- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
@phoenix2020 I only ask Bc I do get doubts about my current bf but Ik I love him I just have ocd
- Date posted
- 6y
Tell yourself it didn't work out with ex's because it wasn't meant to be. Everything happens for a reason what is meant to be will be. How I look at my last relationships and my ex's is that they taught me lessons. Not sure if this helps.
- Date posted
- 6y
I’d tell my brain, “you’re right, i could have stuck around longer and continued in those relationships. But I didn’t. And I’m here now and have a boyfriend I love. So I accept that I’ll never know what might have happened had I stayed.” And accept the uncertainty.
- Date posted
- 6y
You can either think and say everything happens for a reason and one thing leads to another until you reach the next destination...Or you can laugh at it and say as Barney says in HIMUM “New is always better” :)
- Date posted
- 6y
I’m just scared Bc now it’s like “if he came back tmrw would u go for him” and I’m scared and worried and ugh
- Date posted
- 6y
First of all nothing to be scared of...Secondly try to differentiate between an obsession/trigger and a fact about your feelings...if you re just feeling bad that you see yourself with your EX if he decides to come back while you re with your new BF then use exposure/imagination and bring up the level of panic by seeing it as if it already happens...BUT if you re having doubts about your current relation and thats the trigger for your thoughts then its a different story
- Date posted
- 6y
Wdym it’s a different story? I don’t want to love my ex and I hate having these thoughts
- Date posted
- 6y
Then my dear its just another ocd trick that you dont have to worry about...try To do the exercise...this thought comes because of a certain trigger...use the exposure technic and with time it goes away...nothing to be scared of or worried about
- Date posted
- 6y
But what did u mean by current relation and having doubts?
- Date posted
- 6y
When in doubt, always treat it as OCD.
- Date posted
- 6y
@aholcomb17...i am so sorry if you felt that i was questioning your doubts...i didnt mean that...i know that you love your bf...we all that have the honor of fighting the Ocd battle get to go this dark tunnel and sometimes cant see the light and then doubts start attacking us from everywhere...just close your eyes and search for the light at the end of the tunnel and by seeing it through yourself you can rest assured that no doubt can change the fact of who you are and what you feel...your love is so genuine that you sometimes make yourself feel these doubts just to make sure that you re giving everything you have...dont judge yourself because of OCD...thats the main fuel it lives on...
Related posts
- Date posted
- 21w
So i had really bad pure ocd but recently it’s been sooo much better but i’m in a relationship and me and my bf dated before about 2 years ago then we broke up and now we are back together but i’m having an issue where i will try to go back years and find something i did wrong and i really do not want to find anything to feel wrong about or guilty specifically something i may have done wrong to my boyfriend but the thing is i’m a good girlfriend and i’m very loyal so i don’t want to ruin something for me because of my past if that makes sense like i can’t remember doing anything wrong but my brain keeps going are u sure let’s look at all your interactions with people and it’s so annoying i just wanna live my life in the present does anyone have any tips
- Date posted
- 19w
Hi everyone! I have been having a rough time. So my boyfriend talks to his ex still as friends and I’ve been struggling with it lately and I can’t tell if it’s OCD or not but it does feel so distressing. She wasn’t texting him for about 2-3 months as she got into a relationship with this guy and they broke up. She had messaged him saying that she has no one else to talk to and needed to vent to someone. At first I felt okay, but my intrusive thoughts took over and it seemed like she was trying to get with him after the fact. It’s probably just my intrusive thoughts talking but he looks on Discord (the app where the message) constantly now and my intrusive thoughts convince me that he’s still in love with her. Then yesterday I saw one of his BeReals (a little photo app that shows a photo of the day) and I saw that he was watching one of her streams as she is a streamer. I struggled to talk about it because it made my worst thought feel like it came true where he is still in love with her. When we talked he gets a lil mad that I don’t tell him right away like straight up what I’m feeling but it’s hard to process because my thoughts flood in of all the worst things and I don’t want to come off as toxic at all and I know relationships are built on trust and I want to trust because this is literally the only thing that makes me nervous about him. It also doesn’t help that I’ve been cheated on before so I’m trying to protect myself but I’m lost. I get so depressed and so anxious because I feel like I have to grieve the relationship and it’s just so dramatic. I’ve never loved anyone like this before and I don’t wanna lose him by bringing this stuff up constantly when something occurs with his ex. I don’t know why I get triggered so easily and I just wanna heal from it and be the good girlfriend I’m supposed to be 😭
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 19w
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond