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- violetwilder
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Lost job
I had to leave a job for the first time in my life because of OCD/anxiety and I keep ruminating on the uncertainty of getting a new job. How do I get out of the loop of rumination?
I had to leave a job for the first time in my life because of OCD/anxiety and I keep ruminating on the uncertainty of getting a new job. How do I get out of the loop of rumination?
Where a door closes a window opens . Hang in there . Use leaving the job as a learning experience moving forward. Good luck . I have been looking for a job for a while also .
@777Q Thank you 🤍 good luck with your job search!
I am so sorry to hear that. I am so afraid that is going to happen to me, it’s getting harder and harder to keep up. I ruminate all the time. Recently I’ve tried 2 things that do help me at times: trying to be mindful and use your senses to ground yourself and calm. Focus on the now. When I absolutely cannot get relief I find that listening to a podcast or an audiobook helps, but it has to be something that really gets my attention. Feel better ♥️
@DogMom83 I believe in you 🤍 I hope it gets easier. I will use the skills you shared. Thank you!
Oh I am so sorry ! I developed severe rumination because of my marital situation which led to financial issues and me questioning why I got married for a second time ( first marriage lasted 26 years, and was a good marriage). My ruminations began to affect my entire life . That is why I joined NOCD. The best way is to work with a qualified counselor that can help you. I use Volvic Chaperon (Vic). He has been a godsend ! The best way to not ruminate is to just look for another job. I tend to ruminate for hours about tasks I have to do for work, but when I finally start doing them the anxiety etc., goes away. So I have learned to try and refocus by doing the task. They teach you in sales to figure out how many “ No” you get to get to a yes. In my industry I know that for approximately every 10 , we are not buying this year, I get 1 yes. So when I get to my 10th no, I allow myself to believe the next answer will be yes. Maybe you can do something like this in your job search.
@SteveK12 I have my consult with NOCD today so I am hopeful 🤍 thank you for your advice, I’m gonna look for another job and just do it!
I know this is my OCD and it can make me look like a fool. I’m have been married for 7 years to a sweet loving person who has never hurt me. My OCD is telling me he is going to leave me and I’m going to be alone. ( I have recently lost my a love one and had to step away from my family because of money inheritance ) I have recently decided that I have to shut down my business because of economy . I know my OCD is triggered by stress. Stress that I have been suppressing for the last year and I know my brain is just sticking and picking up everything. I hate waking up in the morning and feeling wave of anxiety and uncertainty that it makes it hard for the bed . This morning I had to work myself out of bed and go for a walk with my dog in the park, which helped a lot. I just keep beating myself up because I let myself get to this place. I saw all the signs and I ignored them all. I feel so foolish 🥺 I went through something like this before 2017 and I feel like I’m always going through some level or mental illness that my husband has to help me with and it is so disappointing with myself because why can’t I just have a normal brain. Why can I just have a mind simply works and I don’t have to keep manually shift it out of gears I’m scared my husband and people that I have close to me don’t you say that I’m too much just discard me. And I thought with myself to say that I’m not too much. I’m just going to human experience and that I’m a little bit more. I’m just extremely frustrated. I’m just sad that I’m back at this place again. I’m happy if not as severe as it was when I first had my OCD breakdown, but I’m still disappointed in myself. I should’ve took better care of my mental well-being. I should’ve focused more on that and focusing on other things that knew my mental.
So i’ve been planning to apply for a job that i’ve always wanted to experienced and i’ve been looking at videos regarding that job. I was scrolling on tiktok when i stumbled upon someone on live talking about the job. i had a very bad intrusive thought and my anxious mind told me that in order to be safe, i need to find that exact live and fix the thought. i’ve been scrolling for the past hour and have not been able to find the account. my brain is not linking the job to the intrusive thought. why is this happening 💔
Was wondering if anyone liked to share how they deal with Severe rumination and anxiety , as I’m always looking to Add to my tool box . Thanks 🙏
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