Fukabosi
- Date posted
- 2y
Simple question
How do you deal with the false attraction thing? How can we reduce it??
Luke33:)Luke33:)
- Date posted
- 2y
You have to lean into it. Trying to reduce it will increase it. You have to against instinct when battling OCD. Don’t run away. Run towards the discomfort. It is very difficult but will work in the long run if you stick to the principle.
FukabosiFukabosi
- Date posted
- 2y
When you feel like you are attracted to every men out there(romantically and platonically), how should we react, what are we supposed to do.at the moment??
Luke33:)Luke33:)
- Date posted
- 2y
Embrace the notion that you may be attracted to the man. Maybe you are. Maybe you’re not. And sit with it. It’s not fun but I believe it’s the only way through this. Try not to check either. Living with the uncertainty FEELS impossible but it is not. I’ve been there in the past many times. Completely stuck. And now I’m not.
FukabosiFukabosi
- Date posted
- 2y
How do you stay completely uncertain? I mean I Don't pay attention to my thoughts, I just let them be in my head without analysing them but I can't stop thinking about it, all day all night this ocd is on my mind, and in addition to that, I can't stop checking whether I'm aroused by a girl or not(but I don'tcheck that with boys I just automatically check whether I'm attracted to girls or not)
Luke33:)Luke33:)
- Date posted
- 2y
I get it! I really do. My HOCD has been so bad at times I’ve ended marriages and actually tried coming out as gay. But I’m married to a woman again and content. Never totally sure though. ERP work if you dig in will reduce the intensity over time. During bad flare ups it is impossible for ignore. When you get to a place where the thoughts are annoying as opposed to crippling then there is success. I have doubts about this subject every single day. It doesn’t stop but it can sorta fade into the background. Are you doing exposure work?
FukabosiFukabosi
- Date posted
- 2y
It is impossible to get a therapist for ocd in my country so I just hang ou with my friends, wtach male YouTubers as exposure work, When I think of my male friends I feel like I'm attracted to all of them but at that time I say may be, i don't care and sit with the anxiety and discomfort even though it feels so real, but I feel like I'm slowly getting my female attraction back but when I try to think of a female my brain says "you wnat to be with a men you don't see yourself with a women" there are still thoughts and anxiety but now I can sit with the discomfort, we you know any better ways to deal with this, please help me, I want to get over this as soon as possible, can you give me some exposure works if it is possible
Luke33:)Luke33:)
- Date posted
- 2y
Sounds like you have the right idea. I’m not sure if it is ethical to give you exposure work. I am not a therapist. You can get therapy through this app. What country are you from?
FukabosiFukabosi
- Date posted
- 2y
Nepal🇳🇵, if you know, it is not possible to get therapist even from here(this app)
Hồng AnhHồng Anh
- Date posted
- 2y
I want to know too
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Anonymous
- Date posted
- 17w
groinals/ false attraction feeling stronger then
actual attrcation. i’ve decided im gonna just let the false attraction happen, not try to stop it or question it. is it wrong for this erp to juts when i watch a video and get a false attraction just experience the false feelings and scroll? because i feel like the longer i sit with it the longer i begin to question whether its real or not.
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