You ever listen to a recording of yourself and think wow do I actually sound sort of girly (or manly if you’re a woman)? And maybe everyone thinks so but just doesn’t want to tell me?? (Also I say the word “like” a lot which rn feels like it could point to sounding effeminate, idk.) I know it’s super shallow but geez stuff like this gets to me sometimes
Totally understand that! I have those same thoughts myself sometimes. But then I tell myself “maybe, maybe not” and that helps me move on
Same thoughts for me too
I think everyone gets this. But then with OCD so does everything else. "I hate sports. Does that make me effeminate?" "Remember that time you put a girl mates high heels on for a laugh? Was it a joke, or did I want to wear them?" "Remember when you felt nervous and couldn't pluck up the courage to take that girl home? That's a bit gay." What my OCD won't take into consideration is the 1000 crushes I had on girls growing up, or the umpteen times I took pleasure from staring at women's cleavage.
I would record my voice in an effeminate way on purpose to play out there fear and expose myself. Do “gay” things deliberately when you choose. Don’t wait for OCD. You gain some power back from OCD.
Yeah I have those thoughts
It’s actually super common to sound more “feminine” after hearing yourself in a recording/video. The reason is our vocal chords sound so deep to us as we speak but afterwards we can sound a lot like mickey mouse. There a many jokes about it on social media because especially for men we like to have a deeper voice but it’s funny how we sound nothing like when we speak. no need to worry! also in regards to your use of “like” a lot, try not to pay too much attention to it. in my last relationship my ex and I developed each others vocabulary and she obviously has far different ones than i do and i just sort of started speaking like her at one point. has nothing to do with sounding girly. you may not realize it but one you hear certain words or phrases over and over you tend to just stick with it and it means absolutely nothing.
Does anyone else think 'Maybe I'm talking because deep down I want attention. And I want the attention all on me.' this terrifies me because what if its the truth? I then worry when I speak I'm only speaking to get attention. I don't know if this is ocd or its the truth! And if it's the truth then I am scared I am a selfish, self absorbed person craving attention for others because I don't like myself. And that's when I worry it is true, that I look to others to like me so I will feel better. These thoughts have popped up the last 3 weeks and I'm so worried 😔😔tired and worried and scared
I can't stand the words that come out of my mouth and the way I act. I find myself so annoying/irritating. It's so hard to live with myself. My thoughts make sense and then my words come out wrong. I just sound annoying and I can't get past it. I cringe from my own sentences so often. I don't know how to get past this. Anyone have any advice?
I was laying in bed and my head started to turn again. It was like one second I was so sure and I was comfortable and the next my world turned upside down. I’m am a very feminine person but I’m also tall and a little over weight. Because of this my mind with tell me I look masculine. Because I’m not dainty and small. Or even the way my hair is styled can make me feel like I look like a lesbian. Or even my posture or how I do certain actions. I then started to google things about feeling like I look masculine and it was all people who came out of the closet and stuff. I know I shouldn’t be googling things, I should know better by now.
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