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Textbook HOCD. Ignore the thoughts, don’t fight them, the more you resist it persists. Let them flow through you, they are just thoughts, nothing more nothing less. Thoughts are NOT our true inner desires when you have OCD, but me saying that will make you doubt you have HOCD, which in itself is a symptom of HOCD. Say “Thanks for the thought brain” and move on with your day. It’s hard, but the more you practice, it’ll start to fade away.
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I hope this helps and it's not triggering, but I'm a girl and every now and then I'll notice a girl that looks attractive. But the thing is, our minds are drawn to pretty things. Attraction does not equal sexual attraction. I can be "attracted" to a lamp, but that doesn't mean I want to have babies with it lol. It just means I think it looks nice. And I used to have HOCD, how I got over it was by what he had said. (Although my HOCD isn't as severe as my current OCD) but I was able to tell myself, "she looks nice" and move on. So now years later when I get those thoughts I simply acknowledge them and don't worry about it. Because he's right, they are just thoughts and they don't mean anything. I know it can be difficult, but keep reminding yourself "thoughts are just thoughts" that's CBT and it helps ?
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Yes they just thoughts however difficult. I get hocd thoughts and I treat them like a suicidal thoughts I get from time to time. I dont need to act on it. The calmer I stay the less it bothers me. The fear reaction tells our brain the thought is important so it keeps sending it back to us.
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If I see another guy and think he's attractive thats ok. Im human and no need to read into it. Ive met guys before and we hit it off immediately and had chemistry. One time it was one of my girlfriend at the times male friends and she made fun of me for having a bromance
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Sometimes I see beautiful little girl and think they are attractive, doesnt mean I want to try and marry them
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I’m trying to live with uncertainty but it doesn’t feel right. The “I may or may not be bi/gay” really sucks because I can’t stop ruminating, analyzing, or checking. This especially sucks because I feel like literally EVERYTHING in my life leads to the fact that I’m a fraud which feels horrible. I can’t even talk to my friends the way I used to without feeling like I’m lying about myself. The false attraction and loss of attraction to men is literally horrible because now I feel like the life i fantasized for myself isn’t something I want.
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I had a bad rumination spiral yesterday and went to bed hoping I’d start over in the morning. I was wrong. I had dreams about liking women and not being attracted to men anymore and my entire body has been in a state of anxiety since. I genuinely feel like I’m gay and just need to accept it. I have this urge to accept it. Maybe if I do I’ll get some sort of relief because this feeling is awful. I feel like my brain is telling me that I’ll get relief if I just accept it and come out. The intrusive thoughts don’t even seem to be around sexual images anymore, just to come out.
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I am very depressed right now. I really feel like maybe I’ve always been a lesbian and never knew. I never questioned my sexuality when I was young, never wanted to explore, I just was straight and didn’t think anything about it, that’s just what it was. I had my first soocd spiral in late high school but didn’t have a name for it, just that I was having intrusive thoughts and it was killing me that maybe I was gay. I can’t exactly remember how I got out of that but I continued to have crushes, talking stages, and dated. It went away and that was that I guess. Looking back now I definitely was still avoiding content and certain people, and still had intrusive thoughts but didn’t think I was gay. I guess they were less sticky. Something about me is that I’ve never had a boyfriend and I’m a virgin. I’m very shy and romanticize things like I love the relationships and scenarios I read about or that I see in movies or the thirst traps online haha. So I want that irl but am disappointed when that doesn’t happen. I have a very interactive daydream (started when I was 13 and still continued that fantasy world now too) with a boyfriend, friends, and a prettier version of me. I enjoyed making up scenarios about sex or romance in those daydreams and fantasies, but when it came to real life, I would get shy or scared when things were starting to get serious with men. I thought maybe this was an avoidant attachment style but now I’m not sure. I never considered female fantasies and I still don’t want to right now. I want to test and see which one I like better, but I’m afraid I’ll find that I’m a lesbian and I really don’t want that. Ive always imagined myself with a man but now I’m worried about comphet. I’m really depressed and I can’t tell because yes, I find some women attractive whether it’s their makeup, face, body, aesthetic, but I never thought that meant I was attracted to them in a sexual or romantic way until this spiral. Now I’m afraid of masc lesbians and pretty women because it triggers me. But I’m also afraid because I feel like I can look at attractive men, but I don’t feel the same way anymore. I can’t even daydream about them bc then my brain inserts a woman. I’m really scared that I’ve lost myself, because I truly feel like I have, but I don’t want to explore with women, I just want to like men, I’ve always liked that idea. But so many lesbians talk about liking celebrities, fantasy men, or just attractive men. Sorry for the rant but I’m struggling a lot right now. I feel like all my memories, even the ones that directly contradict being a lesbian, can be explained away by comphet, internal homophobia, denial, suppression, etc. When I do try and accept uncertainty, sometimes it feels ok, but then something will trigger me and I’m back at square one. I’m afraid if I take my meds I’ll discover something about myself that I don’t want to because I’ve always been depressed and avoidant of life because it never lives up to my expectations. My sexuality is on my mind 24/7! I can’t take it!
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