My ocd is bringing up ex’s and it’s like “love is a choice u guys could have worked out if u made it work” but I love my bf now and ugh any advice or tips?

@phoenix2020 I only ask Bc I do get doubts about my current bf but Ik I love him I just have ocd

Tell yourself it didn't work out with ex's because it wasn't meant to be. Everything happens for a reason what is meant to be will be. How I look at my last relationships and my ex's is that they taught me lessons. Not sure if this helps.

I’d tell my brain, “you’re right, i could have stuck around longer and continued in those relationships. But I didn’t. And I’m here now and have a boyfriend I love. So I accept that I’ll never know what might have happened had I stayed.” And accept the uncertainty.

You can either think and say everything happens for a reason and one thing leads to another until you reach the next destination...Or you can laugh at it and say as Barney says in HIMUM “New is always better” :)

I’m just scared Bc now it’s like “if he came back tmrw would u go for him” and I’m scared and worried and ugh

First of all nothing to be scared of...Secondly try to differentiate between an obsession/trigger and a fact about your feelings...if you re just feeling bad that you see yourself with your EX if he decides to come back while you re with your new BF then use exposure/imagination and bring up the level of panic by seeing it as if it already happens...BUT if you re having doubts about your current relation and thats the trigger for your thoughts then its a different story

Wdym it’s a different story? I don’t want to love my ex and I hate having these thoughts

Then my dear its just another ocd trick that you dont have to worry about...try To do the exercise...this thought comes because of a certain trigger...use the exposure technic and with time it goes away...nothing to be scared of or worried about

But what did u mean by current relation and having doubts?

When in doubt, always treat it as OCD.

@aholcomb17...i am so sorry if you felt that i was questioning your doubts...i didnt mean that...i know that you love your bf...we all that have the honor of fighting the Ocd battle get to go this dark tunnel and sometimes cant see the light and then doubts start attacking us from everywhere...just close your eyes and search for the light at the end of the tunnel and by seeing it through yourself you can rest assured that no doubt can change the fact of who you are and what you feel...your love is so genuine that you sometimes make yourself feel these doubts just to make sure that you re giving everything you have...dont judge yourself because of OCD...thats the main fuel it lives on...