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I personally think your doing yourself a disservice to yourself to label yourself as bi. Your not fully exposing yourself to your fear. I get it though, you really want to be free. But the only way to do that is through ERP therapy.
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I called myself gay for a while really believing I was gay. Turns out I’m not gay and it was the HOCD. However, telling people I was gay and receiving a reaction of warmth and acceptance made me feel less gay. Took away some of the shame. OCD uses shame as a weapon.
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I wrote a coming out letter to friends and family. It wasn’t deliberate therapy either. I was so in my OCD that I believed it. Afterwards, I was like, “I don’t feel gay anymore.” So confusing at first but now it makes more sense to me.
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I did the exact same thing a couple months ago!
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I would strongly advice you to get diagnosed. A proper formal treatment and therapy would be really helpful, you would not regret. Using this app, searching answers online, and pondering by yourself is temporary relief, reassurances and compulsions and you would be stuck in this loop forever. Do you want to be asking questions in this app for years and years? The sooner you begin on treatment, the faster you will see how easy it becomes to cope with it. Trust me, people have wasted their entire lives with OCD by not deciding to get diagnosed.
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Get in touch with a psychiatrist first and tell All your symptoms, like ALL of them. Psychiatrist will be the best to know what therapist is best for you and is also best for deciding for you if you need any meds or what meds will be best for you. Meds might sound not pleasant, but meds are really, like really helpful with OCD. At the end of the day, it is not you but your hyperactive frontal cortex that is putting you through this struggle. And meds chemically will calm your brain. Look up the difference between people with OCD brain and normal brain.
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Okay thank you!
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This is all just so confusing to me. I keep feeling like I’m lesbian but there’s no evidence of that. I’ve never wanted a relationship with a girl or anything. Yeah I think they could be really pretty and sometimes even hot. But I still never thought “Oo I wanna have sex with her, I wanna hug her and kiss her” and I’m I haven’t Ik that. Ik I can’t be lesbian. I’ve crushed on boys my whole life, wanted a boyfriend, wanted to have sex with them. All of that. But I hate that I keep questioning this.
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I’m just so frustrated with this , I also can’t stop googling questions. When Ik it just fuels my anxiety even more. But then I think what if I’m in denial and I’m trying to not find evidence that I’m lesbian.
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Do you have a therapist?
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No. I have thought about getting one. But im afraid they’d tell me it’s not ocd.
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Have you been formally diagnosed?
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No but I have experienced thoughts like this in the past.
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What are you getting at? Do you think it isn’t ocd??
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Okay thank you, uhm what would you advice what kind of therapist I get?
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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hi i’m a lesbian! and i have known im a lesbian for a really long time and i have a sweet girlfriend of 1 year. it all started when i saw this masc lesbian come out as straight, after that i had my guy friend over and he’s a sweet guy and he was flirting with me (he didn’t know i was gay) im not sure but i panicked and my brain froze and i was like “do i like him”, ever since my brain has been over worked 24/7 for 2 months now and it’s spiralling constantly. im trying to control it but all these thoughts are so disgusting and my brain tries to put him and i in scenarios that make me uncomfortable and i feel panic and i hate it. i have always been comfortable being a lesbian and i still am comfortable as a lesbian, but i dislike these thoughts i have about him and men and i want it to be over. i do not want to experiment with men even tho my brain is telling me i do, i find it disgusting and i dread it, i have a sweet girlfriend and i want to be with her forever, i do not imagine anything with any men and i hate these thoughts. im scared of becoming bisexual/straight one day and i hate hearing sexuality is fluid. its a whole mix of comphet and so-ocd
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Hello everyone, I just wanted to share a part of my journey that I’m struggling with right now. I’ve been diagnosed with ocd and while this is not my first subtype, ROCD and so ocd have definitely been the ones I’ve been struggling with the most. For context I have a boyfriend who I love very much and am terrified of loosing. That’s probably what ocd latched onto. The so-ocd especially is tricky because I’ve come to acknowledge that I am bisexual. Don’t worry I didn’t “discover” this through ocd, I’ve always known and it’s been in the back of my mind way before ocd, I had just never really directly acknowledged it because romantically I just always leaned towards men. The thing my ocd latched onto is “what if you are actually a lesbian and don’t know it yet and will have to leave your partner or are lying to your partner or end up leading him on” The thing is, I don’t have much experience with women except kissing my female best friend once, which didn’t feel special or made me have romantic feelings for her. I’ve always seeked men more actively than women and didn’t feel like I was gonna miss out if I get into a serious relationship with a man before having had more experience. I just know that I can be sexually attracted to women as well. But now that I’m in this beautiful relationship I’m terrified of getting it wrong or having missed something about myself or being scared that I’m actually a lesbian and have been lying to myself all along. I’m not seeking reassurance, just wanting to share and maybe someone else is going through something similar? If so I’d be so grateful to know I’m not alone. I love my boyfriend dearly and i really hope we will work out in the long run.
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