential abuse but still, there's likely plenty of people who would benefit. Afaik There's still zero conclusive proof or evidence linking born this way genetics or fluidity. Hell, I recently read there's a new possible treatment for people with hypoactive desire disorder in the pipeline that has next to no side effects, why wouldn't sexuality itself be somewhere near where that is located. I think for men they say it's less fluid unfortunately but that honestly doesn't make much sense from a scientific or even evolutionary standpoint why one would be fluid and not the other.
@jdd - Why would that be unfortunate?
I know we’re all triggered but maybe he’s been fluid this whole time, is okay with it, and has OCD about being straight or gay but identifies as bi? We don’t know his story and biphobia is a thing and it comes up with SOOCD a lot where the person feels like they have to pick one or another. Idk just food for thought
@Roses2021 Oh I think you’re onto something. This makes a LOT of sense.
I only want to be with women, but lately I been fearing I'm bi and the biphobia thing is driving me crazy, funny thing is when I was scared of being gay, being bi didn't seem so bad, now it does, feels like the worst thing it could happen to me (no hate on bi people tho, everyone is free to enjoy themselves as they please)
@Perzibal Oh my god I feel the SAME way. I went through the same thing and then I’m mad at myself like “how could you be ok with such a thing”. I hate my brain sometimes lol.
Hmmm I don’t follow him but it sounds like he’s going to explore being bisexual?
@Roses2021 Sounds like it! Which I fully support and it seems like he feels relief, it's just that he said he had sexuality OCD so it was a bit anxiety inducing because it made me wonder if I'm the same and the thoughts are real
@sillygoose1012 Honestly feeling the same kinda! I feel myself trying to figure out his story to see if I relate 😂
@Roses2021 The best thing you guys can do is either watch without trying to relate or just leave it alone
I decided to do some impromptu ERP and watch it. Trying not to dwell on it much or try to compare and contrast.
I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
Hello everyone, I just wanted to share a part of my journey that I’m struggling with right now. I’ve been diagnosed with ocd and while this is not my first subtype, ROCD and so ocd have definitely been the ones I’ve been struggling with the most. For context I have a boyfriend who I love very much and am terrified of loosing. That’s probably what ocd latched onto. The so-ocd especially is tricky because I’ve come to acknowledge that I am bisexual. Don’t worry I didn’t “discover” this through ocd, I’ve always known and it’s been in the back of my mind way before ocd, I had just never really directly acknowledged it because romantically I just always leaned towards men. The thing my ocd latched onto is “what if you are actually a lesbian and don’t know it yet and will have to leave your partner or are lying to your partner or end up leading him on” The thing is, I don’t have much experience with women except kissing my female best friend once, which didn’t feel special or made me have romantic feelings for her. I’ve always seeked men more actively than women and didn’t feel like I was gonna miss out if I get into a serious relationship with a man before having had more experience. I just know that I can be sexually attracted to women as well. But now that I’m in this beautiful relationship I’m terrified of getting it wrong or having missed something about myself or being scared that I’m actually a lesbian and have been lying to myself all along. I’m not seeking reassurance, just wanting to share and maybe someone else is going through something similar? If so I’d be so grateful to know I’m not alone. I love my boyfriend dearly and i really hope we will work out in the long run.
Hey guys, this last week has been pretty rough for me mentally for some reason. Today in particular I’m having a pretty bad episode. For some reason about 30 minutes ago, I randomly started remembering watching the Step Up movies growing up. I remember seeing Channing Tatum in that movie and think he’s attractive, along with some other men I think. Then I started to wonder if that means that I’m into men, because I somewhat remember getting a negative feeling about it from that young age. I looked up on Google if it’s possible to not realize your gay, and the ai thing said yes and started talking about something called latent homosexuality. It also so said that some people start sleeping with a particular before ever actually discovering their sexuality. This makes me want to take a panted homosexual test, or something. Lately I’ve also been wanting to dive into my past with my therapist to try to see where my “ocd” stems from (if I even have it) or if I’m truly gay and have just be conditioned to be straight. I’ve been spiralling guys and I need was honesty and wisdom. Can anybody help me ?
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