Mr. Solo Dolo

Date posted: 2y

Attraction

Is anyone able to tell me the difference between attraction and false attraction? For the last few years I’ve been getting intrusive thoughts and men and a stuff, but it never truly bothered me because I knew I was straight. I’ve always noticed good looking men, but never thought anything of it. But, ever since my HOCD appeared, I’ve noticed good looking men to the highest degree. My intrusive thoughts make me feel like I’m attracted to these men (I hope it’s intrusive thoughts at least). I’ve had HOCD for almost two months, and my improvement with anxiety has been pretty good. Not a lot of aspects of my HOCD bothers me anymore. The thing that bothers me the most, is seeing men as attractive and feeling like I’m attracted to them now. So, again, is anyone able to tell me the difference between attraction and false attraction.

Sexual Orientation OCD

lyn lyn

Date posted: 2y

I read before that when you’re experiencing false attraction you’ll feel anxious and depressed about it, however if it was real attraction you won’t feel these negative emotions, you will feel happy about it Remember that OCD attacks your high values and your true self, if you’re having annoying unwanted thoughts about being attracted to men, then that means you are straight, because if you were actually attracted to men, OCD won’t trigger that for you Hope this is helpful

Mr. Solo Dolo

Date posted: 2y

@lyn lyn Oh okay. Yeah I don’t feel depressed about it, but I do have negative feelings towards it. Thanks for this🙏🏾

lyn lyn

Date posted: 2y

@DGP-rider555 I’m not really sure tbh cuz I’m also still struggling with it, but I think when I have false attraction I always deny it and start to argue about it in my head and feel the urge to prove it’s wrong and whenever I see the person I’m having false attraction on I feel anxious and I just want to avoid them, but when I’m really attracted to someone, I feel happy and at peace and I look forward to meet them and I don’t have the urge to deny it cuz I actually love this feeling Remember that OCD may trick you that you actually love that false attraction and enjoying it, the key is not to argue with OCD thoughts and just be like “yeah whatever, maybe maybe not”, trick your mind that you don’t care about it and the thoughts won’t be as strong as it used to be

lyn lyn

Date posted: 2y

@DGP-rider555 Whenever you find yourself stuck in a loop in your mind, know that it’s OCD and not real attraction

Mr. Solo Dolo

Date posted: 2y

@DGP-rider555 For example when I see an attractive man, I’ll like shake my head in like shame that I think he’s attractive, or I’ll ask my self things like, “I don’t want to be attracted to him”. I feel like generally just being upset about it is a negative reaction.

lyn lyn

Date posted: 2y

@Mr. Solo Dolo Shaking head and denying are compulsions that will make your OCD worse, I know it’s hard to stop them but you gotta do your best

abib1001

Date posted: 2y

I agree w/ everyone on this thread and to add my false attraction jumps from person to person. I get intrusive thoughts about multiple women and when I have crushes it’s usually one at a time/ long-lasting. Sometimes my thoughts will be like you’re going to marry this girl or I force myself to imagine sex w/ them

abib1001

Date posted: 2y

@Mr. Solo Dolo Literally last night I saw this girl I knew of at a party and when I went to sleep my thoughts were raging about thoughts about her. I only saw her for like 2 minutes it’s just insane 😭 in reality we know what we go through is irrational but it still feels real at the same time… I haven’t felt like myself in a long time. Or at least who I think I am

Mr. Solo Dolo

Date posted: 2y

@abib1001 Yeah man I hate it so much. Now when I see women I’m like, “Damn, she’s cute as hell!” Or something, then my thoughts are like, “Oh really? She’s cute eh? But what if that’s the same type of attraction you feel for men? m I bisexual?” Then I just turns me away from the woman. It’s literally the worst.

Anonymous

Date posted: 2y

@Mr. Solo Dolo I know what your saying man. I feel that exactly. I see all these attractive women and my OCD is like nope. I ain’t gonna let you have fun with that and then it pisses me off

[Deleted]

Date posted: 2y

Comment deleted by user

Mr. Solo Dolo

Date posted: 2y

@DGP-rider555 Yeah bro. Like I noticed now I fixate on men a lot. I know I’m not supposed to, but I’ve watched videos and tried to imagine myself in sexual situations with men, but I never get aroused. But then when I see men with attractive faces I get anxious. I don’t know man, if that aspect went away. Then my HOCD would probably go away.

jdd

Date posted: 2y

I kind of want to know what attraction ocd is capable of creating in terms of false attraction because I'm feeling like I notice it all except for romantic

Googlyeyes34

Date posted: 22w

False attraction

False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true

Anonymous

Date posted: 20w

SOCD false attraction

hey guys, i’m almost fully healed in my socd journey but what’s stopping me is the false atractions. i get them almost 24/7 at this point and to every thing. they feel real and i hate them they make me feel disgusted. they also make me feel like hot and gross but then i see people saying thats what attractions feel like, but i have felt so much attraction to the opposite gender pre all of this and it felt nice and enjoyable not digustinf. i’m also getting false memory trying to show me ‘signal’ from my childhood to prove i’m gay amd i truly don’t know if they’re real. it’s so degrading and at this point i feel like govining up. pelesse if you have any advice or even if your going through the same thing just let me know. ocd is so terrible

What is happ...

Date posted: 17w

YOUR EXPERIENCE IN FALSE ATTRACTION

Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.

Sexual Orientation OCD

Be a part of the largest OCD Community

Share your thoughts so the Community can respond

Attraction

Related posts

Be a part of the largest OCD Community

Be a part of the largest OCD Community