Someone help me please

It seriously sucks after being reassured something but you still can’t stop thinking about it. My bf definitely gets tired of it. I got a therapist and I went to one session and poured my heart out, and I felt guilty, so so guilty after. I need to figure out ways to think that can rationalize my thoughts, but I seriously can’t do that bc I haven’t learned how to. I’m proud of you for trying to understand yourself though! It takes a lot to want to make a change in your life and commit to it. Just like it is to commit to another person. I had trust issues even in my first relationship, and i was young and wondering why I couldn’t just trust him. What I came up with, the most simple shit. Didn’t really help but make me think. The only way to trust someone is to, just. trust. Well yeahhh??? Duh. But if you think about it, the events aren’t actually happening, you’re just thinking about it, they are just thoughts and they are not actions. Now if you figure out your man is making an action you don’t like, that’s when you can talk about it. This is so hard to do, and I’m sayin this as though I can confidently do that. But i cant. I’ve learned and tried to come up with ways of thinking to let things go. And if things aren’t going the way you’d like them to, have a sit down and ask about boundaries. What are things you wouldn’t let slide? Also hearing his can make you more comfortable and confident in being interested with what he wants in your relationship. I so need to take my own advice but your girl is stubborn. Constantly having thoughts is exhausting. Talking and writing about it helps so much though, so you’re taking a step in the right direction!

I do as well…my relationship is semi new and was diagnosed with ocd this year. It has been more than a struggle to try and understand my thoughts. What have you been experiencing?

But then when we’re physically together, I don’t ever want it to end. We live an hour away from each other so see each other on the weekends

It’s so tiring!! I have also been used to trauma and trying not to having really bad thoughts about those traumatic events happening again in my relationship just won’t stop. I’ll hyperfixate on one thing that triggered me and I will NOT let it go. I will just think about it until it pisses me off and I have to say something about it and then it ends in a fight bc I wasn’t thinking rational! I feel the same way about having someone you feel like is everything you want in someone, and that makes it even worse bc then i’m like well whyyyy am doubting him if I feel like he’ll never do anything to hurt me on purpose??? This has been a huge process for me. I just recently moved in with him and you could imagine my ocd during the move !!! Man. I felt like i was never insecure before I as in a relationship and now I feel like i’m judging myself and learning things I never knew about myself. But it’s HARD. I try to talk about how I feel but I don’t wanna come off as insecure or nagging anymore. I just want reassurance. I feel like because of my ocd I cannot let things go because I don’t know if they are true or not and I feel like ??? .

ngl as we speak i’m having anxiety bc he said to me “i had a bad dream” and i said “what was it about?” and he groaned and now im legit overthinking like wtf what it about. why didn’t he wanna tell me? was it involving me and he feels bad about it or was it a dream involving another girl? and he groaned bc he knows that i just wanted to know what i was about. and so now i’m just mad. it’s something i can’t control and and if i knew what it was about and it wasn’t about something i wouldn’t want it to be, i’d be good. but since i don’t know….. like wtf. woke up a couple hours ago man.. just wanna move on with my thoughts.

I am suffering from pure o & anxiety since 2001. I m 20% better now, i hv started carnivore diet, its been 4 days. M hoping to get better as I continue the diet. U can try it too.