ROCD

Does anyone else’s OCD take things and run with them? For example, my boyfriend got annoyed with me recently and responded kind of rudely to a question I asked him. I told him that wasn’t fair and he agreed and apologized immediately. But now I keep ruminating on it that maybe this is just him revealing his true self now that we’ve been together for a while. Maybe the real him is aggressive and he’s going to snap at me in the future and I’m going to be stuck in a relationship that is unhealthy! Also I’m fearing everyone reading this won’t believe me that my relationship is good and they’ll be judging me saying it’s not OCD. Struggling right now.

Relationship OCD

Username: Dani.cDani.c

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

as humans we all have our moments, and sometimes we come off rudely, cause nobody is perfect! to answer your question, my OCD does that all the time!! it takes little things and causes us to catastrophize, think of the worst case and dwell on the what ifs

Username: freiafreia

Date posted: 1y ago

Being rude sometimes is human. At least he agreed when you spoke up and apologized. For me, if you say you are in an overall healthy relationship and don't see real red flags with your partner, that is a really good thing. You both set boundaries and can talk about it. Your partner showed that he can listen to you when you have concerns and even can see and agree to your point. He did not close up and blame you. And you were able to communicate that his behaviour hurt you. So that's a lot if good points!

Username: freiafreia

Date posted: 1y ago

I had a situation with my partner were I was frustrated that he did not want to be intimiate with me. We talked about it and I understood his point. But even a few days later when I wanted to sleep, my brain wanted to ruminate about it and paint a picture were I would never be able to get the intimicy that I want and end up with an unfulfilled sex live. So I feel your point that you are worried sick with the (little?) struggle you have with your partner. I try to remind myself of the real situations I have with my partner.my brains say I will not be able to communicate with him, but I know from our experience together that he is open to listen to me. So I try to neutralize the catastrophic thoughts with more realistic outcomes.

Username: Unique121Unique121

Date posted: 1y ago

@freia Why are you getting upset because he doesn’t want to be intimate with you ?

Username: freiafreia

Date posted: 1y ago

@Unique121 I just felt sad, that he did not want to. Nothing special. I am bad with rejection and criticism. And in general I know it's not bad, if he is not in the mood. But my feelings were still a bit sad and frustrated

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Mine does this too I don’t have much help but just know ur not alone and Ik how frustrating and scary it feels and feeling like others wouldn’t understand cause I get that 100%

Username: Louise b

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

ROCD

I always wonder “what if I’m not attracted to my partner” “what if I still have feelings for other people” “what if I cheated on my partner” “what if my partner cheats on me” “what If my partner annoys me and I don’t actually want to be with him” and I’ll do this so much over and over that I get so worked up I’ll criticize him, over analyze him, feel as though I don’t like him. But then an hour later after I find relief ( from telling him, looking things up, talking to my sisters about it) I’ll be in love with him but I won’t fully feel it because I’ll just be thinking about how I just felt before and how bad it was or anticipate it again for the future. So I’m constantly ruining it for myself, and it hurts so bad because he’s so perfect for me and so kind to me and everything about our relationship is right but my mind tries to convince me of other things and it feels so real.

Relationship OCD

Username: Jen 💛

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD? Advice needed

I continue to get distressing thoughts surrounding my love for my boyfriend and if we are going to work out and are meant to be together because he is of different religious beliefs, and I grew up hearing that doesn’t work in relationships. We have been together nearly two years. I know I love him, and he supports my beliefs and I support him, we have had conversations about it. but my brain goes through intense periods of hyper focusing on the anxiety surrounding it, making me feel like I am going to hurt him, or we are going to break up because of me and our differences. It’s very distressing and I ruminate a lot about him and try to calm myself down by thinking through the situation, a mental compulsion? I know worrying about your partner is normal but I feel like I hyper fixate on the compatability between us and me hurting him and I don’t know if it’s ROCD or if it means we aren’t compatible. It’s upsetting.

Username: anonymous1963

Date posted: 49w ago

Rocd vs reality

How do people recognize the difference between relationship ocd intrusive thoughts and real thoughts about your relationship? I have been in a relationship for about a year, it’s my first long-term relationship and the healthiest, I am almost 20 years old, and I believe I have rocd (I haven’t been diagnosed but it’s pretty clear to me). The main thoughts I get are “what if I’ll lose feelings for my bf?, what if I don’t love him?, what if I’m gonna break his heart?” (it’s never about if he’s cheating on me or anything like that. He is a really great boyfriend and the best person to ever walk into my life, he isn’t toxic or bad in any way towards me or the relationship). Usually these thoughts occur before my period (luteal phase/pms) but I’m on day 6 of my period and I got these thoughts, which usually isn’t the case as I’ve said before. So I went into a spiral cus I believed that since I got these thoughts at a different time in my cycle, they must be true. Deep down I know I love my boyfriend so much, it’s just so hard to navigate whether or not these thoughts are just fake rocd thoughts or what I’m really thinking. Can anyone else relate?

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