- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Non ocd related
Hi guys need some advice, I’ve been having some relationship problems where my partner is in med school and works 12 hours a day mostly. It’s hard to spend alot of time together, but we try to see each other once a week and it’s been kind of hard on me because my love language is quality time and I love to spend time with him but I only saw him for 2 hours last week and it’s been a bit on more on the hard end for me. I understand he works and I’ve been trying to be understanding and I told him to come stay a night with me after his work but he says he’s so drained and that he likes to go home so he can just fully relax. I feel hurt that he can’t even spend a night with me where I can cook for him, and give him cuddles so he relax but when I addressed that he says I’m complaining about him and that I’m not understanding of his situation and how tired he feels because of work. I feel hurt and I’m taking it personal and I don’t know we see each other once a week maybe for a few hours but I want more time with him but med school has been so hard for him and for our relationship. He tells me right now I’m not being appreciative of him really trying to put in effort in us seeing each other even after his work but I don’t know I feel hurt that he doesn’t want to spend a night with me but rather go home and lay on his couch with his fam there. I did mention that if he’s so tired why does he sit with his fam then instead of coming to spend time with me and spend a night but he gets mad that I say that so any advice would be helpful please because I want to know if I’m in the wrong and if I need to work on myself :(