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- 2y
In need of advice
Hi! I need some advice and can’t see my therapist for a few weeks because I am on vacation. Basically I have ROCD and some other themes and recently I’ve been focused on the need to confess porn I watched as a kid to my partner. Some of it had pretty disturbing themes and I’ve already confessed most of it to him because I haven’t been able to stop the compulsion. I convince myself that he needs to know because it could change how he feels about me and about the relationship. Anyway every time I confess I feel momentary relief and then just remember more stuff I want to tell him. I know I need to stop if I ever want to feel better but I feel like such a disgusting and horrible person. It’s gotten to the point where even relatively normal and common types of porn I came across as a teen I still feel like I have to confess. I know that I don’t expect him to tell me everything he’s watched and I would never judge him for stuff like that that he saw a long time ago especially because I know fantasy and actually wanting to act on stuff aren’t the same but I still can’t convince myself it’s okay not to tell him. Has anyone dealt with something similar and have advice for getting through this. It feels like the only thing I can think about.