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Textbook HOCD. Ignore the thoughts, don’t fight them, the more you resist it persists. Let them flow through you, they are just thoughts, nothing more nothing less. Thoughts are NOT our true inner desires when you have OCD, but me saying that will make you doubt you have HOCD, which in itself is a symptom of HOCD. Say “Thanks for the thought brain” and move on with your day. It’s hard, but the more you practice, it’ll start to fade away.
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I hope this helps and it's not triggering, but I'm a girl and every now and then I'll notice a girl that looks attractive. But the thing is, our minds are drawn to pretty things. Attraction does not equal sexual attraction. I can be "attracted" to a lamp, but that doesn't mean I want to have babies with it lol. It just means I think it looks nice. And I used to have HOCD, how I got over it was by what he had said. (Although my HOCD isn't as severe as my current OCD) but I was able to tell myself, "she looks nice" and move on. So now years later when I get those thoughts I simply acknowledge them and don't worry about it. Because he's right, they are just thoughts and they don't mean anything. I know it can be difficult, but keep reminding yourself "thoughts are just thoughts" that's CBT and it helps ?
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Yes they just thoughts however difficult. I get hocd thoughts and I treat them like a suicidal thoughts I get from time to time. I dont need to act on it. The calmer I stay the less it bothers me. The fear reaction tells our brain the thought is important so it keeps sending it back to us.
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If I see another guy and think he's attractive thats ok. Im human and no need to read into it. Ive met guys before and we hit it off immediately and had chemistry. One time it was one of my girlfriend at the times male friends and she made fun of me for having a bromance
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Sometimes I see beautiful little girl and think they are attractive, doesnt mean I want to try and marry them
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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I won’t explain this again if you’ve been or going through it you know what I’m talking about. I felt good about women about an hour ago and now I’m worrying again I’m anxious and the groinals are back and it’s so annoying because I can’t study. And honestly I’m so sick and tired of this. I’ve been a girl crazy my whole life and my mind randomly decides “well what if you are gay” like bro. I’ve never seen a guy that way and in general IT WAS NEVER SOMETHING I THOUGHT ABOUT OR ASSOCIATED MYSELF WITH. IVE NEVER FELT ANYTHING TOWARDS A MAN AND NOW IT FEELS LIKE IT RANDOMLY FLIPPED. I CANT DO THIS BRO. WHY WOULD THIS HAPPEN IVE BEEN GOING THROUGH INSECURITIES ALREADY AND MY ATTRACTION WAS THE ONLY REAL THING I HAD LEFT AND NOW THIS. HOW MUCH DO YOU HATE ME GOD.
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