Fluidity

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I think as humans we feel the need to label everything to try and understand some of the overwhelming complexities of our world/existence. But when it comes down to it, these labels are merely guidelines and every individual is different/unique. This especially applies with sexuality. Of course, this is how my rational mind thinks. :) I'm also dealing with SOOCD and I totally understand that fluidity can sound scary. It's the opposite of certainty! Terrifying for OCD. I think bbqandchilli 's point about lack of research is a good one. There is no ONE answer that explains the key to human sexuality. That is not satisfying to the Ocd, but it can be a real relief when you think about it. When your OCD is convincing you you're just in denial because you read some article/testimonial or statistic that "proves" you really must be the orientation you fear being, you can remind yourself that the research/proof is sorely lacking, and you are the only YOU out there! No one else's experience or research study can explain who you are. So fluidity can also be that freedom to be your true self, the one you've known well all along, but that the Ocd is trying to force into hiding.

This concept is scary to me too

As a bi person who has huge soocd, it can be tough. I'm always convinced I'm either gay or straight. But I try to remind myself that fluidity is a good thing! It's freedom, it means liking one gender doesn't cancel out liking another

In fluid I am on the feminist side of things like I love women then I discovered trans women and now there are some that are so feminine and they don’t have breasts. I like the female gender regardless of sex and it goes to fem to hyper fem and my ocd kicks in when I start going to the trans women without breasts and it’s like you must be gay even though I know I’m not one way hundred percent